Best relationship advice

[Dok_Champa]

Here's another one:  Just be you, genuine you.

[DuMa]

Tread on that one lightly. I've never had any man ask me to be their girlfriend...B UT they have asked me to be their wife.

what a reflection and this is the first time that I'm seeing this about myself.  I never ask any women to be my gf.  It usually happens after sex or after being comfortable with one another for some times and she gets curious to what we were as in what title are we now? 

Some women give first time sex because they don't want to lose the guy.  Some thinks that the BF title somehow will happen after they sleep together for the first time.  Most will be disappointed with these hit and run or hit and ghost cases that you've been hearing about.  I'm guilty of it myself. 

Now if the both of you guys are new to relationship and you lose your virginity together then sure, this new feelings will make you two a couple in an instant.  It just gets harder to get an experienced guy to commit.  This is why nice girls who deals with bad guys tend to get hurt in the end.   

[DuMa]

My advice are usually caters for the men.  I don't give sounding advice to females unless they are my daughter and that is no sex till he puts a ring on it so he wouldn't run away   

So my best advice to men is to sleep around a lot and no care about the relationship part.  It will happen somewhere and somehow during those transitions when you are least expecting it.  Get sex ASAP if possible because she might not be around tomorrow and that is the truth.  Thinking back, I should of bag me so many more females had I only know that I do not have them today.   

[Dok_Champa]

My advice are usually caters for the men.  I don't give sounding advice to females unless they are my daughter and that is no sex till he puts a ring on it so he wouldn't run away   

Yes, agree. Saying "no" is the fastest way to the altar because you're telling him no such thing as "free milk" and a deciding factor if a guy loves you or just playing w/ you. 

[Believe_N_Me]

what a reflection and this is the first time that I'm seeing this about myself.  I never ask any women to be my gf.  It usually happens after sex or after being comfortable with one another for some times and she gets curious to what we were as in what title are we now? 

Some women give first time sex because they don't want to lose the guy.  Some thinks that the BF title somehow will happen after they sleep together for the first time.  Most will be disappointed with these hit and run or hit and ghost cases that you've been hearing about.  I'm guilty of it myself. 

Now if the both of you guys are new to relationship and you lose your virginity together then sure, this new feelings will make you two a couple in an instant.  It just gets harder to get an experienced guy to commit.  This is why nice girls who deals with bad guys tend to get hurt in the end.

I am old-fashion when it comes to dating. For me to date and spend time with a man, he has to be at a stage in his life where he is looking and ready to marry. We are spending time together to test compatibility for marriage. Otherwise, I won't bother giving him my time. Why feed his ego? If he wants to talk then he can talk to me over the phone.

I have noticed that there are some older singles or divorcees who swear they can do without a man, YET willingly entertain suitors. This actually makes them vulnerable to being used by men. If you keep saying that you don't need marriage, BUT keep saying "yes" to when they call or want to do things, then they will use you just for that. Then you wonder why after you spend time with them they don't marry you is because you made it known at the beginning that you don't want marriage but still want a man around. You just have to let them know, "hey, if we're doing all these things it's because we're seeing if we're compatible for marriage. I'm not doing these things just because I like you and want to do stuff with you. I'm not trying to go with the flow, man."

Otherwise, men can do stuff with a woman for years, even 10+, and not get around to marrying her. You know, like many of you male phers. lol! You take advantage of those gfs of yours who have low self-esteem and really aren't high value because they are easy targets. 

I've seen your girlfriends, exes and all.  Some of you talk a good game like you're dating Yasmi look-alikes, but....they look like grandmas or the mothers of 6 at my church. Just saying.

[VillainousHero]

Sometimes it's best to bring nothing to the table, but pull up a chair only. 

People are judgmental and have many biases.  They all want to measure you up to something that only relates to their own base measurements. 

So few are actually open minded and likewise be willing to build something from nothing.

[Believe_N_Me]

Sometimes it's best to bring nothing to the table, but pull up a chair only. 

People are judgmental and have many biases.  They all want to measure you up to something that only relates to their own base measurements. 

So few are actually open minded and likewise be willing to build something from nothing.

^^^

In other words, you prefer situationships (friends with benefits, cohabitation, long-term gf only, etc.) and are most definitely in one at at the moment.

[JonniJacko]

too many relationships today are transactional. no longer mutual and genuinely reciprocal. That my friends, is the root cause of such high divorce rates.....choo se wisely, your happiness and time depends on it.....

[Believe_N_Me]

too many relationships today are transactional. no longer mutual and genuinely reciprocal. That my friends, is the root cause of such high divorce rates.....choo se wisely, your happiness and time depends on it.....

I think they call it "codependency". Some people stay because there are children involved and they've built up too much assets to throw away. But unmarried people living together who can't separate even though the situationship has run it's course are just broken. They're now in it just for vengeance.

[JonniJacko]

I think they call it "codependency". Some people stay because there are children involved and they've built up too much assets to throw away. But unmarried people living together who can't separate even though the situationship has run it's course are just broken. They're now in it just for vengeance.

Yes mam, correct. Ive see people who forgave their partners infidelity bc too many co signs here and there.

some people turn and stab the world, and prey on the vulnerable or unaware. Very broken people. They are the ones who should try to heal the world. Not further the cuts and bruises.