I'm not a close friend to this person but we hang out in the same circle of friends. So a little over a year ago she began dating this guy who was long distance. According to her, he pursued her and basically called her everyday. However, he ghosted her about a month ago and needless to say she was devastated and still is. Since the Hmong are a tight-knit community, it turns out that he is still living with a girlfriend (whom he's been with for 8 years). The reason she found out was through 2 church members. The person I'm talking about doesn't go to the church though. Anyways...
One of the church member is a half sister to the girlfriend. Apparently, the girlfriend's father had multiple wives.
The second church member's late husband is related to the girlfriend's older brother-in-law (same clan).
They were saying that this guy is a player but the sister is too stubborn so they can't help her situation improve. Anyways, he takes advantage of vulnerable divorcees (he is also divorced) by acting like he wants to marry them. In the beginning he did all these great things. Love bombed her, helped around her house, always invited her to keep him company at events, came around her kids a lot, etc. Then after she moved him in they started having a lot of issues and he would tell everybody that he was a single dude. For some reason she won't kick him out and pays for all the bills even though he talks to other women and won't marry her. In addition, this guy has a lot of debt and legal problems. They think that's why he keeps living there even though he tells everyone that he won't marry her.
In a nutshell, he used both women. He keeps the first girlfriend to provide stability. The second girlfriend was just to distract him from all his problems.
So the long distance girlfriend is going to dump him, but she is mad as hell that he deceived her. She has a bunch of stuff that could humiliate him. We're talking Albert Xiong level.
But should she?
IMHO, those who ghost are narcissists and it's unlikely that they can find happiness with anybody. I don't know if one needs to publish scandalous photos of them to the public. Karma always find them. But I can see why she is really upset. But boy, this could be really juicy drama for the Hmong communities across the world to talk about.
Topic: Walk away quietly OR get even? (Read 813 times)