Marry the man who adores you

[Believe_N_Me]

That is how you know that he will always be committed to you and show up for you. Even when he does stupid things or makes mistakes, if he adores you, he will not want to lose you.

Just because a man is attracted to you, gives you attention, spends time with you, or may even enter a relationship with you, it doesn't mean that he actually adores you. Maybe he just feels lust for you. Maybe he's going through a rough time and just needs your validation. Maybe he's looking for companionship because he's lonely. Maybe you're just convenient for him and serving needs that he would otherwise have to go solicit. If he doesn't adore you then it's only a matter of time when he gets bored and loses interest. If he sticks around then most likely it's because he's getting something useful from you. You're a placeholder. Once he's healed from his traumas, has his sights on new goals, or can replace whatever it is that he's getting from you, he'll move on.

Learn to distinguish the difference between attraction and adoration by feeling a man's energy. A man who adores you doesn't lose that energy over time, but a man who is only attracted to you for any of the reasons I stated above, you'll feel a change of energy in him over time.

I've had great relationships and I'll tell you that when a man adores you, you can physically be worlds apart. You may not even talk to each other on a regular basis. For whatever reasons, whether it's work-related or maybe you two just enjoy your own space. Whatever the case is, you never feel like their energy is gone. You never feel like they've pulled away even though you haven't seen each other in months or years. But when you do feel like he's holding back or the energy is fading...you're not imagining that. He doesn't have adoration for you. Whatever you had at the beginning was limerence, lust, unhealthy attachments, etc.

[Believe_N_Me]

It's so important to have a great loving relationship with a parent because that sets up the stage for a person to have confidence within themselves. Although a parent-child relationship is not a romantic one, it does help a person get an idea of what it looks like to have appreciation and true adoration for each other. After all, your person will be your family.

Personally, I think it's very strange when people end a relationship over a technicality. For example, they're getting along fine with the occasional disagreements as expected, but then let's say someone gets a job in another state and now one person thinks they should breakup. Because the distance will be too much, they don't want to do long distance, etc. Why would you break up with a perfectly fine partner? You wouldn't break up with your mom just because you went away to college. You might not see each other on a regular basis but she is still your mom. Even your friends are still your friends though you won't be seeing much of them. Your partner should still be your partner. You'll just have to plan the logistics differently.

When a man adores you, you are his family. Things like this wouldn't cause a breakup. But a man who doesn't adore you will stress over these obstacles. It'll start to be an excuse for why he can't be with you, etc. because the transaction is no longer desirable or convenient for him.

You gotta look for these signs.

[Believe_N_Me]

Most importantly, detach yourself from any man whom you feel still has adoration for another woman. Even if they're broken up, as long as he still adores her in his heart, he'll never have room for you. You'll end up as a placeholder until he heals from her.

He must make you feel like you're the best he's ever gotten. If you don't feel like that around him, you'll only be hurt in the end. Even if you know that you're the best he's ever gotten. Even if everybody says that you're the best he's ever gotten. None of that matters. It only matters if he thinks, feels and believes that you're the best he's ever gotten.

Men don't want to lose the women whom he feels is the best he's ever gotten.

[JonniJacko]

Yes, that is very true. Some people connect well on the surface but not deep down. Like a beautiful red rose, oh so pretty, but it has such a short life span. Some connects deep down, but on the surface, it's a little bit of unsureness. A little bit of flashes of butterflies, then back to unsureness. But one or both may feel deep down, there is more to it, something more beautiful....L ike a tree, it starts with a seed, then it becomes a plant, then the plant grows to be a tree. This tree will provide shade one day, and even food. Until this tree is capable to provide this, then both can say, it's true love. Or Adoration. haha but the dark side of this is, all it takes is one chainsaw or axe to sabotage it. Just one pissing on the tree constantly will eventually kill it. LOL

[JonniJacko]

Like to add that, if you're ever wondering how or what someone really feels about you, How you feel about them at the moment or in general, is exactly the same way they feel about you. The Law of Mirroring. haha This being you are being brutally honest to yourself and in your most conscious state of mind. I mean you can't look in the mirror and notice you have a rice hanging on your chin and say, there's nothing there..LMAO

[JonniJacko]

That is how you know that he will always be committed to you and show up for you. Even when he does stupid things or makes mistakes, if he adores you, he will not want to lose you.

Just because a man is attracted to you, gives you attention, spends time with you, or may even enter a relationship with you, it doesn't mean that he actually adores you. Maybe he just feels lust for you. Maybe he's going through a rough time and just needs your validation. Maybe he's looking for companionship because he's lonely. Maybe you're just convenient for him and serving needs that he would otherwise have to go solicit. If he doesn't adore you then it's only a matter of time when he gets bored and loses interest. If he sticks around then most likely it's because he's getting something useful from you. You're a placeholder. Once he's healed from his traumas, has his sights on new goals, or can replace whatever it is that he's getting from you, he'll move on.

Learn to distinguish the difference between attraction and adoration by feeling a man's energy. A man who adores you doesn't lose that energy over time, but a man who is only attracted to you for any of the reasons I stated above, you'll feel a change of energy in him over time.

I've had great relationships and I'll tell you that when a man adores you, you can physically be worlds apart. You may not even talk to each other on a regular basis. For whatever reasons, whether it's work-related or maybe you two just enjoy your own space. Whatever the case is, you never feel like their energy is gone. You never feel like they've pulled away even though you haven't seen each other in months or years. But when you do feel like he's holding back or the energy is fading...you're not imagining that. He doesn't have adoration for you. Whatever you had at the beginning was limerence, lust, unhealthy attachments, etc.

Yes, this is very true for those who requires less attention or actually needs a lot of personal space to function correctly. haha Both have to understand and value individualism but usually whether they know or not, they are always together by spirit. Some couple are always together physically but their spirits are in different places....this is when one or both is not fully honest to their soul..haha yup.

[Believe_N_Me]

theking is always arguing about exceptions, but a couple can only get to that point when the level of trust is high OR they aren't really emotionally invested in each other.

For example, I know a couple where the husband kept all his photo albums containing photos of girls. Some of those photos even feature him with his arm around girls. Everybody asked the wife if she was jealous and she said that they've been through too much together and he has always showed up for her. Therefore, she didn't feel any jealousy at all. In fact, she brought out an album containing only photos of this one girl that her husband was so in love with and wanted to marry. But that girl eloped with some other dude and the husband would still pine for her every now and then. I don't know if the fact that the wife can't have babies but he's remained loyal is the reason why she is confident. The elders have tried to get the husband to marry a second wife, but he won't. He doesn't even look at another woman. Or perhaps the wife feels low about her infertility that she wouldn't blame her husband for pining away at other women. Who really knows, but she swears that she isn't jealous.

I also know this other couple that got married through an arrangement. There is no affection between them but they work great together at accomplishing things. They have a very peaceful and abundant life after many, many, many decades. They never mob siab over each other either from what we can tell. They don't ask about each other, and they can be apart from each other for long periods of time without worries or anxiety.

[JonniJacko]

yup, a partnership,marriage, love, union, or what not, it comes in all shapes, sizes and forms. Now whether they will last or not, that depends on how much both value loyalty, what they agree on as far as boundaries goes, and not taking the small things for granted. Yup, I think. I'm not a expert. I plan to stay single so I wouldn't really know. LOL