I learned something very important about love...

[Believe_N_Me]

I was blessed to reconnect with a very old friend a few days ago. He really helped me gain a new perspective about love and how to know if it's the right person. He pretty much confirmed the things that I had been contemplating for the past 2-3 years. Not too long ago he went through a really tough situation with mostly undesirable options. I asked him how he arrived at his decision and his response just made so much sense to me. 

[JonniJacko]

sooooo?? what was it?

[Believe_N_Me]

I'll tell you later.

[JonniJacko]

oh cool.

[Believe_N_Me]

Love means different things to different people - and I'm not talking about the 5 languages of love.

Love is the person whom you're the most comfortable with, even if you feel miserable half of the time. The fact that you're so comfortable being the worst version of yourself means that you love them in your own weird, unhealthy attached kind of way.

Personally, I don't define that as love and neither do most relationship/marriage/psychologist counselors/pastors. What you have is an unhealthy attachment and trauma bond, but hey, whatever works for you.

[JonniJacko]

Times have change, everyone has their own beliefs and ideology but the fundamentals of a romantic relationship will always be there and stay the same. And if it's not there, only bad things can happen....even tually, sooner or later.