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Messages - nraug_hmoob

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If I know what I know now, I would tell my younger self, no.

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Is it wrong to be a workaholic?  Or to want to be single?  Or to have very VERY high standards?   :D  ;D

Lmao. At what point do you call it quit tho. Most Hmong girls I know as they get into their 30s, will give up and start dating outside the community.  Glad I'm a guy, I can always married someone younger.  HINT: Taking applications ::)

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You're looking at it,  nraug_hmoob meet autumnbreeze  ;D

O0 So, I wander..even if you are 30+, lives in a place like California or Minnesota where there is a big Hmong community and still can't find someone, something must be wrong with you... Lol.

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Online and through family/friends/acquaintances.....but be cautious online, since there are catfishes out there.   ;D

Where online? I am in the same boat lol.

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A friend added me to the hmong single looking group a while ago on Facebook. Last time I checked, there were over 1000 members in the group. Most people there are bunch of trolls only and no one is serious lol. Plus, most of everyone in that group are guys, go figure. Lol.

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Re: finding someone in your 30s
« on: January 30, 2018, 06:50:37 PM »
Welcome to your new life.
If you’re successful, your competition for women dwindles are you get older. The problem is that we become more picky. Ask yourself what are you chasing, what traits are you looking for? Good that you don’t have kids yet, don’t take your freedom for granted.

Would I consider marrying someone younger, or of different race? Definitely if there is a connection and attraction level. My rule of thumb. 10 years up and 5 years down. Good luck!

Thanks! I know what I'm looking for. Finding someone who has the qualities you looking for and who also connect with you is harder as you get older. The pool gets smaller as you get older. Doesn't help that I live where there is also a smaller Hmong community.   

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Re: finding someone in your 30s
« on: January 30, 2018, 06:44:56 PM »
What's your last name?  I do have singles w/in your age range.  I don't mind playing match maker.

LOL. I'm a Vue. But are they educated, successful, and attractive?  ::)

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The Single & Dating Scenes / finding someone in your 30s
« on: January 29, 2018, 09:01:22 PM »
So, I've been single for a while now. I'm in my mid 30s and am pretty successful where I am in life at the moment. One thing I noticed is that is really hard to find a decent Hmong girl in their mid 20s to early 30s's who is successful, attractive, and is not taken. I don't mind if they are divorced, but I just can't handle if they have kids as I'm not ready to be a dad yet.  I have met plenty of girls who are younger and those who are older, but not many in between. I think that as an older guy, we can always married a younger Hmong girl. What about Hmong women? What age do you think it's too late to find a nice decent Hmong man? Would you ever consider marrying someone way younger than you are? Or at that point, would you just consider marrying someone who is not Hmong?

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Hello friends and strangers. Wow, feels like it's been awhile. Not sure if anyone would remember me anyway (but I remember you MissKhou cuz I think we share the same birthday) but now that I'm thinking of closing my account here, I really am grateful for PH because I met my husband here 2.5 years ago. Some of my posts might've got deleted but I was hoping to capture or screenshot it just for memories, because it was pretty crazy that I broke my rule of never meeting someone online this way, but it really does happen even in PH of all places lol. People should allow themselves to be surprised, which means taking risks right? Well I was recently divorced, had no intentions of dating or remarrying of course... you know how that goes. But I decided to join PH right before I was going on vacation to San Francisco because I was looking for a blind date- nothing serious, harmless.... but who would've ever known where this would lead me- marriage. I am so blessed and happy today. Many people tell us our love story is just like a movie, so before I leave I will share my story, maybe next week but in a different post. Hope everyone here is doing well and Happy Thanksgiving!! Enjoy time with your family.

In today's age, you can meet anyone anywhere. You could meet someone online with better intentions than someone who you hope to cross paths with in real life. It all depends on the two person.  But, my personal congrats.

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General Relationship / Re: Finding a date online
« on: October 22, 2017, 08:59:47 PM »
Everyone has options. The same goes for online dating vs real life. Don't matter if you meet them online or in person as long as you are both opened minded individuals. For any relationships, as long you both are committed, faithful, and devoted to each other that's all that really matters in the end. A few of my friends found love online and some actually got married shortly afterward. In  today's world, we are all very busy with our professional careers, such as myself, and we don't have a lot of time outside of work everyday to try and find someone. I have been opened to trying online dating as well recently. Just as in real life, the same goes for online dating, you never know who is going to show up in your life or who you will have a connection with.   

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...
« on: September 30, 2017, 08:11:45 PM »
Don't worry everyone. I'm still a live. lol.  O0 I separated sinced and have lived on my own for a good year now. My marriage was legally over a few months ago, and I have officially gone on my own separate way today. I just wanted to thank all of you for providing advice for me through the the hard times. I appreciate all of your advice on here, good or bad.  It definitely wasn't easy, and it took me almost 1.5 years to get over her, but I can definitely say that I am in a better place today. I am still in the process of building my life back together, and I have been slowly putting myself back out on the market too. Since I separated,I don't have any contact with her but last I heard of her, she was already on her third or fourth guy. It's true what they say, after a breakup, the loyal person stays single and deals with the damages until healed. The other one is already in another relationship. Regardless, I did loved her at one point, and I wished nothing but the best for her. All I know is that, she will never find anyone else like me again. People just do not know what they have until it's gone.       

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...
« on: April 02, 2016, 11:46:06 AM »
Thanks everyone. The hardest part of moving on is the fact that you always had someone there for you. When you don't anymore, loneliness and depression hits you really hard. It is always easiest to run back to the one person that you once had. However, I agree with many of you. I can forgive, but I cannot forget. This situation was beyond my limits and I know that it forever changed my respect for her.  To spend a lifetime with this person knowing how she treated me, I don't think I can do it. 

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...
« on: February 25, 2016, 03:31:21 AM »
Thanks everyone for their kind thoughts. Like my mom said to me, "qub neeg qub siab". I look at my situation and I know I have to decide if I can see myself with this person the next 5, 10, 20 years, and my heart says no.  It's the hardest things I ever had to do, to tell someone I loved, that I choose not to be them anymore.  However, I know staying that  I cannot accept what she did either. 

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...
« on: February 02, 2016, 09:37:19 PM »
I'm surprised you even attempted reconciliation .  If there are no kids involved then sell the house, split the proceeds and cut off all contact from the whore of a woman. The only reason she wanted to work things out was because dude had his fun and pumped and dumped your wife and now she has nowhere to turn to.

Edit: also you're getting close that that period of no return. Do you really want to patch things up only to find out that after 10yrs of marriage she cheated on you once again and now will also seek alimony?

No kids. We were about ready to start a family before all this happened. I don't know if I can be in this relationship any longer than I have.  I'm been very patience with her for the last 6 years. Throughout the years, she has never stop threaten to divorce me everytime we get into a huge arguments.  I feel she is always asking for more than I can give, and when I do give, she's ask for more. She never seems happy with what she had. But now, I feel it's too late, I cannot accept her carrying someone else's child before mine.

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: Never thought i would be a yawg nrauj...
« on: February 01, 2016, 11:40:51 AM »
She told me she was lonely, made a mistake and wanted me back in her life. She realized I'm the best thing that ever happened to her.  Regardless, I couldn't accept that she kept seeing this guy for weeks, which I told her it was not a mistake anymore but a decison she made.  I no longer can accept her and trust her.  I wanted to move on, but I also afraid to lose the life that I built.  We have a house, nice jobs, and live comfortably.

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