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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: March 31, 2023, 05:04:01 PM »

Wow it’s been a while… where had the time gone?


I stepped out and bumped into my Gardner this morning. Haven’t seen him for a while, actually forgot I had a Gardner lol

“Sorry I haven’t come by in a while to cut the grass…they grew so high… it’s been raining and everything…”

I looked at him with a smile

“Don’t worry about it George, I didn’t even notice the grass being so green”

“Whewww… I thought you would be mad?!

“Why would I? Everytime I step out I feel like I’m crawling out of a jungle…”

“A jungle?” Haha

“Yeah like you know, a tiger coming out of my tiger hole…in the jungle”

Haha

I walked off to my car leaving him standing on the grassy yard of my home… when I looked up, George had already turned his back and was walking back to his truck.

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General Discussion / Pros and cons of living in Minnesota

« on: March 31, 2023, 04:43:42 PM »

Everyone is trying to get me to move there… so in the summer time I’ll be coming for a weeklong visit.

If you lived in California and moved there, what do you like most about Minnesota, compared to California?

I prefer smaller towns, what is a smaller town that is also close to the big city but Not so far out but is near Hmong people lol

What kind of things do single Hmong people do there for fun?

Recommend me your favorite coffee shops?

If you’re single, how do you spend your day?

What area have the most professional and single people living?

Weather wise, how hot does it get? And what happens if I freak out and can’t drive in the snow… do I pull over? Haha just kidding

How close knit are Hmong communities? I don’t live near any so, I’m just curious…

What type of jobs are in the areas of Minneapolis and St. Paul?


Approximately how much is the cost of living around at Paul/Minneapolis? Which part of town is more affluent? Which is not?


Sorry for all the questions, I’m feeling a little pressured to moved… I just want an idea that all hahaha

And probably have more question but that it for now… thanks

Oh and yes, I’m sure I can google some fo these but I really just want to hear it from you

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Why do men want us to chase them?

« on: January 24, 2023, 12:15:22 AM »

Why do guys give us their numbers, even when we are not interest and then  expects us to chase and conquer them? It doesn’t feel natural.  Surely they just want to get intimate but could it also be that they want to feel love and cared for too? Am I missing something here? I don’t mind initialing and reciprocating but then the lines blur and things just don’t feel right to me. Or why would you be so interested in a girl but expect her to do all the callings and plannings? It doesn’t make sense to me… it has a very masculine feel but again, am I just not good at relationship and could this be a normal thing?

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Poetic Souls / Re: A Rebel's Haiku

« on: July 24, 2022, 04:39:00 PM »

Share please.

Laugh my ass off, is this one of my post? 

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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: July 24, 2022, 04:24:28 PM »

We had an amazing time on our getaway trip. It was nice and relaxing and we spent the nights star gazing and making wishes on shooting stars and counting down  satellites floating by in the sky …During the day, we walked to the beach and dipped in the ocean. We’d go fishing, hiking and relaxing and he’s made us drinks…and cooked us dinner and lunch. In the evening after the sunset we had the whole cove to ourself… we cuddled and listened to the waves and we talk about our life goals and dreams. On the last day we went toward the cliff where there was a cement wall, and he tagged our names there… Ryan and rebel 4 ever!

 Ryan said, “running around like this with you reminds me of my teenage years…my younger self”
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One other highlight from this trip…We stopped at Starbucks on our way back and lo and behold Caitlyn Jenner was in front of us. She had these beautiful large manly hands, which I noticed way before I knew that it was her…then I looked up and there was she…her face was flawless, beautiful… not a single wrinkle…She looked at me while we all waited for our orders and I almost wanted to talk with her but I didn’t want to come off like a crazy Asian person..on the wrong side of town lmao. She was very down to earth…but i kept thinking that it must suck to be famous haha…not having any privacy and the whole world knows your ass..haha

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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: July 24, 2022, 04:17:43 PM »

Yes I am.  I still have a lot to write, just don't have the time.  Thank you for reading.

Nice! I enjoy them. You’re an awesome poet/writer! Thanks for sharing 

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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: June 08, 2022, 10:22:25 PM »

My ex husband who went missing for several months popped out of nowhere and messaged me:

****: “wanna do something when I get back?”
Me: “like what?”
****: “whatever you like”
Me: “where you been…when will you be back?”
****: “Cant say…in November… you can pick something you like and we can do it”
Me: “ew no, you kidding me?!”
****: “just you and me”
Me: “nah, i don’t think so”
****: “think about it”
Me:” I already did, are you ****?”
****: yes
Me: “the **** I know don’t talk like that”
****: “I did a lot of thinking since I been away”
Me: “trust me I would know if you were ****. I know how he writes”
****: “I just want to take you on a date..thought I shoot my shot”
Me: “ I don’t think so”
****: would you still want XXX? Can we still?”
Me: “def not!”
****: “I’ll pay you for it and I don’t mean that  In any way disrespectful to you”
Me: “ seriously not..no thanks
****: “look, I’ll give you $ I’ll pay for a BBL so you can have a bigger ass…We can end the marriage but you’ll have to become my girlfriend. Let’s start over as a couple and see where things go. That’s my price….”

The next day
****: “you never answered me back…so?”
Me:”my therapist told me it’s not healthy for me to get involved…”
****: “I’m still coming back there though so I’ll see you when I get back”

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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: June 08, 2022, 10:16:01 PM »

http://www.pebhmong.com/forum/index.php/topic,340557.0.html

 

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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: June 08, 2022, 10:15:31 PM »

Your boy needs to put a 💍 on yo finger
http://www.pebhmong.com/forum/index.php/topic,255671.0.html

Nice! are you the writers of these poems? Just curious 

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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: June 02, 2022, 10:41:36 AM »

There be so much tension between us but I’m not willing to cooperate…at the end of  one of our not too recent date, Ryan walked me to my car.. he reached to give me a hug but grabbed me and lifted me off the ground… he slammed me on top of the hood of the car…

“Damn, your light as hell…” he said

We passionately kissed… it was silly and caused a scene. But I have a fear when it comes to Ryan…I fear that once I give in, I’ll just lose interest in him lmfao so I really don’t know where I’m going with this…

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Beauty & Fashion / Re: Ladies: Let's talk about SKIN Care & TIPs

« on: June 01, 2022, 01:34:14 AM »

I go through an entire step every other day. And moisturize the shit out of my face lmfao I’m currently using the Kylie skin care set… it’s not bad. But thanks for sharing I love trying new things

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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: June 01, 2022, 12:49:13 AM »

I had a late ass dinner And now I can’t sleep  well I wouldn’t be able to sleep even if I want to. That’s just ridiculous of me to have such a late dinner… should of just snacked and ate all the damn ice cream in the freezer… but no, I ate nothing today so I feel bad going to bed eating nothing all day… I got myself a giant burrito… 

Went to therapy today and had a good session. I talked about relationships even though I hardly talk about that with my therapist… most of the time it’s about my childhood but it’s just funny how everything from then ties into everything now. I am working on my self, to better myself for the next person. No more toxic shit… haha I will always be like that. But today I also opened up about something that was very private that I had forgotten about…and I’m glad I did..

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Food Forum / Re: Pick Only One: Favorite Fruits

« on: June 01, 2022, 12:21:27 AM »

Mangoes or dry fruits I’d pick walnuts

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Food Forum / Re: Coffee or Tea

« on: June 01, 2022, 12:17:20 AM »

I drink two, sometimes three cups of coffee during the day time but at night I drink tea

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Online Journal / Re: The Secret Life of a Hmong-American Woman

« on: May 19, 2022, 12:54:38 PM »

Ryan’s mom is very intimidating… she reminds me of Miranda priestly in the devil wear Prada. They both have the same hair and that scary serious look that makes your stomach feels sick and nauseous… I don’t ever want to be stuck in a room with that lady, ever! 😂

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Lately I like to be alone. “Friends” only comes around when they need to use me for something. And I think that’s terrible and sad! I have a gym buddy that only comes around for that… then she will want to go grab something to eat afterward. Sometimes she’ll have me pay for the lunch but she does it in a shady way.. yes I’m generous but that doesn’t mean I should be used… halfway through eating her lunch or dinner and she’ll ask if if I can PAY because she don’t have money. I’m always like WTF! If you ain’t got money, you shouldn’t ask people to hang out with you. PERIOD. She does that quite a bit and I never like to hang out with her, not to mention her age… she’s in her  XX. The last time I went to dinner with her, she asked me to pay her TIP even when our check was separate. She never tips and pays exactly the amount!!! That always annoys me so I alway steer clear of her when she calls… I can’t stand greedy ass people like that, especially those who goes to church like her and pick at other people flaws yet sleeps around and have one nightstands like it’s the end of the world….

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Me coming to talk about random shit about my life like this has been very therapeutic! I have so much shit in my brain that needs to come out. And I get to reflect and feel out who I really am as a person…