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Marriage & Family Life / John M Gottman, The Science of Trust
« on: February 24, 2018, 10:59:25 PM »
What an interesting book!!!

The Four Horsemen of what leads to divorce:
1) Criticism
2) Contempt
3) Defensiveness
4) Stonewalling

The 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work
1.1   Enhancing love maps
1.2   Nurturing fondness and admiration
1.3   Turning toward each other
1.4   Accepting influence
1.5   Solving solvable problems
1.6   Overcoming gridlock
1.7   Creating shared meaning

Debate Central / Free Speech Violation?
« on: February 19, 2018, 03:55:49 PM »

Debate Central / Liberals Are Not Liberal
« on: February 15, 2018, 11:24:58 PM »
We often think the left are liberals but they have changed.  The new left is really social liberal and that's word ninja for socialism.  What people on the left don't understand about liberalism is liberalism is founded by the work of John Locke, Emmanuel Kant, and John Stuart Mills.  Liberals is a concept where a man can own his work, own his thoughts, and own his properties, and the government cannot infringe on this.  Social Liberals do not believe this because they think bigger government is better, government knows better, and etc...  Are you a social liberal or a classical liberal?

Entrepreneurial Minds / The Essence of Leadership
« on: February 08, 2018, 09:08:00 PM »
Perhaps the most succinct video on leadership in a nutshell.

Debate Central / Trust or Love?
« on: February 08, 2018, 07:22:00 PM »
What do you think is more important and why?

Debate Central / Steven Pinker
« on: February 07, 2018, 09:59:47 PM »

Debate Central / What Is Fair Wage?
« on: January 14, 2018, 07:28:27 PM »
What do you all think is a fair wage?  Let's say you operate a company.  How much do you want to pay your worker?  What does fair mean?  Who should set fair?  Should it be you, government, or market?

Work Avenue / Cost of Living New Jersey or Connecticut
« on: July 20, 2017, 01:00:16 AM »
Anyone living in Wayne, NJ or Stamford, CT?  How is the cost of living?  How do you like the east coast?

Work Avenue / Sabbatical Leave
« on: July 19, 2017, 12:00:40 AM »
Have anyone ever taken a personal "sabbatical leave?"  How was it readjusting to corporate life?  The pressure, and the stress?  My daughter is two and I haven't worked a real day since she was born.  I intended 1 year sabbatical to rest and travel but instead I took two years instead to travel with my family across the country.  It seems after the first year I couldn't muster the discipline to work on my project even though I had a schema, half a business plan written, and knew I could build a prototype solution out in 6 months.  Perhaps things didn't work out exactly I had imagined so I avoided the project and let wanderlust bite me.  I'm a bit worry I've become dulled, lazy, and out of practice.  More importantly, I'm worried people are trusting me with a great deal of responsibility .  Usually I'm not negative, and perhaps this is signs of anxiety I need to reflect and mediate on to understand why. 

If you have done a sabbatical and have gone back to work give me some insights on your prep work to hit the ground running...

Online Journal / Thoughts and Feelings
« on: July 18, 2017, 03:35:33 PM »
Too often we pick a group (or man of a group) and feel safe about this group.  Then we become brainwashed and become a foot soldier of that group led by a wo/man.  Rarely do we ever question the group and the underlying thoughts and assumptions of the group.  We march like an obedient soldier.  We sing the tune like a good choir girl/boy.  All in all, we are social engineered by the masters of the group.  All in all, we accept because thinking about the thoughts of the group is very difficult proposition to sort all the knots and entanglement of thoughts.  Yet, it is in this very sorting out part, the tension, the conflict, the feeling of lost, and ultimately the resolution which nurtures us into a new level consciousness and understanding.  Many times we don't want to do these things because change is scary and we are afraid of who or what we might become if we try.  Sometimes our action based upon the group think feels wrong but we put these voices in a box and say to oneself, be obedient, don't deviate.  Why?  If we do, we might lose our belonging and togetherness with the group.  So instead of being a free thinker, a truth seeker, we actually become a group thinker, and group preacher because it's easier and less risky.  Who cares about being free or morally right.  We just need to be on the right side of the war.  Pick your horse and place your bet because your future depends on it.  How about your children's future?  The bets you place, and the horses you pick have huge ramification on your children's future outcome.  Pick a winner who screws them over, and all may have been for naught.  History is littered with those who place their whole future on the horse.  For a very long time the horse wins many races and all seems jolly and happy.  Then suddenly the horse becomes lame and your fortune crashes with this lame horse.  Horses are non-durable concept.  They may run many great races but eventually the horse becomes lame.  We must place our hopes and future on a much more durable concept.  We must root our future and children on thoughts and feelings.  Although they are fleeting at times, when rooted in sound reasoning, they are the most durable concept we have in society.  Keep your mind open and your heart open.

Books & Magazines / Books On Media, Communication and Culture?
« on: July 12, 2017, 11:38:06 AM »
Anyone have a good list of books on this topic?  My goal is to become more astute at navigating and communicating change within different culture and sub-culture.

Faith & Beliefs / The Problem of Modern Organized Religion
« on: July 08, 2017, 01:37:07 PM »
Francis Chan spoke at Facebook on why he left the mega church he built and the gold nugget I got was this.  Chan said, I baptized this kid who was gang affiliated.  The kid said I thought being baptist was like being jumped in a gang, you are family 24/7, but I realized it's just a place you show up on Sunday.  And so the kid left the church.  Chan left looking seeking to build a more biblical church.

Wow!  That sh1t is deep and profound.  Cham raise larger topic on purpose, belonging, together, and love.  What is the purpose of church?  Create disciples to God.  How do we belong?  The body of Christ as a university (unified and diverse in gifts).  What do we do together?  Worship God.  How should we love?  Wholeheartedly .  Each of these are incredibly hard to do.  Perhaps this is why scripture speak to creating a new heart versus creating a new mind.   Too often the sermons are heard in the mind and rarely felt in the hearts of people.  Such form of inspiration are incredibly hard to do as I have observed, and it's even rarer to see someone do both ways at the same time.

Debate Central / Your Opinion On Privacy?
« on: July 07, 2017, 04:10:45 PM »
When Eric Snowden dropped the bombshell that the US government have been watching their own citizens with NSA surveillance program an uproar in privacy came into play.  The promoter for privacy says this infringes on our liberty.  The detractor says this reduces national security.  Who is right and who is wrong?  What is more important?  Liberty or National Security?  If we lack national security can we uphold liberty?  Can we sacrifice some liberty for more national security?  Some have even come to argue that privacy hinders innovation because the less private we are the more transparency and the more communication and the more ideas and trades, and etc...  Thoughts on this?  Is privacy old-fashion that needs to be diminished?  Or is privacy imperative to a free society?  Others???

Debate Central / Are You An Idealist or Pragmatist?
« on: July 07, 2017, 03:48:58 PM »
Idealist - 1. a person who is guided more by ideals than by practical considerations .
"he came to power with the reputation of a left-wing idealist"
synonyms:   utopian, visionary, wishful thinker, pipe-dreamer, fantasist, romantic, dreamer, daydreamer, stargazer; More
a person who believes in the theory of idealism.

Pragmatist - 1. a person who is guided more by practical considerations than by ideals.
"hardheaded pragmatists firmly rooted in the real world"
an advocate of the approach that evaluates theories or beliefs in terms of the success of their practical application.
"American pragmatists have influenced a great deal of recent philosophy of many types"

The BIG question that really determines if you are a pragmatist or an idealist.

Suppose your S/O is dying of cancer and an ultra wealthy man have created the drug to cure your S/O.  The cost of the drug is $10,000, 100x the cost to make.  You spent weeks raising the funds, asking for donation, and your S/O is running out of time, and this drug can save her life 100%.  You raised $6,000, and asked to buy the drug and pay $4,000 later.  The drug manufacturer denies your request.  Your wife is dying.  What should you do?

a) Steal the drug?  You are breaking the law.
b) Let your S/O die because you cannot raise the money.


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