PebHmong Discussion Forum
Relationship => General Relationship => Topic started by: blia on July 18, 2018, 11:43:43 AM
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For some, they wish things would have been different but for some they've learned to accept the current person they are with. Share your personal stories.
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Yes, still count my blessings every day and every moment with her...been together for over a decade now...and it just seem to get stronger and stronger... O0
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If I lose her, I will find her.
I just need to look at her for 5 seconds to know if there is still that Sparks there or not. Her choice still cuz it'll probably be my fault and women, they then to forgive easy.
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Yes because he would still be the only man who truly loves me.
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sure
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probably.
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Yes because he loves Hmong food! hahaha
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No, because he’s not the man in my vision at this point of life.
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To make a long story short, No.
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If I know what I know now, I would tell my younger self, no.
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life is a journey, there's NEVER a straight path void of bumps or potholes. Those couples who learn to navigate around times of hardships, stresses, which seem to be a never ending thing, will live a good life to the end. As you live, live like it's your last.....Happy New Year.
Sib ntsib dua pebhmoob. :)
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After 24 years together, I've come to love her more than I ever have. I meant it when I told her: "I'd give my life to save yours so I don't have to stay behind and miss you every day. "
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what if she thinks that very selfish thinking...lols worst case, she spends your life insurance money, gets with a jerk who also spends your money...and she hasn't thought about you a single day since then...hahah
point is...today, aint no girl worth dying for.. ;D
It is selfish. and if I'm dead, she can spend the life insurance money any way she likes as long as it makes her happy. I won't have a need for it anymore anyway. Plus I wouldn't want her to think of me because it may deter her from living a long happy life with my kids.
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Of course, the $64,000 question.
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Definitely yes! He's my everything.
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If you could start over again would you be with the person you
are were with? Answer: Yes. He gave me two beautiful children.
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After 24 years together, I've come to love her more than I ever have. I meant it when I told her: "I'd give my life to save yours so I don't have to stay behind and miss you every day. "
You only say that cuz she sees this message too. :2funny:
I thanked all the people who responded so far with buyer's remorse.
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No.
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No.
That's a emphatic no. It would be fair if your s/o knows? Just my thought having experienced this in the past.
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Have my concept change after all them years?
Id say yes....
why? Cuz I already went down the lonely road and she was there. Now that she's gotten fat or ugly, I need to be there for her.
Oh, as I aged, I'm started to become more and more like my father. So romantic. :2funny:
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The one I am with? Yes, over and over again.
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The one I am with? Yes, over and over again.
counting your chicken before they hatch eh?
So confidence like a biden. I like :2funny:
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Me by myself...of course that's fate. :D
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Do I love him? Yes. But despite a decade, I'm still undecided if this was all worth it. In all honesty, in the process, I've lost myself.
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counting your chicken before they hatch eh?
So confidence like a biden. I like :2funny:
Bro, I told ya. Feelings are temporary and fleeting. That was me speaking on November 6th. Today, still same answer. Tomorrow, who knows. LMAO. Just kidding. But I do hope I'll always feel the same for him. I'm sure there will be times when I'll be like "?" and he'll be like "?" towards me too... only time will tell. No one really knows what will happen in life.
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I'm having a hard time understanding the question from OP. Not sure what to answer to that question. ;D
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Bro, I told ya. Feelings are temporary and fleeting. That was me speaking on November 6th. Today, still same answer. Tomorrow, who knows. LMAO. Just kidding. But I do hope I'll always feel the same for him. I'm sure there will be times when I'll be like "?" and he'll be like "?" towards me too... only time will tell. No one really knows what will happen in life.
You call me bro one more time, imma have to hurt ya...
My answer today is still the same as before. I am in love with mine more than lily loves hers. :2funny:
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You call me bro one more time, imma have to hurt ya...
My answer today is still the same as before. I am in love with mine more than lily loves hers. :2funny:
LMAO. :2funny:
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Do I love him? Yes. But despite a decade, I'm still undecided if this was all worth it. In all honesty, in the process, I've lost myself.
If you two still love each other and are still happy, then don't think too much. Just roll with it and let life takes you on its journey. Enjoy every moment of it because you will only get to do it once.
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I really wish I could say yes. I really wish it could be different, but things are what they are. ..so no. Knowing what I know, I would have made different decisions. The decisions I made would led me to someone else.
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I really wish I could say yes. I really wish it could be different, but things are what they are. ..so no. Knowing what I know, I would have made different decisions. The decisions I made would led me to someone else.
Yeah, only if we knew then what we know now, right? Life is such a gamble sometimes. We often don't know what we're getting ourselves into. At the moment it sounded nice but as time goes by, things are revealed to us, and we wish we knew then what we know now. What sucks is, time waits for no one. If we make a mistake going with someone, who's to say we won't make a mistake with the next person too? I mean, we'll be smarter and wiser and know more of what we want and learn to be smarter at looking out for the signs regarding if someone is right for us or not... but people change every day, every week, month, year, etc. Who we get now is not always who we get later and vice versa. So, again, it's always a gamble. You just go with someone who meets most of the things on your list and hope for the best really. Kinda a dim view but it's the truth. The couple who can still say "it's great" are just the lucky ones... they're lucky to end up with someone who continues on the same path as them, who has the same goals, etc, and if not, the couple is willing to make compromises and sacrifices to stay together. That is all that we can hope for. Someone who will choose us every day despite the changes that we all go through.
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There is a time in any couple's marriage that makes them wish they hadn't been with the person they are with.
When I was living with a lady and supporting her and her two kids years ago with all intentions to marry her, yet she kept cheating on me, and when I tried to leave her,
she tried to commit suicide and I had to take care of her at the hospital for two weeks, I did wish I had been with someone else.
I took the time to finish caring for her, ensuring she had a place to live in and her children were properly with her before I left her. Not for someone else
but just to escape. We later detached peacefully without further violence. I had to literally, physically run away and hopped over a fence one night to escape all of that.
You know why I don't have much faith in marriages these days and I have remained single for the longest time, even when I have many opportunities out there.
But now the real one is forthcoming, I think.
Notice I still say "I think."
How sure we are is still unsure, right?
For some, they wish things would have been different but for some they've learned to accept the current person they are with. Share your personal stories.
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Yes I would and I wish I was less stubborn so he would have less headaches. But I thank him for loving me as I am. In that way, I am bless. Now, if ask the same question on him, he would probably say NOOOOOOO ;D ;D ;D ;D
Honey, I'm lacking in many ways but I'm also good in other ways so everything sort of balance out....
Thank you for loving me as I am O0 O0
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Rare.
But even here he doesn't want to do the bad times again, just the good times he's longing for.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZ3VbZz4iAs (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZ3VbZz4iAs)
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Beautiful song and one can tell he misses her still.
Opps, I already replied to this thread b4 ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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The only part i would do again is the sex part. ;D ;D ;D ;D. Other thing is a big no no..
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No. I told him, let's not meet the next lifetime.
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You know couples for whose graves their kids want to have next to each other? I heard six couples denying that. Two men and four women said they already had this lifetime together, they don't even want to lie dead next to their spouses anymore.
No. I told him, let's not meet the next lifetime.
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If I could start over again I think somehow I would still end up with this person. The stars just weren't aligned at the time for us to be together. In a way, one could say that we crossed each other's paths many times but it was like there was a veil in between. It was only after marriage that we discovered how connected we were to each other. Here is just one example, when I was in my teens, I got really sick and a lady at our church said that her sister-in-law grew medicinal plants that might help. A few days later a package arrived in the mail with the herbs. It turned out that it was my future husband who sent that package for his mom, who was the sister-in-law that grew medicinal plants.
My husband and I did not meet each other through these people who turned out to be mutual acquaintances, friends and relatives. We met on our own and while dating, we didn't even mention these people because why would I think he might know them? It was only after marriage when these things came to light. Like the example above, I had no idea that the church lady was closely related to my husband until one day my mil planned to visit and stay with them. I asked why and my husband explained that the church lady's husband is my mil's first cousin. I shared that we used to go to the same church and one time she sent away for some herbal medicine because I was sick. My husband claimed that he remembers. He remembers having to package some herbs and sending it overnight so the herbs would stay fresh. The only reason why it's clear to him is because my mil kept getting on his case to make sure that it was overnighted.
There are just so many coincidences. It could also be a Hmong thing. The world can be so small sometimes.
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I want to revisit this thread again.
I still stand by my previous response. Nonetheless, decades ago I made a rash decision that sent my life on the wrong trajectory when I should have waited on God's timeline. The husband was sent to me for a reason. He was the one that God intended for me at that time. I don't regret marrying my husband since we do live a good and comfortable life. There is mutual love, kindness, and friendship. However, the universe has a way of opening and closing doors. I also admit that at the time I wasn't mature enough to know how to complement the kind of man whom I could fall deeply in love with.
So to answer the question, "if I could start over again, would I be with the person that I'm with?"
I realize now that it was never up to me to determine the outcome once I made that bad decision. But whatever was delayed, the universe is restoring. I honestly don't know where any of this is leading but it's quite clear that a door is closing.