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Relationship => The Single & Dating Scenes => Topic started by: Rebel on March 18, 2022, 11:32:45 AM
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I have a guy friend that texts me good morning/ nights every single day and I always feel like I’m obligated to respond back every single time. (It’s been going on for months…) So I always do, but it’s becoming so annoying…and I want to politely tell him to stop but I’m scared to hurt his feelings… would you just ignore it or respond?
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Up to you as some will say yes and some will say no depending on the individual..
Mer personally? Depends on who text me that message...
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Up to you as some will say yes and some will say no depending on the individual..
Mer personally? Depends on who text me that message...
Hahaha that’s why I’m asking bc sometimes I’m like duck this shit and then I feel super bad so I keep replying and it driving me nuts plus it starting to give me anxiety lmao
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The guy is a friend whom I meet through a friend. Since the day he got my number he texts me every single day. He is very sweet! Sometimes we have long phone conversations but he mainly texts me pretty much all throughout the day…it’s annoying but I guess my real question should be
HOW THE ACTUAL FUK CAN I POLITELY GHOST THIS GUY WITHOUT HURTING HIS FEELINGS?
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You gave him your number for a reason. It’s best to politely let him know that you don’t want him to text you anymore and give him a reason. It’s rude to ignore.
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It's cute how you call him 'friend' when he sure doesn't feel that way about you. 8) No guy is going to text you that much and think of you only as a 'friend'. Anyways, you don't have to respond immediately.
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Hahaha that’s why I’m asking bc sometimes I’m like duck this shit and then I feel super bad so I keep replying and it driving me nuts plus it starting to give me anxiety lmao
Just be honest...
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I don't know him, so I wouldn't respond.
I have a guy friend that texts me good morning/ nights every single day and I always feel like I’m obligated to respond back every single time. (It’s been going on for months…) So I always do, but it’s becoming so annoying…and I want to politely tell him to stop but I’m scared to hurt his feelings… would you just ignore it or respond?
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haha not going to lie, but i was once probably that kind of guy...but even still subconsciously I always thought, hmmm if her reponse doesn't seem genuine or she's only answering her phone not to hurt my feelings, I really shouldn't call her so much anymore or anymore alltogether..l ols...it's just a phase some guys go through...when they reach their full game, they'll look back at what a fuking simp or dumbass they were..lols.. I since learned, if someone's not interested in you or showing interest, don't put in anymore effort or energy..althou gh for some persistency does pay off, and for some women, they do want to be chased and worked for- I see this trend dying down compare to just 10-20 years ago..thinking back, i would had just prefer the girl tell me what Im doing wrong..like hey, go ahead tell me, i'm too clingy, or im trying or doing too much...lols or you're too softhearted..l ols or you laugh too damn much, you don't have to chuckle after every fuking sentence..lmao
I thought we was just friends but perhaps I’ve developed some feelings along the way and need to end it. I know it’s wrong but I want to do it without hurting feelings… :-\ and being weird about it
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I think you're sending him mix messages. Have a honest conversation to find out where you and he stands on things instead of wondering/guessing.
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Give me your number and I will guaranteed 0 text, 0 call and a big eff you if you dare to send me dix pix.
Lets see how triggered you'll become
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The Confucius in me says if after three times she doesn't respond, it is clear she isn't interested and another is waiting.
Now, this expert seems to suggest 4 tries. But I'll make that last try a quit.
(https://www.azquotes.com/picture-quotes/quote-if-at-first-you-don-t-succeed-try-try-try-again-william-edward-hickson-54-34-92.jpg)
haha not going to lie, but i was once probably that kind of guy...but even still subconsciously I always thought, hmmm if her reponse doesn't seem genuine or she's only answering her phone not to hurt my feelings, I really shouldn't call her so much anymore or anymore alltogether..l ols...it's just a phase some guys go through...when they reach their full game, they'll look back at what a fuking simp or dumbass they were..lols.. I since learned, if someone's not interested in you or showing interest, don't put in anymore effort or energy..althou gh for some persistency does pay off, and for some women, they do want to be chased and worked for- I see this trend dying down compare to just 10-20 years ago..thinking back, i would had just prefer the girl tell me what Im doing wrong..like hey, go ahead tell me, i'm too clingy, or im trying or doing too much...lols or you're too softhearted..l ols or you laugh too damn much, you don't have to chuckle after every fuking sentence..lmao
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Yes. She did give him a mix message by giving him her number.
One day when her world crashes though, she will remember his annoying sweetness.
I think you're sending him mix messages. Have a honest conversation to find out where you and he stands on things instead of wondering/guessing.
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If you enjoy talking to him then why not? I don't see what the problem is.
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In your situation Rebel, I think he has a feeling you like him only as a friend and I think you're aware he likes you more than a friend. I'm sure you send him plenty a signal and that doesn't seem to work. Instead of sending clues and signal, put a closure to it so both of you know where things stand.
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How? Is this how closure happens?
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"When" she can't tell him no or
It gets her no way to tell him no;
It gets her no way to make him go;
Will a little more love make it right?
Will a little more love make it right?
That's what Olivia Newton-Jon wants to know.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZzPru7yrEUQ (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZzPru7yrEUQ)
In your situation Rebel, I think he has a feeling you like him only as a friend and I think you're aware he likes you more than a friend. I'm sure you send him plenty a signal and that doesn't seem to work. Instead of sending clues and signal, put a closure to it so both of you know where things stand.
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I think you're sending him mix messages. Have a honest conversation to find out where you and he stands on things instead of wondering/guessing.
I never reach out to him but I do respond out of politeness… but you are right that maybe I am sending him mix messages. I try to stay in the friendly side..but the messages are nonstop and I can’t stop from responding even though sometimes I let it go for a whole day… maybe I just need to find a cool way to say it to him
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If you enjoy talking to him then why not? I don't see what the problem is.
I’m in a relationship and he knows that but i don’t know how to really end something like this. We’re friends but like it would have to be like a break up and who breaks up with a friend like this? Lol
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In your situation Rebel, I think he has a feeling you like him only as a friend and I think you're aware he likes you more than a friend. I'm sure you send him plenty a signal and that doesn't seem to work. Instead of sending clues and signal, put a closure to it so both of you know where things stand.
I think maybe it’s just hard to end something like this… we are friends but there are attractions also. I have mentioned about it a month ago but he avoid that conversation and continues to text/call… I really need to cut it off completely! I just know it’s not going to go well :(
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You want it to stop?
give him sex just one time
there, I said it. Follow me for more recipe
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Few days passed and maybe I am interested in him so it’s becoming real hard to end things. We’re just friends. How can I politely end things even when I know there’s feelings. This is going to hurt me and him. I don’t have the balls to do i
:( I’d just cut him off cut and be done with it, not ghost the friendship.
Everything I’m trying to say to him sounds mean and hurtful…
But what if he was the one? :(
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Seems like you like him too. Why not give the guy a chance and yes he could be the one. One thing for sure, you can't string the guy/be indecisive. It's obvious he has feelings for you otherwise he would be gone by now.
Good luck!
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Uh huh. Making more sense now.
Few days passed and maybe I am interested in him so it’s becoming real hard to end things. We’re just friends. How can I politely end things even when I know there’s feelings. This is going to hurt me and him. I don’t have the balls to do i
:( I’d just cut him off cut and be done with it, not ghost the friendship.
Everything I’m trying to say to him sounds mean and hurtful…
But what if he was the one? :(