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General Category => Hmong Culture & History => Funeral Rituals & Customs => Topic started by: JazzBootz on February 16, 2012, 03:13:45 PM

Title: Can non-relatives xyom at funerals?
Post by: JazzBootz on February 16, 2012, 03:13:45 PM

Traditionally tsev xyom cuab and relatives of the deceased xyom at the funeral. 

Wondering if non-related persons (different clan, no direct blood relation) can also join in to xyom.

I would like to join my best friend to xyom for his mother but I'm not his clan nor a direct relative.  I don't want to upset his relatives or ua dabtsi txhaum lawv tsev neeg xyom cuab.

Thanks

Title: Re: Can non-relatives xyom at funerals?
Post by: yuknowthat on February 17, 2012, 04:27:32 PM

nope..just showing your respect.. tsis txaum li

Title: Re: Can non-relatives xyom at funerals?
Post by: A_New_Beginning on February 17, 2012, 09:01:12 PM

There's nothing wrong.  If the deceased person has meaning to you, you should xyom.

I know I did for alot of families. I even considered myself as the XyomCuab for alot of families.

My dad has taught me well in the Hmong culture; to love, to not have so much pride; not being selfish; pay it forward; do everything out of your pure heart but ask nothing in return.

Title: Re: Can non-relatives xyom at funerals?
Post by: Believe_N_Me on March 04, 2012, 09:04:39 PM

It just depends on how close you are to the family and how they see you. You are XyomCuab if the family says that you are.  O0

Title: Re: Can non-relatives xyom at funerals?
Post by: GoldFishFighting on April 13, 2012, 04:04:01 PM

ur xyom cuab if u say u r... everyone helping out at these rituals r considered xyom cuab... dont care last name/clan... n anyone can xyom but some nearsighted relatives might look at u strange...