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General Discussion / Re: BNM... you know what THEKING interracial marriage remind me off???

« on: Today at 10:38:22 AM »

I don't remember which PHer but she used to post this phrase all the time whenever there was a domestic killing:

"Txiv neej ces mus tuag rau ob ceg xwb os."

This applies to TGX.

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General Discussion / Re: BNM... you know what THEKING interracial marriage remind me off???

« on: Today at 10:34:21 AM »

Tou Ger Xiong died in a shameful way. It's just the sad truth.

It's like people who sky dive. It's so cool as long as they're alive. But if they die from it, people will say, "well that was stupid. How can he be that stupid to do such a risky thing."

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General Discussion / Re: BNM... you know what THEKING interracial marriage remind me off???

« on: Today at 10:33:04 AM »

Yep.

 

The legacy that Tou Ger Xiong left is that he was murdered in another country for trying to get booty.

When people say his name, that is all they will remember.

"Oh, that guy who was murdered because he went to get Mev booty?"

Even if they say, "the activist Tou Ger Xiong", people will say, "the one who was murdered because he went to get Mev booty, right?"

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General Discussion / Re: 100% Positive that if theking dies first, that daughter of his will never...

« on: Today at 10:29:25 AM »

A long time ago there was this dude who was obsessed over a very famous and desired Hmong singer. He said that if he couldn't marry her then he would not marry at all. Anyways, he eventually married a Chinese wife. Unfortunately, this dude died from cancer. He didn't have any blood brothers but his clan did do the funeral.

Anyways, after he gone, his Chinese wife took the kids and moved to China.

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General Discussion / Re: 100% Positive that if theking dies first, that daughter of his will never...

« on: Today at 10:27:15 AM »

haahahah

too funny BNM

 

You know that I'm right. 

theking's daughter only has family's security as long as he is alive. But once he gone, she'll only have her mom and perhaps her Chinese grandparents if they're still alive. theking's family won't feel comfortable to have input if only the Chinese wife is still around.

If you have kids, your kids will have all your cousins, uncles, aunts, etc. They might not be doing things together all the time but your kids know that they can always count on your clan to come through for them.

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General Relationship / Are you with the one who really loves you? If NO, why not?

« on: Today at 10:19:53 AM »

Well? 

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General Relationship / Re: If you give someone unconditional love and they don't want it...

« on: Today at 10:17:12 AM »

What I'm trying to say is that some people are in no position to even be in a relationship. That means they shouldn't even be trying to meet or talk to people. They'll only create more emotional conflict within themselves and for the other person.

But for those who are in a position, meaning state of mind (because that's the most important), there will never be a perfect time. How your interactions are carried out will depend on the logistics of things. For example, if you're long distance, you won't be in the same physical space a lot but you could compensate by talking more on the phone.

However, if you're blessed to meet someone who loves you and will make the effort, why give that up? If you truly believe that you can't accept then you probably shouldn't have been open to meeting people to begin with. Trust me, this will be that one person who got away.

But I'm also someone who believes that God has something to do with who you get with. Sometimes the person whom you're only remotely interested in is very available to you. But the person who you really want to be with and loves you back, there seems to be all sorts of obstacles that you can't seem to overcome. Yep, that's the universe redirecting you.

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General Relationship / Re: You'll have your dream guy when you look for these things:

« on: Today at 09:58:44 AM »

The type of man to be careful with is the one who will do grand gestures that look like he's taking action towards commitment with you. A lot of women have fallen for this. This man will do things that are typically only husband role: help pay some of your bills, cosign to purchases, perform yard work, watch your kids (if you're a single mother), etc. But in actuality, what I noticed, is that this man is looking for a part-time family. He's just very lonely and feeling excluded from his own married siblings/cousins/etc. He wants the benefits of having a family without true commitment and obligations. 

I see a lot of this situationship nowadays. Especially divorced dudes whose exes left them high and dry.

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General Relationship / Re: You'll have your dream guy when you look for these things:

« on: Today at 09:46:59 AM »

Save your energy and don't catch feelings for the time wasters. Not saying that there aren't a lot of fun guys with good chemistry. Just saying that they're not in a state of mind to go all in.

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General Relationship / A man who wants stability always know what he's looking for...

« on: Today at 09:36:48 AM »

...and he's not going to string you along until he's ready because his time is valuable to him as well.

It doesn't take a man long to know that you're the one. It won't be your job to prove anything. In fact, what will happen is that he'll court you for this reason alone:

To see if you're attracted and willing to commit to him. He already knows that he likes you and wants commitment with you.

The dudes who are testing to see if there is compatibility or if they like you enough ARE PLAYING. If a man has to test to see if he likes you enough then RUN. Even if you get him, it will be a very one-sided relationship where he has all the power. You'll feel anxious all the time and fearful of abandonment.

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General Relationship / Re: You'll have your dream guy when you look for these things:

« on: Today at 09:30:06 AM »

Good women don't have to prove anything. This is how it works with good men who do want commitment.

First, a woman should already be a wife - just not his wife yet. This means that she is already in her wife energy. It's not something that she becomes when she gets married.

Next, the man has to be the one to show that he can be her husband. She need only give him the signal to pursue her.

The women who act agreeable at all times are insecure. In a sense, this is an act of chasing.

Not to sound arrogant or anything but I've had my own share of men who came to ask me to marry them. I didn't even really know who they were or anything. I'm one of those girls back in the days when the elders and guys would say, "hey, she would be a great wife and looks great. Go ask her to marry."

My own sister got married this way. She and my brother in law never dated. They weren't a couple for years, etc. etc. He saw her and just knew that she was the one. Then he came and asked for her hand in marriage. And these aren't transactional marriages either where the guy just needs a woman to perform wifely duties.

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General Relationship / Re: sorry, i don’t do SINGLE HMONG DIVORCE MOTHER WITH MULT KIDS…

« on: Today at 09:20:41 AM »

A lot of women don't do single fathers either --> I am one of those women. I guess it would depend on how many children he has but men with baby mamas tend to come with a lot of drama. Heck, men who played house have a lot of drama. 

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General Relationship / You'll have your dream guy when you look for these things:

« on: Today at 02:20:32 AM »

A man who is in a position to do these things and has the desire to do them -

- take care of someone
- accrue assets
- create stability
- secure a wife who will help oversee these things

The most satisfying and successful marriages I know include a husband who is all of these things. Otherwise, you just have a dude who enjoys spending time with you and using up your energy. In essence, a playmate. Which is why so many women are unhappy in their marriage/situationship.

It doesn't matter how nice he is or how much you enjoy his company. If he isn't in this state of mind and in a position to do these things, then you'll only be disappointed. Stop playing house with men. Then they'll know that they have to go do these things before they can get with you. Release them to go learn how to be a proper man and stop rescuing them.

No hobosexuals. The world has too many hobosexuals nowadays.

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General Discussion / Re: YO BNM… I’M SURPRISE YOU MANAGE TO FIND A HUSBAND. i would “kho” fix you inste

« on: Today at 01:44:30 AM »

hmgROCK,

When a woman doesn't see you as a real man who is worth her time, this is how she will speak to you. Men like you and theking are used to low value women who do the chasing so you automatically think someone like me will sleep with you. Dream on.

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General Discussion / 100% Positive that if theking dies first, that daughter of his will never...

« on: Today at 01:08:44 AM »

...see the Hmong again.

The Chinese wife isn't going to encourage her to know her Hmong side.