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Marriage & Family Life / Re: No one loves you more than your spouse
« Last post by Believe_N_Me on Today at 03:15:47 PM »That's a lie women are telling themselves, thinking no one outside of their spouse will/can love them. The world is full of men but I think for women to find that person/love, we need to value ourself, not be like a fish dying without water, a woman dying without the love of a man. The key to finding love is be yourself, value yourself and a man will value you. If he does not, he's not the one. A man who truly values you will find a treasure in you.
When a woman says that she loves herself more and doesn't need a man, that means not getting involved in a situation or having a boyfriend, and that she will only give herself to a man who is her husband.
The woman who says that she doesn't need a man but agrees to be someone's girlfriend is only setting herself up to be strung along.
I'm really old school when it comes to dating. In fact, I don't date. I'll talk to guys and that's enough for me to tell if I want to marry someone. I don't need to sleep with them, accompany them to events, go to lunch/dinner, play house, etc. Those things to me, are just setting up expectations for disappointment, misunderstandi ngs, heartbreak, etc. If I am doing those things with a man then it's only because my understanding is that we do have a commitment and it's just logistics we're still working out. I would've made that clear to him before I even engage in those activities with him. Otherwise, I'd view it that he was only using me.
Some will accuse me of being too strict. However, I noticed that people who do those things are very broken when they enter a new relationship - god forbid a marriage. They can never fully give themselves or love and appreciate the new person.
If it came down to a man who was in a long-term cohabitation with a girlfriend vs. a divorced man, I prefer the divorced man.
The divorcee has shown that he can commit. The long-term cohabitation guy has shown that he can string along a woman.