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Title: College is lonely? anyone?
Post by: Fyou on February 05, 2011, 03:57:52 PM
They said college is like very lonely places...unlik e high school anymore... share your story haha!
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Post by: zena on February 05, 2011, 07:54:06 PM
True.

Back then, when my friends were all partying/marrying, etc.  I was in school and working.  I only partied when I didn't have a huge paper due or an exam to ace.

Now...I'm taking my classes all online and yeah...it's pretty lonely and depressing as well. That's why I come on PH!!! LOL.
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Post by: NkaujNom on February 06, 2011, 12:10:22 AM
In reference to studying, books, and homework - never lonely with all these accompanying one! :)

Emotionally... quite so. And for the most part... inevitable.
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Post by: Fyou on February 06, 2011, 05:17:28 PM
True.

Back then, when my friends were all partying/marrying, etc.  I was in school and working.  I only partied when I didn't have a huge paper due or an exam to ace.

Now...I'm taking my classes all online and yeah...it's pretty lonely and depressing as well. That's why I come on PH!!! LOL.

Funny. i like your little story.
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Post by: Fyou on February 06, 2011, 05:25:41 PM
What's to fear?  Isolation and finding strength along the way will only make you that much stronger, despite being an academic pursuit in this case.  

The world, or a career, can be a lonely place.   ;)

Personally, college was a blast.  I wouldn't change a thing.

there's nothing to fear of but then life gets too lonely...can't help it haha haha
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Post by: Fyou on February 06, 2011, 05:26:47 PM
In reference to studying, books, and homework - never lonely with all these accompanying one! :)

Emotionally... quite so. And for the most part... inevitable.

hmm still that's boring.... ROFL!
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Post by: silkstream on February 07, 2011, 12:59:18 AM
They said college is like very lonely places...unlik e high school anymore... share your story haha!

It depends on what your environment and your own personality are like. But I read somewhere that college freshmen rank as one of the loneliest groups, especially around the holidays.
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Post by: snowpea on February 08, 2011, 12:29:04 AM
College was 10X better than high school.   
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Post by: buster_me on February 08, 2011, 01:13:01 AM
college are one of the best moments. now that i graduated its so boring and life is so much diff
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Post by: Fyou on February 09, 2011, 12:15:55 AM
College was 10X better than high school.   

Tell me your story ???
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Post by: Fyou on February 09, 2011, 12:16:47 AM
college are one of the best moments. now that i graduated its so boring and life is so much diff

Yes cauz you're growing old now... same thing to us..
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Post by: snowpea on February 09, 2011, 10:25:04 PM
Tell me your story ???

Well, basically I went to high school with a bunch of ignorant white people who have never been around Asian people before (even though Fresno was just next door, lol) I was the the typical quiet Asian kid who just stuck to herself and worked hard at school.  Plus, my parents never allowed me to do any extracurricula r activities or hang out with friends and I didn't have a car so life was a bore.  Then I went to college, met some great people including my boyfriend, had the freaken time of my life and the rest is history.  ;)
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Post by: Lady_Fallin on February 11, 2011, 02:23:01 PM
I haven't made a single friend in college. It's been three years already.  Why?  People are busy. We don't have to time to talk to each other during class, or outside of class for that matters.  Everyone rushes away to their own little corner.

 8)
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Post by: kaiyu on February 23, 2011, 12:26:18 AM
the first 2 years of college is the most fun, 3rd and 4th year it's all about studying and making sure you're graduating on time...lol...s o yeah it will be fun, but later on lonely, but who cares there's always time to have fun.
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Post by: Json on March 03, 2011, 08:41:17 PM
College is lonely but it doesn't bother me.  I'm not there to make friends, I have plenty already. 
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Post by: passingby#2 on March 04, 2011, 02:18:17 PM
College for me was lonely.  I went to school all day then worked evening till 10, came home ate, study then did it all over again.  My only social life was on the weekends.  In college, you have friends, but it's not like in highschool where you can hang out after school and such.  Evryone has a different schedule and if you worked that took up even more of your time.

Yeah, the road to success is a lonely one in that you're really on your own if you push hard you succeed if you don't you fail.
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Post by: Mr.Loj on March 16, 2011, 03:18:14 AM
College was a great part of my life. Girls, studying, papers, labs, finals, partying, drinking,and did I mention girls? I wish I could go back to college. 
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Post by: softlips on April 02, 2011, 02:32:56 PM
College for me was lonely.  I went to school all day then worked evening till 10, came home ate, study then did it all over again.  My only social life was on the weekends.  In college, you have friends, but it's not like in highschool where you can hang out after school and such.  Evryone has a different schedule and if you worked that took up even more of your time.

Yeah, the road to success is a lonely one in that you're really on your own if you push hard you succeed if you don't you fail.

I can say the same.....

The program I enrolled in took about 20 students per year and if you dont study hard you fall behind quick. Even though the group was small I didnt really make any real friends where we did things out of school. It didnt help when I'm the only one who worked and went to school. I just cant afford it like they can. And when I study, I study alone compare to them being in groups. But I do well when I'm on my own anyways so I didnt mind.

College certainly is a true test of character though.....
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Post by: Evil_K_Man on May 17, 2011, 04:55:17 PM
I wish I could of done more in college, but limitations (being mainly money since I was a broke student) made it difficult to go out and have fun.  Apparently my school was a commuter school so there wasn't too much campus life happening.  Also it seems like the freshmen class knew each other.  My first day in the dormitory the only person I knew was my roommate (who was hmong and from the same city as me), but it seems like everybody on the floor knew each other...they must of been locals who went to the same high schools.

My weekends were reserved for studying since I needed it to catch up because I was working during the weekdays.  However I made friends in college (mainly from work), so it was cool.
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Post by: starflyy on May 13, 2013, 10:15:05 PM
Ahh, it seems I am a few years late, lol ^.^
Your college life really depends on you and how you want your college experience to be like.
It depends on how often you are active on campus and how much you socialize on campus.
During my freshman year, I was the one who always planned ovie nights with my new friends in college. I was active too, but then this year, as my sophomore year, I was not as active. I realized some of my friends from freshman year were fake and two faced, so yes, as of now, lonely :[ But I learned how to cope with it and made new friends, joined different clubs :)

Also, socializing and getting to know people and getting out there actually helps you network. Like if you need to find a job, you'd be surprised at how many people can help you or know a place where there are employees needed. :)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Post by: PRINCESS. on May 13, 2013, 10:53:36 PM
I wish I could of done more in college, but limitations (being mainly money since I was a broke student) made it difficult to go out and have fun.  Apparently my school was a commuter school so there wasn't too much campus life happening.  Also it seems like the freshmen class knew each other.  My first day in the dormitory the only person I knew was my roommate (who was hmong and from the same city as me), but it seems like everybody on the floor knew each other...they must of been locals who went to the same high schools.

My weekends were reserved for studying since I needed it to catch up because I was working during the weekdays.  However I made friends in college (mainly from work), so it was cool.

I had a similar experience as you going to a commuter university. If I could do it all over again I'd pick a school in a different state or some place far enough from home....and one with a great campus life.
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Post by: duckwingduck on May 14, 2013, 02:42:55 PM
It depends on you.

You could be lonely or you could be having the time of your life.  You need to find a balance.

Join student organizations, make a few good friends, not the wild partying type who will drop out of college after a year.
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Post by: tRouBLe on May 15, 2013, 02:18:19 PM
college is what you make of it.  it can be lonely but it can also be fun.  for me, college was great and a very good learning experience.  i would recommend people to live on campus at least one year (if possible).  you will get to see what college and campus life is really like.   ;)
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Post by: Sleipnir on May 20, 2013, 10:41:40 PM
College was da bomb.
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Post by: tRouBLe on May 25, 2013, 06:21:18 PM
true story, i hardly ever partied in high school... i was more of homebody athlete who never drank a drop of liquor... the very first house party i ever attended was in college my freshman yr... it was my friend's birthday party... word travels fast among the asian students on campus...


before i knew it, this tiny 600 sq ft apartment had pretty much all the asians on campus crammed in it or at least all the cool asians who liked to party... i was slamming beers with folks left and right... and peppermint schnapps... oh that there peppermint schnapps i'll never forget.... how it left its everlasting impression on me as it made its way back up and out through my nose...


then the cops came and broke the party up... lol. great memories... and then i some how ended up making out with a good female friend of mine who had extremely long athletic legs because she played a ton of volleyball ... lol. i could barely recall the night but the morning after she said that i had made out with her bare legs...lol. she there would become my present day wife...  ;D

I bet you have lots of other stories to tell.   ^-^
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Post by: Sleipnir on June 23, 2013, 10:21:59 PM
true story, i hardly ever partied in high school... i was more of homebody athlete who never drank a drop of liquor... the very first house party i ever attended was in college my freshman yr... it was my friend's birthday party... word travels fast among the asian students on campus...


before i knew it, this tiny 600 sq ft apartment had pretty much all the asians on campus crammed in it or at least all the cool asians who liked to party... i was slamming beers with folks left and right... and peppermint schnapps... oh that there peppermint schnapps i'll never forget.... how it left its everlasting impression on me as it made its way back up and out through my nose...


then the cops came and broke the party up... lol. great memories... and then i some how ended up making out with a good female friend of mine who had extremely long athletic legs because she played a ton of volleyball ... lol. i could barely recall the night but the morning after she said that i had made out with her bare legs...lol. she there would become my present day wife...  ;D



Nice. I had an apt like that too.  Not just college students but local non college Hmong people came too. Lol.

So many memories.  LOL.
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Post by: NorthToWest on February 01, 2014, 12:13:49 PM
^^^good thing I didn't join you party animals at St. Cloud State!  It would of took me 8 years to get my 4 year degree...lol
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Post by: TruthAboveKnowledge on February 05, 2014, 06:34:59 PM
Hahahah, Ramen noodles, I think I have enough of them things for the rest of my life.  Cheaper by the dozen at Sam's Club.

Laughter is cheap.  Here you go if you're bored.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ou_DYLKzekk# (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ou_DYLKzekk#)
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Post by: unmatchable on April 09, 2014, 09:21:17 PM
If you enjoy what you're studying and work hard in school, there's really no time for being lonely. Before you know it, the semester is over.
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Post by: VillainousHero on April 09, 2014, 10:31:53 PM
College is only lonely when you're under 21...
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Post by: thePoster on August 25, 2014, 10:54:22 PM
Hers my advice on y'all's being depressed and sad in college ...  Yes it's fun and stuff ...  But there's more fun after college...

I never graduated from any college but...  I can tell y'all's that make sure you graduate, get a nice job..  And most importantly, if you want to still have fun, stay single after you graduate and get that nice job...  There's nothing like having money to do things...


I think a lot of the young graduates and nearing graduate kids are afraid the fun will be over after college...  Actually it's not..

There's different types of fun for different times in your lives...  It doesn't stop in college..
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Post by: peng_yang on October 11, 2014, 10:41:00 AM
I think college is lonely. I actually went through a depression 2 years ago in Fall of 2012. Basically, I was a mechanical engineering major and there weren't a lot of Hmong guys/girls around in the program. The engineering program is pretty intense too so I never really did have time to go to the other part of campus (where many of the Hmongs were). When you're frustrated with your course work, there's nobody there who shares the same background and perspective to talk to. Almost all of my classmates are white people who are second/third/fourth generation engineers while I was the first generation (not hating but stating the obvious). Even the international students were second/third generation engineers. Because of this I felt isolated as ever because I did not know where I belong in this college life. It also brought me to the point where I actually questioned my ethnic background and whether it was worth it being Hmong or believing in the culture.

Long story short, I began researching about the Hmong culture and my parents history and have then recovered from the depression later in the Spring. Since then I appreciated being Hmong and have a sense of self-pride and appreciation.

I think college is lonely but it also was where I had the greatest times of my years.
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Post by: hyaaj on June 28, 2015, 11:12:58 PM
lol true i am alone at college, i dont have any friend and i have a hard time making friends :"( sad aint it
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Post by: Sleipnir on July 01, 2015, 10:50:42 AM
lol true i am alone at college, i dont have any friend and i have a hard time making friends :"( sad aint it

Bummer...  My first year in college I was pretty shy and stayed locked up as well...  But man, like someone else posted, first house party i ever went to... there was no turning back...  I got bit by the social bug.

And once you start to know people and they know you, word tends to spread as you get pulled into the crowd at school.  That was my experience anyway.... 

"oh, you're the guy they were talking about who knows a ton about fixing and tuning cars..."

"oh, you're the guy who is taking Organic Chem..  I need help..."

"oh, you're the guy who lives in a house off campus, we need to party sometime..."

It all just comes once you hit that first domino...  just go with it, man...  Good luck and relax and have fun...  Like I always tell people...  College is 50% academically challenging, and 50% socially challenging...


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Post by: hyaaj on July 01, 2015, 11:36:47 PM
Bummer...  My first year in college I was pretty shy and stayed locked up as well...  But man, like someone else posted, first house party i ever went to... there was no turning back...  I got bit by the social bug.

And once you start to know people and they know you, word tends to spread as you get pulled into the crowd at school.  That was my experience anyway.... 

"oh, you're the guy they were talking about who knows a ton about fixing and tuning cars..."

"oh, you're the guy who is taking Organic Chem..  I need help..."

"oh, you're the guy who lives in a house off campus, we need to party sometime..."

It all just comes once you hit that first domino...  just go with it, man...  Good luck and relax and have fun...  Like I always tell people...  College is 50% academically challenging, and 50% socially challenging...
i am no social person but i made a friend yesterday lol she need my help 4 for our exam :P lol  O0
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Post by: hyaaj on July 01, 2015, 11:37:54 PM
Join a fraternity/sorority of you are lonely...I was the same until I joined a Fraternity and now I have plenty or sometimes too many friends...LOL
its a city college no  fraternity/sorority
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Post by: thePoster on July 05, 2015, 01:51:24 PM
Think college is fun?

Wait till you start making in the real world and you can drop money like it's nothing and go places on a whim.  YOu'll then be having fun... but I guess only if you're single.

College is fun too, what you got going for yourself is youth. 


When I was taking a class last spring semester.. I wouldn't say I was lonely... I was just upset I couldn't go out!    My friend be like "c'mon man, you don't need to study"

I'd be like "I want to go too but I have to study".

It sucked alot... test or quiz basically every week.  I was working a full time job too.  By the time I got done with work and school, I' wouldn't get home till 9... and then go to the gym too.. it'd be 11-12 before I could go to sleep and then wake up at 5 to go to work...  didn't have time to study on the weekdays... I had to wait till the weekend to study.  Sucked... The weekdays I didn't go to class, I just go to the gym and catch up on my sleep.

But I ended up with an A in that class.
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Post by: thePoster on July 05, 2015, 01:57:00 PM
Dang, I just read some of yalls post...


Depression?!? How do you folks even get that way?


I never understood people and their "emotional problems"...

I think everyone is capable of being in control of their mental state.




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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 14, 2015, 01:48:06 PM
No it wasn't >:( it was fun and exciting, lots of activities and interactive social committees/clubs/various things to do :)
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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 14, 2015, 01:59:13 PM
lol I know I'm still in it...even in the summer  :'(

Well then, you best join them clubs and committees and mingle O0 :D
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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 14, 2015, 02:47:34 PM
already in one. My nick TKE (Tau Kappa Epsilon) fraternity.  ;D

Oh lord... hehehe, such a minion :P
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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 14, 2015, 02:58:13 PM
lol HASHTAGS!!!

Reminds me of that David so funny dude :P
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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 14, 2015, 03:03:14 PM
Your hashtags should be:

#lonelycollegeguy
#almosttherebutyetsofar
#minionsand theirissues
#minionstateofmind
 :2funny:
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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 14, 2015, 03:16:13 PM
 ;D :2funny:

idk about the first hashtag but the second one is confusing with no direction to assist.  ::) 8)
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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 14, 2015, 03:32:41 PM
It should be:

#Iaminchargeforthetimebeing (until you find a gf or wife, which ever comes first) ;D
#Iamnotacrook (Pres Nixon) :P
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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 14, 2015, 04:01:02 PM
See, men lose their freedom when they marry. Women on the other hand adapt :P they make the husband adapt to them, so I have seen :2funny: all my nyabs control what preoccupies their time as a couple ;D :D
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Post by: Giggles_Shyly on July 15, 2015, 07:12:20 AM
 :2funny: just laying it out like a rug so there are no surprises for you. Once you have an official gf/wife, say goodbye to freedom, ONLY if you are lucky to meet/marry an open minded woman, you can't lose that freedom ;D :D ;D :D
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Post by: Blongforever on December 11, 2016, 12:45:25 PM
They said college is like very lonely places...unlik e high school anymore... share your story haha!

College is "Lonely"? 

OMG...who has time to be "lonely" in college?  Even a geek finds it hard to stretch his days. 

WTF is this world coming to these days?