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General Relationship / Are you with the one who really loves you? If NO, why not?
« on: Today at 10:19:53 AM »
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General Relationship / A man who wants stability always know what he's looking for...
« on: Today at 09:36:48 AM »
...and he's not going to string you along until he's ready because his time is valuable to him as well.
It doesn't take a man long to know that you're the one. It won't be your job to prove anything. In fact, what will happen is that he'll court you for this reason alone:
To see if you're attracted and willing to commit to him. He already knows that he likes you and wants commitment with you.
The dudes who are testing to see if there is compatibility or if they like you enough ARE PLAYING. If a man has to test to see if he likes you enough then RUN. Even if you get him, it will be a very one-sided relationship where he has all the power. You'll feel anxious all the time and fearful of abandonment.
It doesn't take a man long to know that you're the one. It won't be your job to prove anything. In fact, what will happen is that he'll court you for this reason alone:
To see if you're attracted and willing to commit to him. He already knows that he likes you and wants commitment with you.
The dudes who are testing to see if there is compatibility or if they like you enough ARE PLAYING. If a man has to test to see if he likes you enough then RUN. Even if you get him, it will be a very one-sided relationship where he has all the power. You'll feel anxious all the time and fearful of abandonment.
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General Relationship / You'll have your dream guy when you look for these things:
« on: Today at 02:20:32 AM »
A man who is in a position to do these things and has the desire to do them -
- take care of someone
- accrue assets
- create stability
- secure a wife who will help oversee these things
The most satisfying and successful marriages I know include a husband who is all of these things. Otherwise, you just have a dude who enjoys spending time with you and using up your energy. In essence, a playmate. Which is why so many women are unhappy in their marriage/situationship.
It doesn't matter how nice he is or how much you enjoy his company. If he isn't in this state of mind and in a position to do these things, then you'll only be disappointed. Stop playing house with men. Then they'll know that they have to go do these things before they can get with you. Release them to go learn how to be a proper man and stop rescuing them.
No hobosexuals. The world has too many hobosexuals nowadays.
- take care of someone
- accrue assets
- create stability
- secure a wife who will help oversee these things
The most satisfying and successful marriages I know include a husband who is all of these things. Otherwise, you just have a dude who enjoys spending time with you and using up your energy. In essence, a playmate. Which is why so many women are unhappy in their marriage/situationship.
It doesn't matter how nice he is or how much you enjoy his company. If he isn't in this state of mind and in a position to do these things, then you'll only be disappointed. Stop playing house with men. Then they'll know that they have to go do these things before they can get with you. Release them to go learn how to be a proper man and stop rescuing them.
No hobosexuals. The world has too many hobosexuals nowadays.
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General Discussion / 100% Positive that if theking dies first, that daughter of his will never...
« on: Today at 01:08:44 AM »
...see the Hmong again.
The Chinese wife isn't going to encourage her to know her Hmong side.
The Chinese wife isn't going to encourage her to know her Hmong side.
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General Discussion / You know how useless non-Hmong spouses are at Hmong events
« on: Today at 12:32:02 AM »
It's already bad enough that there are useless Hmong spouses, but a useless non-Hmong spouse?
There are very few who really chip in. theking's Chinese wife is not one of them.
The Hmong have very low expectations. They're just happy the non-Hmong spouse was willing to show up since most find Hmong customs very primitive. They feel very uncomfortable.
Hey, at least the non-Hmong spouses admit that they're useless. I'm not even criticizing them. But I know that it upsets theking because he's a son who should've married a Hmong girl who can carry out the customs.
When his mom dies, the daughter-in-laws are supposed to dress her in the Hmong clothes. Not sure theking's wife is willing to do this unless she is in the medical field and is comfortable being around a corpse.
Chinese wife will honor a Chinese husband's parents, but not so sure they feel the same obligation to a Hmong dude.
There are very few who really chip in. theking's Chinese wife is not one of them.
The Hmong have very low expectations. They're just happy the non-Hmong spouse was willing to show up since most find Hmong customs very primitive. They feel very uncomfortable.
Hey, at least the non-Hmong spouses admit that they're useless. I'm not even criticizing them. But I know that it upsets theking because he's a son who should've married a Hmong girl who can carry out the customs.
When his mom dies, the daughter-in-laws are supposed to dress her in the Hmong clothes. Not sure theking's wife is willing to do this unless she is in the medical field and is comfortable being around a corpse.
Chinese wife will honor a Chinese husband's parents, but not so sure they feel the same obligation to a Hmong dude.
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General Discussion / You know who else is pissed? theking's older sister-in-law
« on: Today at 12:17:29 AM »
She was hoping to unload - or at least share - some of the clan/family responsibiliti es onto theking's Hmong wife.
SURPRISE!!! The ahole married a Chinese wife instead.
Now mom will NEVER leave the older brother's house.
This is FACT.
Anybody who is a Hmong nyab knows that this is TRUE.
SURPRISE!!! The ahole married a Chinese wife instead.
Now mom will NEVER leave the older brother's house.
This is FACT.
Anybody who is a Hmong nyab knows that this is TRUE.
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General Discussion / FACT: Hmong mothers really hate it when their sons marry a Chinese
« on: Today at 12:09:29 AM »
I've heard it lots of time. They don't like white girls because white girls don't want mother in laws to come around. They don't like black girls because they're racist and think blacks are dirty. They don't seem to mind Latinos. They don't have too much opinions about Japanese or Thai. Not too happy about Viets - they just think Viets are too heev heev. Can be indifferent about Lao. Don't like Koreans.
BUT THEY JUST HAVE THIS DEEP-SEATED HATRED TOWARDS CHINESE WOMEN.
I remember the time a guy at church married a Chinese girl and they had a reception in the hall. Oooh, his momma was mad as hell. When she went up there to speak, she made all sorts of disparaging remarks about her Chinese daughter-in-law, but since the girl didn't speak Hmong, she didn't know what was said. All the church ladies were trying to console her and told her to just let it be.
"Kawg li yus tus tub nyiam lawm ces ua ib siab." lol
Needless to say, the Chinese girl ditched the son a couple of years later.
But anyways, Hmong mommas do not want you to be bringing that Chinese girl home!
BUT THEY JUST HAVE THIS DEEP-SEATED HATRED TOWARDS CHINESE WOMEN.
I remember the time a guy at church married a Chinese girl and they had a reception in the hall. Oooh, his momma was mad as hell. When she went up there to speak, she made all sorts of disparaging remarks about her Chinese daughter-in-law, but since the girl didn't speak Hmong, she didn't know what was said. All the church ladies were trying to console her and told her to just let it be.
"Kawg li yus tus tub nyiam lawm ces ua ib siab." lol
Needless to say, the Chinese girl ditched the son a couple of years later.
But anyways, Hmong mommas do not want you to be bringing that Chinese girl home!
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General Discussion / Hmong parents are deeply offended when sons abandon them to go live with his...
« on: April 23, 2024, 11:57:26 PM »
...wife's family.
It's a sign of weakness.
The clan also views it as a sign of weakness.
Men who do that tend to be weak. In theking's case, he didn't do that because he is weak. He preferred his Chinese in-laws because he was trying to establish supply so that he didn't have to go back to his clan.
It's a sign of weakness.
The clan also views it as a sign of weakness.
Men who do that tend to be weak. In theking's case, he didn't do that because he is weak. He preferred his Chinese in-laws because he was trying to establish supply so that he didn't have to go back to his clan.
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General Discussion / I can see why theking thinks Hmong daughters should...becuz his mom...
« on: April 23, 2024, 11:54:32 PM »
...suffered an abusive marriage and relied on all her children. Therefore, she also let the daughters wear the pants in the family.
So yeah, she probably hoped to live with her daughters, too. This is why theking abandoned his mom because he felt that his sisters should take responsibility taking care of his mom while he went off to live his blissful life with his new Chinese family.
So yeah, she probably hoped to live with her daughters, too. This is why theking abandoned his mom because he felt that his sisters should take responsibility taking care of his mom while he went off to live his blissful life with his new Chinese family.
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General Discussion / You're actually a bad nyab if you don't detach from your own parents
« on: April 23, 2024, 11:48:50 PM »
Traditional Hmong do not appreciate or like daughter-in-laws who won't detach from their own birth parents.
The paternal mother-in-law DO NOT want her grand babies to have too much time at maternal grandma's house. She views the kids as her son's children.
So in essence, yes, many traditional Hmong do prefer married daughters to kick their birth parents to the curb for lack of a better word. lol
theking is just deflecting because he is an ungrateful son.
The paternal mother-in-law DO NOT want her grand babies to have too much time at maternal grandma's house. She views the kids as her son's children.
So in essence, yes, many traditional Hmong do prefer married daughters to kick their birth parents to the curb for lack of a better word. lol
theking is just deflecting because he is an ungrateful son.
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General Discussion / The minute you marry a non-Hmong, your parents lost all kev cia siab to you
« on: April 23, 2024, 11:39:43 PM »
Who cares how well off you are. Your parents might be glad that you're doing well for yourself but a part of them died on the inside. They know that there are parts of you that are off limits to them.
So quit bragging about how much you love your parents, and how you're so this and that...in their deepest of heart, they will always prefer that you marry a Hmong.
Your non-Hmong spouse will never compare to your siblings' Hmong spouses. Even if your parents don't get along with them. The Hmong spouses and their clan would have to be complete demons for your parents to really want nothing to do with them.
As Hmong people, we all know this is FACT, especially as it pertains to OG Hmong parents who grew up in the old country.
So quit bragging about how much you love your parents, and how you're so this and that...in their deepest of heart, they will always prefer that you marry a Hmong.
Your non-Hmong spouse will never compare to your siblings' Hmong spouses. Even if your parents don't get along with them. The Hmong spouses and their clan would have to be complete demons for your parents to really want nothing to do with them.
As Hmong people, we all know this is FACT, especially as it pertains to OG Hmong parents who grew up in the old country.
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General Discussion / Why do I need to bring out my feminine side on PH? Only beta male liberals...
« on: April 23, 2024, 10:57:32 PM »
It's not like I'm trying to attract them or anything.
There are some cool ones. They know who they are. BUT THEY SURE AREN'T hmgROCK or theking.
*** ntuav ***
The women who need to act proper on PH do so because they do want to attract these beta males. They want to keep their options open just in case things don't work at home and they have to resort to PH to date. If they had a real man at home who loved and adored them, and accepted everything about them --- WHY WOULD THEY CARE ABOUT HOW THEY APPEARED TO PH LIBERAL MALES? Why would they care how they spoke to PH liberal males?
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Hmong Stories / Share something strange that you experienced
« on: April 23, 2024, 09:54:04 PM »
Could be paranormal or something that has paranormal vibes.
When I get into the car, one of the first things I tend to do is look into the rear view mirror. This one morning was no different . It had just been daylight savings so the time was moved forward. That meant that it was already very bright outside at 6:30. When I looked in the rear view mirror I saw a black cloth. It was sentient. As soon as I saw it, it ducked. Even though I knew there was nothing in the backseat, I still turned around to look anyways.
Two weeks ago I came home early from work. It was around 12 in the afternoon. The back door was completely wide open, which was very alarming. This had never happened before. I thought someone had broken into the house. When I checked the door, the lock was still on and the storm door was locked. The door was opened from the inside. I had a gut feeling that it wasn't a robber who opened the door.
A week later I was dropping off a friend at work. We first stopped at McDonald's because she wanted to grab breakfast. She treated me to a glass of orange juice, which I placed on the floor behind my seat because it was in a cupholder. When I arrived to work, I got out of the car and went to the back seat to retrieve the drink. It was 2/3 gone. I lifted the cup out, thinking that maybe there had been a leak. The floor was bone dry. I texted my friend to ask if she noticed anything when she grabbed her drink. She said "no".
Awhile back, my niece and I were on our way to jog. We stopped for fuel. After I finished pumping gas, I opened the driver's seat only to be startled. The seat was reclined all the way down. I asked my niece if she did it. She had no reason to do so. The strange thing is that she was sitting in the front passenger seat and angled towards the driver. She had her earbuds on. She should've seen the seat move but she said that she didn't see anything.
When I get into the car, one of the first things I tend to do is look into the rear view mirror. This one morning was no different . It had just been daylight savings so the time was moved forward. That meant that it was already very bright outside at 6:30. When I looked in the rear view mirror I saw a black cloth. It was sentient. As soon as I saw it, it ducked. Even though I knew there was nothing in the backseat, I still turned around to look anyways.
Two weeks ago I came home early from work. It was around 12 in the afternoon. The back door was completely wide open, which was very alarming. This had never happened before. I thought someone had broken into the house. When I checked the door, the lock was still on and the storm door was locked. The door was opened from the inside. I had a gut feeling that it wasn't a robber who opened the door.
A week later I was dropping off a friend at work. We first stopped at McDonald's because she wanted to grab breakfast. She treated me to a glass of orange juice, which I placed on the floor behind my seat because it was in a cupholder. When I arrived to work, I got out of the car and went to the back seat to retrieve the drink. It was 2/3 gone. I lifted the cup out, thinking that maybe there had been a leak. The floor was bone dry. I texted my friend to ask if she noticed anything when she grabbed her drink. She said "no".
Awhile back, my niece and I were on our way to jog. We stopped for fuel. After I finished pumping gas, I opened the driver's seat only to be startled. The seat was reclined all the way down. I asked my niece if she did it. She had no reason to do so. The strange thing is that she was sitting in the front passenger seat and angled towards the driver. She had her earbuds on. She should've seen the seat move but she said that she didn't see anything.
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Marriage & Family Life / No one loves you more than your spouse
« on: April 23, 2024, 08:53:34 PM »
Abusive partners need not apply.
Transactional marriages born out of convenience may be some of the happiest. It seemed like they got together because it was the expected thing to do at that time/age, and they happened to be available. This can work for many years, decades even. They can raise children together, create a peaceful home, and even plan for a relaxing retirement.
This is enough to have a happy life and feel fulfilled.
Transactional marriages born out of convenience may be some of the happiest. It seemed like they got together because it was the expected thing to do at that time/age, and they happened to be available. This can work for many years, decades even. They can raise children together, create a peaceful home, and even plan for a relaxing retirement.
This is enough to have a happy life and feel fulfilled.
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General Discussion / Crazy is flooding the forums for attention and then trying to shame people for..
« on: April 23, 2024, 07:49:56 PM »
...responding.
Yep. That sums up theking.
Again, who are you talking to?
I'm the only one you have on PH that will even address the point you're trying to make in your threads.
If I didn't respond, you'd literally have nobody other than your lunatic twin, hmgROCK, who is just there to troll.
Yep. That sums up theking.
Again, who are you talking to?
I'm the only one you have on PH that will even address the point you're trying to make in your threads.
If I didn't respond, you'd literally have nobody other than your lunatic twin, hmgROCK, who is just there to troll.