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General Discussion / Re: Lefties/Demmies will not admit...
« on: March 01, 2024, 11:23:56 AM »
that their policy is bad...

Athen GA, mayor blames Trump for the murder of a college student by an illegal by references Trump's statement about the Charlotteville incident and claiming that Trump and GOP have a war on foreign born American. Total BS deflecting his policy failure... All I can say is that they got what they wanted, sanctuary city.

NYC mayor Blames Trump and his supporters for the illegals problems... wants more than $2.4billion in support.

Ask any Leftie/Demmie and they can't tell you the difference between an illegal and an immigrant. So, every time you bring a negative view of 'illegals' they latched on to the "You hate immigrants" rhetoric. Kinda like how a Leftie/Demmie can't tell a woman from a transwoman - which they claimed both have menstrual cramp, menstrual cycle, can breast feed and able to bear children.

That's because woke leftists believe words are microaggressio ns. The left does not accept accountability for their emotions or their behaviors. If they feel triggered, the other person is to blame.


They don't accept gangster rap and berating lyrics about women are responsible (or microaggressio ns) for all the violence in black communities and against women and children.

Marriage & Family Life / Re: What Would You Do?
« on: February 29, 2024, 08:30:14 PM »
She did the right thing.

If he comes out, he can find someone else. You can't let
her go for years without love. She knew he would be locked
up for more than three months.

Some times a decision has to be made using head over heart.

General Relationship / Re: Let them GO!
« on: February 29, 2024, 10:54:12 AM »
you ever work in marijuana farm???
they don't let you come home
you work in the field and sleep in their shed

no shower
everything stink even the va jay jay


 ;D ;D ;D

I see. That explains why there is so much infidelity.  :D

Whenever the story starts...."Peb mus ua teb xas - - "

It's a recipe for cheating. The end.

General Relationship / Re: Let them GO!
« on: February 29, 2024, 10:23:43 AM »
you know that
a lot of those story are just made up???

 ;D ;D ;D

Who cares if they're fiction or half truths. There are not enough ghost stories to fill the entire day.

General Relationship / Let them GO!
« on: February 29, 2024, 10:18:53 AM »
Y'all I have been listening to too many Nancy Yang, Jenny Vang and Mab Vaj stories on Youtube. This is where all this stuff is coming from. I just find it so intriguing but at the same time, it makes meeting, dating, and having relationships so bleak!.  :-\ Clearly, everyone in the stories are narcissists.  :D

Anyways, there was this one story about the karma of a divorcee, but today I want to talk about the wife. Next time I will have to start sharing the link.

So the story is narrated from the POV of the divorcee's friend, who is also a divorcee. Basically, the divorcee was a self-declared homewrecker who would get into heated fights with the wives of her lovers. The divorcee was supposedly physically attractive and enjoyed having men spend a lot money on her and her friends. The divorcee said that she was too broken and had no faith in love, which was why she chose this path.

Everything took a turn when she and the narrator went to California to work on a marijuana farm. The divorcee met a handsome, charismatic, married man who was also there to work in the fields. They hooked up and had a very public relationship. The workers who knew him back home cautioned the divorcee that his wife was the heev heev type. In addition, the wife did everything and paid for everything, and the husband was the wimpy type with no ambition and didn't help around much. He was also a serial cheater. However, the divorcee and the married man swore that they were in love and he claimed that it was only a forced marriage.

One day, the wife showed up at the marijuana farm unexpectedly. It turned out that not only was she a loud, boisterous, and temperamental woman, but she was also very physically unattractive. The people were very taken aback by the fact that they were married at all.

Needless to say, there was a lot of drama, the husband went back home, more drama, had the clan mediate, etc. etc. etc. The husband continued the affair, more drama, clan said they couldn't do anything anymore.

So normally, I side with the non-cheating spouse BUT at this point, I'm going to call the wife as the culprit. Clearly, her husband married for convenience or who else knows why, and even she knew that they were not in the same league. Realistically, he should leave on his own, but she is always trying to hold him back. I don't know why he keeps staying other than he could be a narcissist and she is his primary supply, BUT she is unhappy and c'mon, she knows that she doesn't match him in terms of looks, education, etc. Not that those are the most important things but they make the two incompatible. Society always blames the old guy for when his young wife cheats. This could be the same thing where it's the wife who is not a match but keeps holding onto this guy.

Let him go.

I'm reminded of Nathaniel Hawthorn's "The Scarlet Letter" where her old, miserly husband is the villain. Everyone thinks that he shouldn't have cornered her into a marriage because she would've never been happy, and it wasn't like she could just easily divorce him.


Don't blame you. It gave me anxiety!

Yeah, I'm still working on writing those key points.

Some people are just that way. They don't think that they're being rude and disrespectful.

I have this one introverted sister-in-law. She was telling me that her sisters frequently come over to the house. They're on their phones the entire time and the thing is it doesn't sound like they are carrying any conversation of importance.

Marriage & Family Life / Re: "Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater"??
« on: February 28, 2024, 10:17:11 AM »
No marriage is perfect but healthy marriages do not include cheating, stealing, lying, breadcrumbing, stonewalling, triangulation, etc.

It just all depends on what type of marriage he wants. If he's looking for longevity then prepare to be miserable as not all long marriages have quality. Very few people who sabotage a relationship get better. They just continue to do other bad things and claim it was a mistake, and if he complains or gets upset he becomes the bad person.


General Relationship / Re: Walk away quietly OR get even?
« on: February 28, 2024, 10:04:51 AM »
don't dig a pit for someone where you might fall into as well. Just walk away, that's the best revenge.  ;)



Now that there is closure, the healing begins. Time to get back to business and remove this toxicity.

11 are less likely to be an abuser or to stay with an abuser.

So I've been studying a lot about narcissism and narcissistic traits. It seems to me that people who attract and stay with narcissists have abandonment issues stemming from their childhood as a result of neglect. These people hold on to toxic relationships because they don't believe they can find better or simply don't think they can find anybody else. Even when they know the relationship is affecting their mental health, they struggle to leave. There are even those with avoidant attachment style that say they don't need a relationship but will seek out tumultuous relationships one after another. Since their parents did not provide a supportive environment, they develop unhealthy attachments to harmful individuals later in life. They feel like having something is better than nothing.

Therefore, parents love your children so they develop a healthy self-esteem to love and be loved; so that they may never settle for convenience, and that they will be strong enough to leave when a situation no longer serves their best interest. And where do they get the courage? Because they know that even if the relationship doesn't work out, they have a loving and supportive family to come home to. 

The narcissist's dream supply.

This is a MUST watch:

General Relationship / Re: Walk away quietly OR get even?
« on: February 26, 2024, 10:35:50 PM »
Oh c'mon Rock! This could be the next big drama on Youtube.  ;D

You weren't the only one who was a latchkey kid. Lots of kids stayed home alone.

I don't know why you're so triggered by my daycare post. It's not rocket science that daycare is a last resort for a parent who really needs it because they have no other choice. But for those who can plan in advance not to take that route, then they should by all means do so.  ::)

General Relationship / Re: Walk away quietly OR get even?
« on: February 26, 2024, 08:41:44 PM »
She shouldn't seek to get even but she should confront him. All my life my parents have always taught me to take the high road. However, that has also created other stress. Confronting him about his wrongdoing will give her closure.

The light will always reveal those who operate in the dark.

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