PebHmong Discussion Forum

Relationship => Dear Dr. PebHmong => Topic started by: baddabing on September 30, 2018, 10:11:57 AM

Title: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: baddabing on September 30, 2018, 10:11:57 AM
A family member who starts doing something in the house then runs off upstairs or to other parts of the house to worry about something else and yells for another person to help out with what he/she started.  When he/she comes back and finds that he/she isn't satisfied with the help result she got from that other person.  She then will start to nag and complain about the other person not getting it right.  This is not just a 1 or 2 time thing, it's a repeated day in day out reoccurrence issue created by that unhappy nagging person brought onto others within the household.

One Example: 

He/she cooks some meat in the oven, runs away and yells for another person to looks after it.  That other person notices the meat is cooked and ready, help takes it out and puts it on a plate.  He/she comes back, instead of being appreciative starts nagging, yelling...urrh h!  Why can't you get it right, you're supposed to also cover the meat with something too!  omg! omg!!!!!
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: Gucci K on October 01, 2018, 08:28:23 AM
yes...it is acceptable, if she asks for help and the help isn't good enough.  the assistance that was asked of, didn't require one to be a rocket scientist...ju st common sense.  the help was an half-a$$ed job, it would cause one to be irritated.

if i asked my gf to wash the dishes and she only washed them but did not rinse...yes, she's getting spanked! ha!
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: Mr_Mechanic on October 01, 2018, 08:53:36 AM
I would say, mother father......do it yourself then. 
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: Dok_Champa on October 01, 2018, 03:56:34 PM
Depends if her nagging has a point and she seems to be multitasking which means she could use more help around the house.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: Reporter on October 07, 2018, 11:20:12 AM
She's not a good nyab tshiab.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: Believe_N_Me on October 13, 2018, 02:45:34 AM
Are these menial tasks?

If one doesn't know how to perform the task then just ask that person. It could be that she's a perfectionist. Know when to assist and when to opt out.

Example, if she's running upstairs to grab her phone, volunteer to do that so she can check the meat herself.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: Steven on November 05, 2018, 12:13:16 PM
A difference in opinion usually will always result in nonacceptance. It's human nature. It's understanding each other''s shoe that will bring us a better toleration for why.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: YAX on December 11, 2018, 11:26:03 AM
A family member who starts doing something in the house then runs off upstairs or to other parts of the house to worry about something else and yells for another person to help out with what he/she started.  When he/she comes back and finds that he/she isn't satisfied with the help result she got from that other person.  She then will start to nag and complain about the other person not getting it right.  This is not just a 1 or 2 time thing, it's a repeated day in day out reoccurrence issue created by that unhappy nagging person brought onto others within the household.

One Example: 

He/she cooks some meat in the oven, runs away and yells for another person to looks after it.  That other person notices the meat is cooked and ready, help takes it out and puts it on a plate.  He/she comes back, instead of being appreciative starts nagging, yelling...urrh h!  Why can't you get it right, you're supposed to also cover the meat with something too!  omg! omg!!!!!
Some people like to do that.  Makes them feel important.  Avoid them whenever you can and call them out when necessary.  The worst thing for them is to be told they're wrong.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: theking on December 11, 2018, 01:47:09 PM
The worst thing for them is to be told they're wrong.

Yep especially like those that ignorantly claimed there's no "land" in the Bay Area, and you proved them "wrong" with *FACTS* and even provided the factual evidence to educate them...but instead can't learn and foam badly.. ;D
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: YAX on December 11, 2018, 02:01:00 PM
See what I mean?  Call them out.  But keep in mind, the worst thing for them is being told they're wrong.  Once you do that, they'd be after you for life.  They can't handle being told they're wrong.  It hurts their self esteem too much, that's why they follow you around and try to say whatever they can to get you back for proving them wrong.  Sad but true.  The proof is in the reply directly above.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: theking on December 11, 2018, 03:05:11 PM
See what I mean?  Call them out.  But keep in mind, the worst thing for them is being told they're wrong.  Once you do that, they'd be after you for life.  They can't handle being told they're wrong.  It hurts their self esteem too much, that's why they follow you around and try to say whatever they can to get you back for proving them wrong.  Sad but true.  The proof is in the reply directly above.

"See what I mean?"...Still foaming badly instead of taking ownership of the ignorant claim of no "land" in the Bay Area and learn from it..."The proof is in the reply directly above"...
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: YAX on December 11, 2018, 03:35:02 PM
I think my point's been proven here.  O0
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: theking on December 11, 2018, 06:28:22 PM


I KNOW my "point" of you not being able to take ownership of your wrongs and learn from it has been "proven" here.  O0
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: YAX on December 12, 2018, 09:39:08 AM
obviously, you're too far gone.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: theking on December 12, 2018, 01:35:17 PM
Says the ignorant that claim to be "gone" but continue to crawl back due to his heavy foaming...no different than the other members of narrow minded ignorant clique..like BNM, wrongforever, etc...their words are all useless.. ;D
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: YAX on December 12, 2018, 02:56:18 PM
note to self: best way to deal with crazy is to just whistle like you don't see anything.  Ignore him and he'll eventually go away. 
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: theking on December 12, 2018, 03:12:16 PM

"note to self: best way to deal with "crazy" ignorant is continue to use FACTS...

"Ignore him"...What a HYPOCRITE ignorant...Wat ch as the ignorant crawls back...and go against his worthless words again...As I've said, no different than the other members like BNM, wrongforever, etc.. ;D
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: YAX on December 27, 2018, 01:57:38 PM
2nd note to self: ignoring crazy only makes him crazier so Keep ignoring crazy. It's fun to watch.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: theking on December 28, 2018, 03:08:45 AM
See what I mean, what a HYPOCRITE ignorant..as worthless as his words...AND YEP, WATCH AS HE CRAWLS BACK TO PROVE ME RIGHT LIKE SOME OF HIS FELLOW MEMBERS OF THEIR NARROW MINDED IGNORANT CLIQUE I.E., BNM... O0

Sure it's "fun" watching "crazy" ignorant hypocrites foam at the mouth when you try to educate them with facts but instead of learn from their wrongs, they continue their ignorant cycles...FACTS BEAT IGNORANCE!  O0
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: YAX on December 28, 2018, 12:25:21 PM
3rd note to self: Yup, it's definitely working.   The volcano is exploding and it's hilarious.  ;D :2funny:
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: theking on December 28, 2018, 01:02:32 PM
See how much this member is foaming still like a "volcano is exploding" through his mouth and NOPE, he still can't lean that his ignorance can't beat FACTS...Which is why he crawls back to prove me right again like his fellow members...His "ignore" claim is as worthless as his fellow member, BNM's claim of "I will stop reading what you right"... LOVE the entertainment from the handful members of the narrow minded ignorant clique ...damn "hilarious"... ;D O0 ;D

Oh and WATCH AS HE CRAWLS BACK TO PROVE ME RIGHT AGAIN BECAUSE HIS "ignore" CLAIM IS A WORTHLESS AS HIM... ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: gwenhyfara on January 06, 2019, 06:58:10 PM
A family member who starts doing something in the house then runs off upstairs or to other parts of the house to worry about something else and yells for another person to help out with what he/she started.  When he/she comes back and finds that he/she isn't satisfied with the help result she got from that other person.  She then will start to nag and complain about the other person not getting it right.  This is not just a 1 or 2 time thing, it's a repeated day in day out reoccurrence issue created by that unhappy nagging person brought onto others within the household.

One Example: 

He/she cooks some meat in the oven, runs away and yells for another person to looks after it.  That other person notices the meat is cooked and ready, help takes it out and puts it on a plate.  He/she comes back, instead of being appreciative starts nagging, yelling...urrh h!  Why can't you get it right, you're supposed to also cover the meat with something too!  omg! omg!!!!!

To answer the question of whether or not this behavior is acceptable, at the moment it IS acceptable because you are enabling her behavior by putting up with it. If you don't like how she nags and complains after instructing others to help her out, then simply DO NOT help her out anymore. Thus the behavior becomes unacceptable and the result might be that she changes or stops asking for help.

However, knowing how people are, the nagging might continue either way.
Title: Re: Is this person's behavior acceptable within a family household?
Post by: lilly on May 22, 2019, 04:10:58 PM
O. M. G.  This thread is hilarious!   :2funny: