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General Discussion / Don't shoot these guys especially not 11 times because we enjoy their food

« on: July 09, 2021, 11:38:12 AM »

‘It’s a miracle’: Korean BBQ restaurant owner survives 11 gunshots in Washington

The owner of Palace Korean BBQ in Tukwila, Wash., spoke out after being shot 11 times in an attempted armed robbery in June. A miracle: Restaurant owner Tony So said it's a “miracle” he is still alive after the incident, reported Q13 Fox.

We stopped by this place and it's not bad, not as good as OZ though:

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General Discussion / Re: Speaking of hot National Parks in the Southwest, it's all about common sense

« on: July 09, 2021, 11:13:52 AM »

It's such a unique place that even Hollywood i.e., Transformers used it for their scene as well as regular folks using it for a photo op to create their own beautiful memory:



https://www.reddit.com/r/MilitaryGfys/comments/4vlada/ac_130_bringing_the_pain_to_decepticons/

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General Discussion / Re: Speaking of hot National Parks in the Southwest, it's all about common sense

« on: July 09, 2021, 11:10:39 AM »

Not much shades unless you're in one of the rest areas:

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General Discussion / Re: Speaking of hot National Parks in the Southwest, it's all about common sense

« on: July 09, 2021, 11:07:59 AM »

There are plenty of warnings so there's no excuse for folks to died on a fun outing unless they have no common sense  :

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General Discussion / Speaking of hot National Parks in the Southwest, it's all about common sense

« on: July 09, 2021, 11:06:19 AM »

Park rangers find body after tracking footprints away from car in New Mexico desert

“During the extreme summer heat, it is critical to be prepared and know your limitations,” park officials said in a news release. “For summer hiking at White Sands, the park recommends starting in the coolest part of the day, early morning or early evening.” Volunteers with the Organ Mountain Technical Rescue Squad spent hours searching for the man’s footprints on Monday. Once rescue officials located the footprints, they tracked them for a half mile before finding the body. “Each year, park rangers respond to dozens of search and rescue incidents in the park,” park officials said. “These frequently involve heat exhaustion, dehydration, and injuries.”

When we were there, it was one of the most unique places I've been to so if you don't want to get burn, use common sense...

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General Discussion / This is one of the reasons why we prefer our daughter to choose her own path

« on: July 09, 2021, 10:55:03 AM »

..because we want her to be self-sufficient but more importantly happy and healthy:

Chinese Millennials Are Giving Up the Rat Race to ‘Lie Flat’

Since she graduated from college last year, Ziyi Zuo has left two well-paid jobs in Shenzhen and Beijing. The 22-year-old who is now unemployed has returned home to Tianjin in northeast China to embrace “lying flat,” a growing movement in China where young people are rejecting traditional Chinese competitivenes s.

The Chinese Communist Party has clamped down on people sharing the new philosophy online but in an increasingly rigid social structure with a large wealth gap, the movement is proving irresistible.

“I felt consumed by work,” Zuo said. “My job every day couldn’t give me the feeling of satisfaction that I learned something new or that I realized my value.”

Lying flat, or tang ping in Chinese, describes a phenomenon among young people who, instead of striving for higher pay and social status in life, choose to simply lie down and give the bare minimum. It gained traction quickly after a now-deleted post on Tieba, a Chinese forum site, coined the word as a life philosophy. On Douban, a social platform and China’s version of IMDb, a group named “lying flat group” had 10,000 members before being taken down in May. Internet memes, T-shirts, and garments also started appearing online.

The internet buzzword means many things. Simply put, many who embrace the attitude choose not to work hard, not to buy apartments or cars, and not to get married or have children—things Chinese society expects a responsible, functional adult to do. But they all seem to reflect one attitude, defined by an op-ed in the South China Morning Post, that represents “a silent protest to unfairness, often the result of structural and institutional factors that can no longer be altered by personal efforts.”

To many, Yanlin Li, a 24-year-old Columbia University graduate, seems overqualified for a job at a Beijing bank. But fed up with the nights she skipped dinner to finish a data report, and the hours she spent studying for investment exams to no avail, Li settled for something stable.

“There are many class-defined things that I just can’t overcome,” she told The Daily Beast. “For the older generations, if you work hard for something, there’s a big chance that you will succeed. But for us, society is different. There are many things you can’t get even if you work hard for it.”

Official media took notice shortly after the concept of lying flat became a hit on China’s social media. Guangming Daily, a house organ of the Communist Party’s propaganda department, published an article criticizing the lifestyle as an avoidance of stress, saying that it “obviously is not beneficial for economic and social development.” Guangzhou-based Nanfang Daily, another government mouthpiece, also chastised the attitude as “not only unjustified, but also shameful. Such ‘toxic chicken soup’ has no value whatsoever.” Zhihu, China’s Quora-like platform, also banned the search term “lying-flatism.”

Most recently, the Party’s network management office demanded major e-commerce platforms remove any products touting “lying down” or neijuan before June 21, a source told China Digital Times.

Neijuan, which translates as involution, is the driving force behind the lying flat movement.

The Chinese news site Sixth Tone describes it as “the opposite of evolution,” meaning people are trapped in vicious cycles of over-competition which stop them from moving on, growing or benefiting.

For Zuo, the word manifests itself in being stuck in what the anthropologist David Graeber calls “bullshit jobs” with grindingly long hours, and constantly having to explain to recruiters why she—with her degree from Boston College—deserves a job more than a fellow graduate who went to another Ivy League institution.

Hanning, a 32-year-old in infrastructure financing who asked us not to use her second name, has spent three weeks working from the exotic city of Dali in southern China, and described herself as “half lying flat.” She does not believe the efforts of government media will have much success in ending the movement. “Unless the society undergoes some structural changes, for instance, there is no more involution,” she wrote in a text, “more and more young people choosing to lie flat will be the trend.”

Evidently, the Chinese government feels alarmed by the trend. If widely adopted, they fear that the neologism can be a threat to a country that is struggling with a slowing economy and an aging population. In May, the Chinese government announced that it would now allow couples to have up to three children in an attempt to boost population growth.

But many young people are choosing not to have children, including Zuo. Two months at a Beijing education consulting firm opened her eyes to the reality kids live in—finishing middle-school math curriculum by fifth grade and earning awards after awards—doing everything to gain a competitive advantage to get into a good school.

“These kids faced involution from the moment they were born. Their edges were slowly knocked out to just fit in the society’s rules of competition,” Zuo said. “Why would I want to bring life to Earth, only for them to suffer through all of it?”

Despite criticisms from the official media and some public intellectuals, many Chinese people see the trend as a natural reaction to the unrelenting pressure of modern life. A poem that went viral on WeChat reads, “Lying flat, is to not bow down. Lying flat, is to not kneel. Lying flat, is to stand up horizontally. Lying flat, is a straight spine.”

Chu Qiao, a 23-year-old based in Shenzhen, said she recently adopted the lying-flat mindset. While keeping her job at PWC, she no longer strives for a higher-paying job and can enjoy her free time. Before, life was full of anxiety for Qiao, who dated in fear of ending up alone, hit the gym after a 10-hour-day to keep an ideal body shape, and tried to beef up her résumé with new software certificates and data skills. But now, instead of feeling the pressure to be the best version of herself in other people’s eyes, she is spending more time with family, friends, and her border collie.

“I like it now,” she said. “I realized that I work to live, not the other way around. I’m just living for myself.”

Hanning also describes her lying flat as a positive way of living. In Dali, she met many people who moved to the small village to embrace a slow-paced, hipster lifestyle in resistance to the stress in big Chinese cities.

“Involution is unnecessary,” she said. “Lying flat this way allows me to listen to my heart more and enrich my inner being. Now, I live to experience the essence of life.”

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General Discussion / Re: Some may say too young but I introduced my daughter to a swingers club

« on: July 09, 2021, 10:48:30 AM »

Even before we had her, my wife and I already planned ahead being pro-active and all and agree to open her mind to as many growth opportunities as possible so when she chooses her path as an adult, she will have already experienced a lot of different things in life and is able to form educated opinions on it. We want her mind and views to be as far and wide as possible..

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General Discussion / Re: Some may say too young but I introduced my daughter to a swingers club

« on: July 09, 2021, 10:44:31 AM »

Thanks for sharing.  Beautiful daughter.

Thank you! I might be just a tad bit bias here but she is "Beautiful"...

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General Discussion / Re: Man, this White girl reminds me of the Hmong girls back in Laos

« on: July 09, 2021, 12:14:34 AM »

When I was in the social service field back in the 90s, the youngest girl to give birth in my caseload was 14 and I thought that was young...

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General Discussion / Re: A buffet for fish

« on: July 09, 2021, 12:10:40 AM »

When I used to hunt, we had fresh trout for dinner on several occasions. No fishing gear, no problem as the water is so clear that we would use our guns and shoot next to the fish. It shocked and stunned the fish enough for us to just pick it up from the water. Then kabob it over an open fire and all good...

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General Discussion / If my daughter is an adult & still in the nest, I expect her to do 1 of the 3 E

« on: July 08, 2021, 10:18:29 PM »

..But I will not be as extreme as these parents and side with the teen in this case (if true)  . Some really poor parenting judgment IMO:

Teenager blown away by parents’ ‘outrageous’ rent payment request: ‘It’s an absurd amount of money’

An 18-year-old is struggling with his decision to move out of his parent’s house.

The teenager explained his situation on Reddit’s “Am I the A******” forum. He is going to be starting college soon. His parents told him they expected him to pay rent and bills if he still wanted to live at home. The trouble was they wanted $1,300 a month, which was the price of an entire apartment in his area.

“Before my 18th b-day over a month ago, my parents started talking about how they expect me to pay for rent and half the bills if I expect to stay there,” he explained. “That wasn’t the problem. The issue was they were expecting me to pay $1,300 a month for my tiny room that I share with my little brother. Not including half of the bills they expected me to pay. Most apartments in our city are around that range but that’s for a whole apartment, not a single bedroom plus sharing space with everyone else. Most of my paycheck would just be going to that then. I [told] my parents I don’t [have] a problem with helping with the bills and paying for my room if they made the rent lower. They said that’s how much they agreed on so that’s what I’d have to pay if I wanna keep staying there.”

He accepted their terms and decided to move out. But his parents didn’t like that one bit.

“I said fine and talked to one of my friends I already knew had his own place but was looking for a new roommate for the past three months,” he wrote. “Ended up going with him and he added me to the lease. My own room and bathroom, plus the total for rent and my half of the bills it’s way less than the rent by itself that my parents expected me to pay. But the thing is they’re super mad at me for leaving. My mom ignored me when I moved out, my dad kept saying how he’s so disappointed in me. For a while, they were hoping to rely on me with helping out with their mortgage payments on the house also with the bills. So now that I’ve chosen to leave, my dad says I’m going to leave them really struggling and he can’t believe I decided to be selfish instead of helping my family out.”

Reddit thought the teenager made the right move.

“For a parent to try to charge their barely-legally-an-adult son that amount of money for his freaking childhood bedroom is outrageous,” one person commented.

“It’s an absurd amount of money to pay for a shared bedroom,” another wrote.

“They really shot themselves in the foot with their greed,” someone added.

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General Discussion / Asian water buffaloes told the authorities where the secret stash is by actions

« on: July 08, 2021, 10:11:49 PM »

A herd of drunk Indian buffaloes exposed a hidden stash of contraband liquor and got a group of farmers arrested

Three Indian farmers were arrested for selling illegal alcohol after a herd of buffaloes got drunk on their moonshine.

They were reported by a vet who noticed that water in the buffaloes' trough had turned yellowish. It turns out that bottles of liquor had been hidden in the trough. Three tipsy buffaloes blew the cover of an illegal liquor stash in India, after getting drunk from water in a trough that hid moonshine bottles. Police seized a total 101 bottles of liquor from the buffaloes' stable and arrested three farmers for the illegal selling of alcohol in the dry state of Gujarat, reported The Times of India on Wednesday. One of the farmers had called a vet when the buffaloes stopped eating and started frothing at the mouth. The next day, the buffaloes began jumping around willy-nilly and continued frothing, prompting the farmers to call another vet, according to The Times. The second vet noticed a strange smell coming from the trough, ..

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General Discussion / She was probably running on Hmong time

« on: July 08, 2021, 10:06:58 PM »

?  :

A mom missed her flight at the Orlando airport. Then came the meltdown

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General Discussion / Yep even wood

« on: July 08, 2021, 10:03:12 PM »

Thieves took almost $50,000 in lumber, building materials in North Texas, sheriff says

Investigators with the Parker County Sheriff's Office have broken a theft ring that authorities say stole almost $50,000 worth of lumber and building materials in Parker, Tarrant and Johnson counties, according to a news report.

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Marriage & Family Life / Must've been tough finding out the truth

« on: July 08, 2021, 10:01:41 PM »

Woman Searching for Birth Parents Discovers She Was Stolen as a Baby: 'My Parents Bought a Child'