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Online Journal / Re: Time Capsule

« on: May 13, 2025, 11:52:51 PM »

"Dark Deeds Cannot Hide in the Shadow Forever"

We have a lot of sister-in-laws in the clan so it's just impossible to know them all on a personal level. However, one day she sat at the same table and started sharing about her clairvoyant journey with us. Turns out that the person who gave me the good luck charm is heavily into khawv koob and is associated with people who do this kind of stuff. I'm not saying that they put some kind of spell in that charm, but if they wanted to, they certainly would know how or know people who know how.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: What exactly is compatibility in love and marriage?

« on: May 12, 2025, 01:41:03 AM »

yeah, just like a close friend, you are comfortable asking, talking, venting about anything.....a nytime...they will always be glad to make time for you, talk to you, listen...in fact, they will be glad...and will often say something like, I was just thinking about you, then you call..truth is, we constantly think about our closest allies throughout the day....hahah when someone is meant to be your people, everything just fits and falls naturally. You just know what's on their mind....when they're bothered, they're not in the mood, they're off, maybe high or drunk off from something..lol

Its sad but people these days only look for what others can do or provide for them...So maybe people deserve to be lonely and sad...a true bond, is  when two people say, they will not leave each other behind.....bec ause life is a war, not a gift....freedo m isn't free, it is earned....thro ugh supporting each other, encouraging, and being there for each other...

but people just want everything for free or work little for it...lol

Yep. That's the difference between having acquaintances vs. a true friend.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Don't become a victim of this type of couple...

« on: May 10, 2025, 03:46:49 AM »

I posted this because we have a lot of Hmong couples (married or dating but living together) who have this "sick" relationship. That's what the professor called it. As a society, we automatically assume that it's the mistress/lover who is the culprit when in actuality they are victims of these twisted people in the "sick" relationship.

I won't say her name but there is a Hmong Youtube content creator who came out blasting her married lover about a month ago. The guy is definitely in a sick relationship with his wife. Many people who are close to them or were affected by them have come out to share their ugly encounters with this pair. The victims are nothing but pawns and tools used by the couple to seek vengeance on each other.

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General Relationship / interesting...

« on: May 10, 2025, 03:01:14 AM »

...there is a loneliness crisis.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Marriage is just a piece of paper so it has no advantage for men??

« on: May 10, 2025, 02:45:24 AM »

It's too bad that there are too many people who no longer understand the purpose of marriage. Because if you don't know what it is, then you won't know how to look for the right marriage partner. Even if you came across the right person to be your life mate, you'll either pass them up or sabotage the connection.

That's why it is extremely important not to have whored yourself out to non-marital relationships that only ended in disappointment . You say the relationship is over but you are stuck with a bunch of spiritual spouses, which created a lot of karmic debt. Now you can't get to the happy relationship until you divorce the spiritual spouses by paying the karmic debt.

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Marriage & Family Life / What exactly is compatibility in love and marriage?

« on: May 10, 2025, 01:09:40 AM »

Is it sharing the same core values?
Having the same money management style?
Belief and practice the same religion?
Similar child-rearing methods?
The ability to work on projects harmoniously?

The list could go on. But here is where true compatibility exists.

The comfort level you have with each other.

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General Relationship / Re: Wow, women are one of the biggest mysteries in the world but this guy nailed it?

« on: May 10, 2025, 12:29:56 AM »

That guy is imbalanced and broken to be interested in that kind of a woman.

He has a thing for avoidant women and now he thinks that he knows all women. 

Healthy people look for healthy partners, plain and simple.

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General Relationship / Re: This is the only way to a loving relationship...

« on: April 24, 2025, 03:49:53 PM »

took you this long to figure it out? I've been trying to tell you this all along....LOL

All we can do is express our perspectives.. .the difference is this, there are those who looks for the truth- those who do, asked the TRUTH itself...hahah a then there are those who just wants to sound interesting, intelligent, and take credit for "figuring it all out"....LMAO

So when in doubt...All you got to do is ask the TRUTH for the truth...I don't say God, because there's many false Gods out there..But there can only be one TRUTH...hahah

 

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General Relationship / Re: This is the only way to a loving relationship...

« on: April 24, 2025, 01:49:43 PM »

A relationship expert says that take time to know someone during the dating stage.  You're never going to know everything that you need to know about them. Instead, what you end up doing is finding their faults and justifying why you won't marry them. Plus, extending the courtship will only create attachments.

People, pick someone to love. That's all there is to it!

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General Relationship / This is the only way to a loving relationship...

« on: April 24, 2025, 01:47:02 PM »

I'm fascinated with studying attachment styles, love languages, relationships, and the whole gambit. I love studying about what works, why they fail, how some relationships turn toxic, etc. But after all this studying, THEY ALL STILL GOT IT WRONG!!!

This is the only way to a loving relationship.. ..

1. Identify the purpose and expectations of marriage.
2. THIS SECOND ONE IS KEY!!!!

How about I just worry about loving you, and you worry about loving me? We both get what we want from each other without having to ask or demand. The love will take care of the rest.

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General Relationship / Re: YOUR WHITE MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE don’t work on hmong people

« on: April 23, 2025, 03:42:02 PM »

^^^

If you don't think the older generation married for security than you are wrong.

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General Relationship / Re: YOUR WHITE MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE don’t work on hmong people

« on: April 23, 2025, 10:15:14 AM »

^^^

It's not just divorced people with kids that have baggage. A lot of people who date mes kas style have a lot of baggage, too.

What I picked up from listening to those stories is that the older and more experience a person has, the more manipulative and calculating they are. They really don't know how to date for love. They only date for sex, companionship, and supply. In the back of their mind, they are already planning an exit plan or how to protect themselves should the situationship end. Sometimes a connection is good and they will still end it because they prioritize themselves first.

They've been burned too many times, and have burned others too many times. They don't trust or believe in real love.

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Marriage & Family Life / Don't become a victim of this type of couple...

« on: April 23, 2025, 09:51:21 AM »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDRaLYeONOI&list=PLTi6COY1KUltCjjYLxsSUqYwJvsiNoZcP&index=174

It's a pretty long video but well worth the watch.

Married people who are serial cheaters. Basically, any couple in a toxic relationship but won't get out. Even when they've broken up, they are still engaging with each other and doing vindictive things towards each other.

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General Relationship / Re: Healthy love feels boring...that's why some people will only commit to...

« on: April 23, 2025, 09:29:32 AM »

Like anything else, it needs good foundation otherwise it will crumble like a stack of cards. A relationship without a strong foundation is like a tree with shallow roots. It might look healthy on the surface but the first storm can knock it down.

Yes. Get with people who have a firm foundation, and I don't just mean materialistic stuff. I mean "mentally" strong.

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Online Journal / Re: Time Capsule

« on: April 22, 2025, 04:34:45 PM »

"THE VOID"

Never allow anyone to create a void in you that never existed. It's a manipulation tactic to get you to develop an unhealthy attachment to them. This happened to me and I'm just glad that I recognized what was happening. Only a person with no integrity would pull this move.