Since we're in the Entrepreneur Discussion side of the forum, let's talk the truth about how Hmong people are, good and bad. Then see if we can explore it more in depth and maybe talk about how to add value to our culture. Please feel free to speak your mind but DON'T personally attack each other. I think you guys are better than that.
With that said starting with the good, though not comprehensive, what are some things that we Hmong people do that are really good?
We support our families and friends at all sorts of gatherings.
We support tradition.
We enjoy clubs/drinking with each other.
We enjoy traveling and activities.
Our parents get along well amongst each other.
We attend Hmong New Year and Hmong 4th of July events.
We want to reach out to Hmong people in different countries.
We support Hmong convenience stores.
We support Hmong restaurants.
Next what are some of the CONS that Hmong people have?
We have had a long history of poverty and struggle.
We are selfish and greedy (stuck in an impoverished mindset).
We criticize the hell out of each other.
We can't accept constructive critism.
We are mean to each other.
We don't have our priorities in a row.
We are stubborn and fixed in our ways.
We talk bad about each other.
We are weary about each other and always sizing people up.
We can't stand to see each other be successful.
We don't apply our education.
We measure success by degrees.
We are jealous.
We always compare ourselves to others.
We are waiting for 'someone' to fix the problem.
We don't have time.
We don't care.
We have our own lives to live.
We don't give value to our women.
We don't adapt well to cultural changes.
We are bad communicators.
We disassociate with Hmong people to become successful.
We doubt people who want to change things.
We have this notion of hierarchy and inferiority complex (i.e. attacking each other through aggressive behavior.)
Although not comprehensive, this is a GENERAL blanket statement of negativity that Hmong people deal with. Not all Hmong people are like this but there are so many who are. Do you think there's anything that can be done about it?
I'd like to think so. Let me tell you a story about the girl and the starfish.
One day a man was walking along the beach. And on this beach, he noticed there were a bunch of starfish washed up and stranded on the shore. He thought to himself, gee, they're all going to die. There's no way they'll make it. And as he thought that, he saw a girl pick one up and throw it into the waves. He asked her, "What are you doing? There's too many, you're not going to make a difference." And the little girl replied, "I just made a difference for that one."
So the moral of the story is, things can change. You can be that change. We all can be a catalyst for change. We can be kinder to each other. We can develop a more positive mindset. We can love ourselves and each other. We can support each other in the community.
It's not going to change overnight. This is probably going to be a lifelong endeavor, but if one person reads it and used it in his/her life. This post has done it's job.
I'm also looking to find like-minded individuals for a group. One that is not money-oriented but one that cares for the whole being of the community. It doesn't matter your background or where you came from. The only requirement is that you want change and you're willing to do something about it. You want to innovate, expand, learn, teach and come up with solutions to common problems. Someone who selfishly believes in one common goal--to ultimately make a difference, one mind at a time, to the Hmong community. If you share that common goal with me, PM me with your thoughts. Let's do something with our common beliefs.
If this post sparked some thoughts in you, please comment below.