Women want changes...but she more than anything wants to be the one to initiate that change. That has been a long dark secret amongst men who actually held their women in respect. You see this women often forget what it really means to be a woman. They get focused on a single tunnel vision of what a woman is. They think it's just them and their man.
How much further from the men of respect did these women get. A man of respect, recognizes, his mother, sister, daughter, niece, aunt, grandmother, in those types respect. The woman who is to be his partner, his wife, you are not the only woman in his life. You see this type of man, and you automatically dismiss him. Mamma's boy, brother, uncle, nephew, father, grandpa, and this does not attract you to him a bit. Friend zone him is the popular concept. This is what a real man is. He is your friend first. Not the real man claimed by your player lover.
After all of that, you played the player's game by his rules and you end up being played. You say, it's your looks he's only interested in. It's your honey pot, he got and nothing matters anymore. All the while you woman chasing this dream of changing this player into a real man. That's the reality in which you jumped into, he's not going to change. Why because you chased these types of men and they chase the type of woman you are. It's a perpetual cycle. This is not all men, this is not all women.
Now when you reached a maturity of both mind and phasing prime of your physiology, you've finally figured out what a real man his...That one that's been used and abused by other women. That one that has lost faith in finding friendship in women. He that which probably no longer cares about finding romance through friendship, because he's accepted that type of woman is a unicorn. He's accepted that he will only latch onto a woman who in name and service is only a wife and no more. He's also probably changed is world view and have gone down the path of players who won the looks and honey pots of new saplings. Another perpetual cycle that devalues humanity.
Yet not all men or women are like that. Personality tests have found that even a very small percentage will stay true to their nature, resolve to stay in opposition to the mass, the road less traveled by others, these types still do exist.
Ask any old wife and see what she says that she loves most about her old husband? He's a friend first, wish he was that way when I first met him. Took a lifetime to get him that way. Not everyone is as lucky as that.
Ask any old husband and see what he says that he loves most about his old wife? Took me a lifetime to find out that my best friend was my lover. Not everyone is as lucky to have discovered that.
And when you're young, or young enough, y'all didn't want friendship in your lover. If you're lucky enough to have found it, you would never lose it, true friend is forever, no different from true love is forever. Lucky when it's one and the same person.
