PebHmong Discussion Forum
Relationship => Marriage & Family Life => Topic started by: YAX on December 26, 2018, 02:02:27 PM
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Do you face racism from his side of the family? and if you do, how do you handle it? Do you tell him? What does he say? Do you just pretend it's not there or do you confront them? Do you just have a thick face about the put downs or do you openly defend yourself?
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Hmong ladies, no matter who you marry, you still a second class citizen, according to science. :2funny:
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Better than Hmong ladies marrying khej-dub.
Seen too many already.
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Better than Hmong ladies marrying khej-dub.
Seen too many already.
could it be the package? ;D
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When you are in an interracial relationship, expect to face insensitive racial comments and attitudes from both sides. It's part of the package. If you can't deal then you probably shouldn't be in an interracial relationship.
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Many of us think too much about racism that we have missed out on the beauty of interracial romances.
Let's look at the beauty of cross-cultural uniqueness instead.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZVD0UMB4Z0o (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZVD0UMB4Z0o)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAbKEakexpo (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAbKEakexpo)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9MvdMqKvpU (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9MvdMqKvpU)
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When you are in an interracial relationship, expect to face insensitive racial comments and attitudes from both sides. It's part of the package. If you can't deal then you probably shouldn't be in an interracial relationship.
So your solution is to just bend over and grab your ankles eh.
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interracial marriage is going to be the thing of the future whether we want it or not. Right now the trend is already pointing that way.
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interracial marriage is going to be the thing of the future whether we want it or not. Right now the trend is already pointing that way.
So I want to keep mine pure so when there isn't many pure breed around, I can charge an arm and a leg. Sheesh my pure breed German Shepard cost me $1,800.
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Noticed a lot of "successful" Asian woman married white men only. Example, most of the Asian women cast on "Crazy Rich Asians" either are married or dating whites only. Wealth, power and status seems to be the motivator with some woman.
Asian woman with black dudes on the other hand are not about wealth, power or status. It's the opposite. Mostly about masculinity and the "package", if you know what I mean.
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So I want to keep mine pure so when there isn't many pure breed around, I can charge an arm and a leg. Sheesh my pure breed German Shepard cost me $1,800.
Not nice to call your spouse names, no matter how much she costs.
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Asian woman with black dudes on the other hand are not about wealth, power or status. It's the opposite. Mostly about masculinity and the "package", if you know what I mean.
What is this package? Is it from UPS or FedEx?
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Whoever you married, Don't abandon your own culture....MAK E SURE both cultures are RESPECTED! It will make both sides very HAPPY!
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Whoever you married, Don't abandon your own culture....MAK E SURE both cultures are RESPECTED! It will make both sides very HAPPY!
Yep, "RESPECT" is as important as trust, love, loyalty, etc., so doesn't matter if it's a Hmong woman that married out of race or a Hmong man does it, gotta respect each other and what he/she values... O0
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So, go to CMA church and also do shaman performances, huh?
Whoever you married, Don't abandon your own culture....MAK E SURE both cultures are RESPECTED! It will make both sides very HAPPY!
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So, go to CMA church and also do shaman performances, huh?
To keep everyone happy, YES! :)
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Good idea.
To keep everyone happy, YES! :)
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To keep everyone happy, YES! :)
In America, the goal is to keep yourself happy first. ;D
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That's a good idea, too.
In America, the goal is to keep yourself happy first. ;D
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In America, the goal is to keep yourself happy first. ;D
LOL...my happiness is to keep them happy. YES? lol
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LOL...my happiness is to keep them happy. YES? lol
That's communism. MAGA guys will be all over you for this.
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There is so many Hmong women are leaving their Hmong boyfriends and husbands for a white men. I hear it so much on regular basis that is depressing.
Hmong women didn’t care whether is just for short term relationship or duck buddies, they are leaving.
While the ones that are still married to Hmong men are using them as cash cow.
Sucks to be Hmong.
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There is so many Hmong women are leaving their Hmong boyfriends and husbands for a white men. I hear it so much on regular basis that is depressing.
Hmong women didn’t care whether is just for short term relationship or duck buddies, they are leaving.
While the ones that are still married to Hmong men are using them as cash cow.
Sucks to be Hmong.
I'm thinking because the white men can give them (hmong women) what Hmong men can't. It's time Hmong men wake up and realize Hmong women today aren't the hmong women of yesterday. If you can't catch up to them, they're leaving you behind. Plain and simple :D :D :D :D Hmong men need to wine and dine them now.. whispering behind the walls don't work anymore :D :D ;D ;D Basically, you Hmong men need to understand, learn, and speak her language - meaning, you need to know your hmong woman, her heart, desire, dreams, goals, etc.. can't be like the past where you've no clue who she is etc.. and don't care to learn and it's all about your needs. Just saying.. Hmong Women of the 21st Century...Hmon g men can't afford to be lazy or else you lose them. That's how it is... heed my advice you Hmong men.
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I'm thinking because the white men can give them (hmong women) what Hmong men can't. It's time Hmong men wake up and realize Hmong women today aren't the hmong women of yesterday. If you can't catch up to them, they're leaving you behind. Plain and simple :D :D :D :D Hmong men need to wine and dine them now.. whispering behind the walls don't work anymore :D :D ;D ;D Basically, you Hmong men need to understand, learn, and speak her language - meaning, you need to know your hmong woman, her heart, desire, dreams, goals, etc.. can't be like the past where you've no clue who she is etc.. and don't care to learn and it's all about your needs. Just saying.. Hmong Women of the 21st Century...Hmon g men can't afford to be lazy or else you lose them. That's how it is... heed my advice you Hmong men.
You are right to a certain degree. However, even if the Hmong men do manage to do all that and still loses his wife to white men. Women by nature are curious species. She'll leave one way or another. Western society has taught that marrying white men means status upgrade so regardless of the positive things Hmong men have done to improve, it is only a matter of time before she leaves and steps into the arms of white men.
In today's family demographic 70% of every Hmong house hold has at LEAST has one white BIL in some house hold all daughters go black and white. While my Hmong brothas is still single af. Most Hmong brothas I talk to, they just want somebody to love and didn't care whether she fat or a single mom, or hoes who has been around.
The future looks dark and bleak for the younger generation of Hmong guys.
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You are right to a certain degree. However, even if the Hmong men do manage to do all that and still loses his wife to white men. Women by nature are curious species. She'll leave one way or another. Western society has taught that marrying white men means status upgrade so regardless of the positive things Hmong men have done to improve, it is only a matter of time before she leaves and steps into the arms of white men.
In today's family demographic 70% of every Hmong house hold has at LEAST has one white BIL in some house hold all daughters go black and white. While my Hmong brothas is still single af. Most Hmong brothas I talk to, they just want somebody to love and didn't care whether she fat or a single mom, or hoes who has been around.
The future looks dark and bleak for the younger generation of Hmong guys.
not to mention the package difference. A lot of Hmong men aren't very well endowed. Lol.
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Both claims are worth exploring further in details.
You are right to a certain degree. However, even if the Hmong men do manage to do all that and still loses his wife to white men. Women by nature are curious species. She'll leave one way or another. Western society has taught that marrying white men means status upgrade so regardless of the positive things Hmong men have done to improve, it is only a matter of time before she leaves and steps into the arms of white men.
In today's family demographic 70% of every Hmong house hold has at LEAST has one white BIL in some house hold all daughters go black and white. While my Hmong brothas is still single af. Most Hmong brothas I talk to, they just want somebody to love and didn't care whether she fat or a single mom, or hoes who has been around.
The future looks dark and bleak for the younger generation of Hmong guys.
I'm thinking because the white men can give them (hmong women) what Hmong men can't. It's time Hmong men wake up and realize Hmong women today aren't the hmong women of yesterday. If you can't catch up to them, they're leaving you behind. Plain and simple :D :D :D :D Hmong men need to wine and dine them now.. whispering behind the walls don't work anymore :D :D ;D ;D Basically, you Hmong men need to understand, learn, and speak her language - meaning, you need to know your hmong woman, her heart, desire, dreams, goals, etc.. can't be like the past where you've no clue who she is etc.. and don't care to learn and it's all about your needs. Just saying.. Hmong Women of the 21st Century...Hmon g men can't afford to be lazy or else you lose them. That's how it is... heed my advice you Hmong men.
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not to mention the package difference. A lot of Hmong men aren't very well endowed. Lol.
As far as I know, is a myth, white dudes ain't packing either. Average is 5.5 inches, I think it has something to do with not obligated to be burden by traditional values such as being a good housewife or a good nyab. Thats what my sisters said who both married white dudes. Hmong women don't want to be good housewives or good nyab. They want to be loose, sloopy, lazy without being judge, like white women, and they thought with white men they can be just that. Is Ironic that white dude wants a submissive wife who cooks and clean though.
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My husband is Japanese and it was my choice to marry someone who wasnt Hmong because I knew I wouldn't be able to live up to the Nyab status. I didn't want to put my career and immediate family on the back burner. No Hmong man would be able to put up with my wants and needs either. So it was a win win for everyone.
Now as to if the otherside respect us, I think everyone is human. There will be racism and prejudice from all sides (as we can clearly see in here too). There's no escaping it no matter who you marry. Someone will hate you either way but as long as you are doing your best for yourself and your family, that's what matters.
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Original Hmong people = Red hair and freckles, Blond hair and blue eyes...now what? Just going back to the original roots. >:D
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My husband is Japanese and it was my choice to marry someone who wasnt Hmong because I knew I wouldn't be able to live up to the Nyab status.
It's nice to have "choice" unlike what I've seen in many cases in Laos and Thailand where the bride to be had no say in the matter...And sadly some just overdosed on opium as a way out...
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Keep feeding your Hmong women till she blows up then she will not be going anywhere. There is less of a market for fat people.
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So your solution is to just bend over and grab your ankles eh.
Well if you're going to be a f.cking baby about every single comment then don't be in an interracial relationship. Don't you think you should be worried about other things in your relationship such as: finances, child-rearing, saving for retirement, etc.
The fact that you are so pre-occupied with race just further proves that you are a racist.
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Well if you're going to be a f.cking baby about every single comment then don't be in an interracial relationship. Don't you think you should be worried about other things in your relationship such as: finances, child-rearing, saving for retirement, etc.
The fact that you are so pre-occupied with race just further proves that you are a racist.
- Says the person who is pre-occupied with putting down the Hmong race.
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I tell you. There is a market for people of every size and age.
Keep feeding your Hmong women till she blows up then she will not be going anywhere. There is less of a market for fat people.
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- Says the person who is pre-occupied with putting down the Hmong race.
Well if you spend your lifetime acting like a victim and believing that you're a victim, I'm going to drop F bombs on you (FACT bombs) as to why you're in your situation.
In addition, I am Hmong. I am entitled to criticize my own ethnic group.
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FACT bombs? :2funny:
You mean like how Windmills cause cancer? Or 3 Mexican countries? :2funny: :2funny:
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When you are in an interracial relationship, expect to face insensitive racial comments and attitudes from both sides. It's part of the package. If you can't deal then you probably shouldn't be in an interracial relationship.
Agree...
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FACT bombs? :2funny:
You mean like how Windmills cause cancer? Or 3 Mexican countries? :2funny: :2funny:
I didn't say any of those things. Clearly, you have lost the argument.
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I didn't say any of those things. Clearly, you have lost the argument.
Are you saying that I'm the one who believes in fake things like windmill sounds causing cancer? ;)
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I'm saying that you know more than any of us what it feels like to have a white man's finger up your bum.
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I'm pretty sure that's part of the screening.
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I'm saying that you know more than any of us what it feels like to have a white man's finger up your bum.
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I'm pretty sure that's part of the screening.
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I take that to mean you gave up on defending your windmill cancer. How about this one?
(https://i.redd.it/cm07nuwrlvv21.png)
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So are we grouping just Asian ladies who marry white guys now?
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YAX,
Are you reporting fake news about me again? Am I the one who posted up such articles or did the reporting? I get my news from many sources, unlike you who is preoccupied with FOX and biased msm like CNN.
When I mention such stories koj mam li hais tau rau kuv nawb.
Looks like all you know how to do is spread fake news about things Phers didn't say, hate a political party that doesn't actually impact where you live, and breed.
Those like you who experienced big karma like getting cancer should learn to think before you speak.
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And by the way, the reporter who made the error made an apology the day after.
WHERE IS THE APOLOGY FROM YOUR BIASED NEWS MEDIA OUTLETS ON THEIR RUSSIA GATE REPORTING FOR MONTHS?
You want to talk about error in reporting? Your whole value system is based on false mainstream media reporting. :2funny: :2funny: :2funny:
Damn you are really grasping for straws. Searching every article, ad, poster on a grocery store bulletin, flyer pinned onto your windshield, etc. :2funny: :2funny: :2funny: