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Relationship => The Single & Dating Scenes => Topic started by: Believe_N_Me on July 28, 2022, 02:15:05 PM

Title: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 28, 2022, 02:15:05 PM
Perhaps you've never been with a person of high-value, which explains why you mistake it for physical looks only.

But when you're like some of us whose been with physically attractive people, then you know that looks are only part of it but there is so much more to it.

By the way, there were a few very physically attractive men who used to frequent PH and they don't speak the way some of you do. And guess what? Looks aren't everything to them because they already have it. I can guarantee that men who talk the most about looks aren't very good looking themselves and tend to choose the most flashy, made-up women. Whereas physically attractive men go for natural beauty and feminine personalities.

Even Kevin Samuels, himself, the man who coined high-value, only rates Beyonce at an 8.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Visualmon on July 28, 2022, 11:31:25 PM
Don't forget King Xerxes favor Esther than the Queen Vashti.

Proverb 30:31
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

1 Peter 3:3-4
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 28, 2022, 11:59:19 PM
Esther was also physically beautiful but that's not why the king favored her. You're right, it was her character.

Why do you think Maly Vu and Paj Zaub Khab had so many admirers out of all the Miss Hmong Pageant winners? They stand out. There are other beauties too but they never had the same popularity or received that same kind of attention from the community.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Gracified23 on July 29, 2022, 06:52:54 AM
Most women on dating apps do not find most men attractive hence why only the top 20% males are getting preselected by women. For men high value is not just looks but also includes money and status. For women it is almost exclusively looks and being feminine.

Women just are. Men have to become. 
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 08:31:08 AM
Most women on dating apps do not find most men attractive hence why only the top 20% males are getting preselected by women. For men high value is not just looks but also includes money and status. For women it is almost exclusively looks and being feminine.

Women just are. Men have to become.

Not so much looks, but weight yes. This is why you'll see so many high-valued men married to skinny Plain Janes. There are not many fat people where I live except for very few senior citizens who have conditions that keep them from being active. Even my neighbor, Elaine, is super skinny and she's probably in her 70s.

Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 08:31:24 AM
Esther was also physically beautiful but that's not why the king favored her. You're right, it was her character.

Why do you think Maly Vu and Paj Zaub Khab had so many admirers out of all the Miss Hmong Pageant winners? They stand out. There are other beauties too but they never had the same popularity or received that same kind of attention from the community.

Esther is a 7 1/2 while Vashti is a ten. *shoulders shrug*

I believe singers' goal is to entertain their audience and make business with their fans. The pageants' goal is to lead their community and be a role model to younger females. Not sure if they have times to love their s/o if they're super busy. Look at the relationship between hot looking Mai Xiong and average dude like Chue Vang. They hardly get along and they had their own differences.

I had Mai Xiong as a friend on facebook. Sometime she talks to me, but she rather spend her time with her girlfriends than chatting with her fans. I can woo her and turn her into my lover. Something about her turn me off. haha
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 08:52:18 AM
If we're just going by looks alone, a 10 to me is someone like Cha Eun Woo or Sung Hoon. Those Korean entertainers are all incredibly attractive but some stand out more than others. People have their types.

Everybody says my ex looked like a young Bird Thongchai actor with fairer skin, but even I said bye- bye to him. That is why he is an ex. However, I don't know why I remember him resembling that Hmong entertainer Win Vang. The two entertainers don't even look the same.  :dontknow:

Bird Thongchai:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8ex9_bLecY (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8ex9_bLecY)

Win Vang:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1H4p6kP1ZJo (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1H4p6kP1ZJo)
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 09:07:41 AM
Btw, it doesn't matter what anybody thinks of a married person. You simply just don't rate them because they're unavailable anyways. You can think they're unattractive but the fact that they got somebody makes your opinion moot.

However, for us old, married, folks, there is a completely different rating system. There is such a thing as a high-valued husband/wife. The criteria typically includes job stability, how they interact with elders, community involvement, homeownership, parenting skills, and the satisfaction of their spouse, just to name a few. And of course, physical looks is also a part of it.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 10:55:01 AM
Come on now. I see high value cougars went on a prowl the young bucks.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 11:08:04 AM
Come on now. I see high value cougars went on a prowl the young bucks.

A cougar has to eat.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 08:21:00 PM
A cougar has to eat.

More like she's horn-nay to hit.  ::)
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 11:50:04 PM
Cougars have needs, too. They're not dead.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Visualmon on July 30, 2022, 03:14:26 AM
Need or desire?
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 30, 2022, 08:36:37 AM
Need or desire?

Probably both.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: DuMa on July 31, 2022, 01:26:39 AM
Get with a pretty looking person for what?  Are they an lv or Hermes purse that you carry around to show off to the world that you have a hot thing?

If looks are subjective then it is still the perception of such individuals to what they like or what a 10 to them

Like your boy g n his 10.  So good that he must gloat it on pH.  It's his 10 n only he can like it like a mother would love their down syndrome baby. 

Not my cup of tea but that's me.   :2funny:
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Gracified23 on July 31, 2022, 08:32:37 AM
Get with a pretty looking person for what?  Are they an lv or Hermes purse that you carry around to show off to the world that you have a hot thing?

If looks are subjective then it is still the perception of such individuals to what they like or what a 10 to them

Like your boy g n his 10.  So good that he must gloat it on pH.  It's his 10 n only he can like it like a mother would love their down syndrome baby. 

Not my cup of tea but that's me.   :2funny:

Haha yeah right. You’d smash if the opportunity presented itself. Don’t lie now.

I have standards bro. When I was a young still learning the game, I would’ve jumped at the opportunity for the practice but after mastering the game now I only go for girls who are worth my time, effort, energy. If she isn’t a Staci at least 8/10 in the look department I don’t get off the couch.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: DuMa on July 31, 2022, 09:44:44 AM
Haha yeah right. You’d smash if the opportunity presented itself. Don’t lie now.

I have standards bro. When I was a young still learning the game, I would’ve jumped at the opportunity for the practice but after mastering the game now I only go for girls who are worth my time, effort, energy. If she isn’t a Staci at least 8/10 in the look department I don’t get off the couch.

8 out of 10 you say?  Keep on right swiping it  :2funny:

Let me give you something to chew upon.   Real men don't need social media to right swipe.  If you introduce a female to your friends like I met her online, they laugh at your azz.

Tier 1 is meet people without the internet.
Tier 2 is social media right swipe
Tier 3 is go back to Thailand

Online predators have issues.  Nothing to be gloating about.  It is as stupid to say you got hoez in different area code. 

I cringed!!!   :2funny:
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 31, 2022, 10:41:52 AM
Get with a pretty looking person for what?  Are they an lv or Hermes purse that you carry around to show off to the world that you have a hot thing?

If looks are subjective then it is still the perception of such individuals to what they like or what a 10 to them

Like your boy g n his 10.  So good that he must gloat it on pH.  It's his 10 n only he can like it like a mother would love their down syndrome baby. 

Not my cup of tea but that's me.   :2funny:

This is why I said that you shouldn't try to judge a person on a picture.

Nowadays, ugly people can get plastic surgery and look good. Obviously, you should still be with someone that you find physically attractive or it won't work. However, always go for the personality first and definitely be with someone who cherishes you as much as you cherish them.
Title: Re: Based on the posts on PH, many of you don't know the definition of High-Value
Post by: Gracified23 on July 31, 2022, 11:43:32 AM
8 out of 10 you say?  Keep on right swiping it  :2funny:

Let me give you something to chew upon.   Real men don't need social media to right swipe.  If you introduce a female to your friends like I met her online, they laugh at your azz.

Tier 1 is meet people without the internet.
Tier 2 is social media right swipe
Tier 3 is go back to Thailand

Online predators have issues.  Nothing to be gloating about.  It is as stupid to say you got hoez in different area code. 

I cringed!!!   :2funny:

Online is definitely real life now. It used to not be, but now the world lives on social media. If your social media isn’t on point then it will be over for the guy. 

Real life like PUA’s where you approach random women are so 90s-00s and were the greatest decades ever but it doesn't negate the fact that they are over. It's 2k22 and most women are now meeting guys online.