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Marriage & Family Life / Re: No one loves you more than your spouse
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I've said it before. The men I meet who were in long-term cohabitation are so very broken in comparison to the divorced men.
Divorced guys have a different type of wound. Note: I'm not talking about the liars and cheaters who sabotaged their own marriage. Anyways, they still feel hopeful about commitment. They know that they were just with a person who checked out. And like I said, divorced guys court differently, too. They don't have all these expectations to play house before commitment. This is very different with men who just dated long-term girlfriends. These guys want to play house. They want you to put in all this effort and investment BEFORE the commitment, to see if they want to commit to you. In other words, they want the milk and the cow before they want to buy. Most of the time, they don't buy the cow afterwards because they're only looking for flaws. They end up creating a lot of anxiety in the woman. They're used to these freebies and have a harder time of bonding. Whereas the men who had to buy the cow first, understand that you have to buy the cow first before you can drink the milk.
And the guys who know they have to buy the cow first value their time as well. They don't want to keep drinking milk that they're unsure about.
Divorced guys have a different type of wound. Note: I'm not talking about the liars and cheaters who sabotaged their own marriage. Anyways, they still feel hopeful about commitment. They know that they were just with a person who checked out. And like I said, divorced guys court differently, too. They don't have all these expectations to play house before commitment. This is very different with men who just dated long-term girlfriends. These guys want to play house. They want you to put in all this effort and investment BEFORE the commitment, to see if they want to commit to you. In other words, they want the milk and the cow before they want to buy. Most of the time, they don't buy the cow afterwards because they're only looking for flaws. They end up creating a lot of anxiety in the woman. They're used to these freebies and have a harder time of bonding. Whereas the men who had to buy the cow first, understand that you have to buy the cow first before you can drink the milk.
And the guys who know they have to buy the cow first value their time as well. They don't want to keep drinking milk that they're unsure about.