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Marriage & Family Life / Divorce rates among highly educated men

« on: September 17, 2018, 01:29:32 PM »

I have noticed an influx of men who upon becoming..  Dr’s, Lawyer’s, Pharmacist’s, etc… divorce their wives who has been supporting them to obtain their career. All of a sudden these men feel like they are superior to the woman who made them who they are today. These wives are no less as intelligent as they are but just lack that Doctor, Lawyer, etc stamp because these wives have been supporting them all these years.

Alimony cannot be avoid but the wasted years and efforts. 

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Marriage & Family Life / Am I wasting time?

« on: December 21, 2017, 02:49:30 PM »

I’ve been dating this man for almost a year now. When we visit each other, we don’t stay in each other’s home. When he visits, I always invite him over to spend the nights with me and the kids but he doesn’t want to. When I visit him, he offers his place but then also book a hotel.  We always end up renting hotels nearby to spend the night there instead.  We are in a serious relationship and have met each other’s families but we are still reluctant to spend the night in each other’s home. Somehow, this got me thinking today… Are we as serious as we think we are???  Because I don’t want to invest too much time and energy into a relationship that goes nowhere honestly.

Anyone been thru this before?? Advise me or am I just going crazy?

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Travel & Vacation Forum / Re: Who Wants To Conquer The 'Appalachian Trail' With Me?

« on: November 30, 2015, 11:07:49 AM »

Where is your starting point?

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Travel & Vacation Forum / Re: Traveling Partner: Needed

« on: July 15, 2015, 10:37:24 AM »

I know how you feel! I'm in need a traveling partner also. I hate to travel solo bc I'm a woman and quite naturally I just don't do well solo. But have fun on your adventures! That is what life is all about!

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Do you believe in reincarnation?

« on: March 09, 2015, 12:35:08 PM »

again, if you don't believe in reincarnation. .. why does it bother you so? The only time something bothers you is if you are having doubts about your own belief.

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Hmong News / Re: Thug Life

« on: March 05, 2015, 02:06:40 PM »

Exactly!  Everybody who actually knew the kid wouldn't describe him as a thug or gangster at all.  The media is already painting this horrible image of him.  Also, what's up with that ducked up thought of charging him as an adult.  The law clearly dictates 18+ as an adult age.  Where's the integrity in having laws if we bend them whenever someone less favorable breaks them?

My point exactly!!!!! 

That boy went over to the Yang's asking for trouble. The adult who took him there should be held responsible for whatever the actions of these minors were.

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Buddhism is wrong!

« on: February 16, 2015, 09:12:53 AM »

Why does it matter to you? Christianity doesn't believe in reincarnation.

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Hmong News / Re: Toddler beaten to death by mother's boyfriend

« on: February 16, 2015, 09:09:42 AM »

Why would you leave your children to your live-in boyfriend if you work all the time?

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Hmong Culture & History / Re: Aren't genuine hmong green supposed to have an accent?

« on: September 16, 2014, 12:30:04 PM »

I believe the Green dialect is the original dialect.

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Online Journal / Re: My sad love story

« on: September 09, 2014, 02:02:24 PM »

I do now but getting his #thru the grapevine would be hard. His cousins are inlaws to my inlaws.

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Online Journal / Re: My sad love story

« on: August 21, 2014, 07:13:29 PM »

It's summer and the kids are at their grandparents enjoying what's left of the summer. I get to have a few moments of silence. I though about you. Actually, I thought about you all this week. I feel that the more I try not to think of you, the more I miss you. Will come back knowing where I am now?  Do you hate me? How can I meet you again so late? 

......when you held onto me last weekend, I can still see the look in your eyes. I broke our glances like how I broke your heart. Do you know that I have regretted my decision time after time. I beat myself time after time.... I missed you so much that I wanted to see you in my dreams. The only time you came to me in my dreams, I was searching for you and I saw you across the building from me. I tried to run across but I could not open the door. I cried and cried to all these strangers were there with me. My eyes were still blurry but I saw you stand at the door and you came to me and lift me up and told me you were ok and to not worry about you anymore and you left again. That's the only dream I had of you all these years.

I came back to look for you a few years after I left. My friend said that I've come too late. He said you left for good. He didn't know where you could've left to too. Your father left too. All I had was a state that we all believed you could be in. He asked me to let you go and move on and then he refused to talk to me about you anymore. I cried and beg him before he drop me off at the airport but he insisted that he didn't know. After 6yrs, I found him again. I asked him again and again he did not know. Howcome finding him, someone who I also lost touch with after so long wasn't so hard but trying to find you were the pain of me and now you reappear in front of me after all these years and I can't even hold onto you.........

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Online Journal / Re: My sad love story

« on: August 19, 2014, 11:54:38 PM »

Do you expect anything to happen from this? Are you still looking for a closure? J/c

I do expect that our meeting this past weekend will reignite our memories of each other. At least for him bc he has always been a part of me. To me, there will never a closure in this relationship. It's a part of my life. I've turned the page but my book is not close yet.

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Online Journal / Re: My sad love story

« on: August 19, 2014, 11:49:28 PM »

Some of my fondest memories of him was when he had come over while I was still sleeping and I woke up to find him kissing my forehead. My little sister was smitten by him so she was sitting next to me on the sofa with a big wide smile and he leaned over to pick her up and swung her around asking her if she thought I liked him and gave her a kiss on her forehead as well.

Heaven is playing with us. They know that my priority now is my children. My priority then was pleasing my parents. BUT yet they bring us to meet at the most uncertain times of my life. When will I be able to just grasp the opportunity that fate has given me?

I don't even know if he still feels the same for me anymore. I don't know anything about the last how many years of his life. I lost him then and now that he reappears, my heart is in all circles. I have missed him every day of my life and missed him more when my husband does not consider my feelings in all his doings. I've always wondered if he had been keeping tabs on me as well or if he knew the many heartaches I had suffered in my marriage and the many times I've struggled alone.

 

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Online Journal / Re: My sad love story

« on: August 19, 2014, 10:55:10 PM »

msv, when I made the decision to let him go. I moved on and got married to someone else but it wasn't until I exhausted all my efforts to look for him. 2yrs after I moved away, I went back to look for him but he had moved closer to his grandmother and his uncle and at that time, finding someone's footprints were much harder then they were today. Even with the popularity of FB, I could not find him still.

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Online Journal / Re: My sad love story

« on: August 19, 2014, 08:55:53 PM »

I love Leekong Xiong too but I'm wavering towards Lwm Yaj now. 

Minor, my sister always said that it's fate. We meet, we part and we meet again just to part again. If it was meant to be, it will be. The pain is a constant reminder that we have someone who will love us despite us not being with them.

Sweet, I don't know if I should say you were fortunate to not experience this kind of love/pain but or not. This kind of love is bittersweet.

Proudlao,