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Title: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Kong Vang on January 14, 2021, 01:55:07 AM
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.”
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 14, 2021, 08:21:32 AM
In life you need food & shelter and when you have this, half of your problem is already gone.  The other half, $$.  If you're missing 1 of the 3 stresses come.  The rest, are minor issues.  Life is beautiful and it is truly how you make it.
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Reporter on January 14, 2021, 01:14:22 PM
No.
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Kong Vang on January 14, 2021, 01:18:07 PM
In life you need food & shelter and when you have this, half of your problem is already gone.  The other half, $$.  If you're missing 1 of the 3 stresses come.  The rest, are minor issues.  Life is beautiful and it is truly how you make it.

My question was more philosophical than physical... but here are my observations.

Single people wishes they were married or with someone, then once they are married or attached, their husband/wife/partner becomes a burden to them. Now they feel trapped because they have to dedicate their time, money, and attention to a single individual, having to answer to him/her. One solution creates another problem.

You need to lose weight, so you buy a gym membership and joins a health club. Now that you have a gym membership, you have to allocate time to go to the health club which takes you away from time with your family, time from your hobbies or time from friends. One solution creates another problem.

Your truck just die and you buy a new Tundra. Well, now you have a huge monthly car payment, Insurance just jumped 20% and your gas budget jumped 50%. You're starting to wonder if you will make ends meet. One solution creates another problem.

I can go on and on...

Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: tRouBLe on January 14, 2021, 01:37:06 PM
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.”

No, because it’s all in perspective. 
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: DuMa on January 14, 2021, 02:42:03 PM
Clearly put that we all can relate. 

You have income rushing in but when you pay your bills, more bills are stacking behind it. 

It is like different bills are coming out of nowhere to foil your game plan. 
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Visualmon on January 14, 2021, 04:17:15 PM
Two words, hellllllllllll llllllll no.
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Kong Vang on January 14, 2021, 05:32:55 PM
Two words, hellllllllllll llllllll no.

Good to hear you live a life with no problems.
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 14, 2021, 06:22:06 PM
My question was more philosophical than physical... but here are my observations.

Single people wishes they were married or with someone, then once they are married or attached, their husband/wife/partner becomes a burden to them. Now they feel trapped because they have to dedicate their time, money, and attention to a single individual, having to answer to him/her. One solution creates another problem.

You need to lose weight, so you buy a gym membership and joins a health club. Now that you have a gym membership, you have to allocate time to go to the health club which takes you away from time with your family, time from your hobbies or time from friends. One solution creates another problem.

Your truck just die and you buy a new Tundra. Well, now you have a huge monthly car payment, Insurance just jumped 20% and your gas budget jumped 50%. You're starting to wonder if you will make ends meet. One solution creates another problem.

I can go on and on...
that's life.
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: theking on January 14, 2021, 09:39:03 PM
No, because it’s all in perspective.

Ditto...depend s on the individual and his/her "perspective".
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: YAX on January 15, 2021, 08:17:44 AM
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.”
I create my own problems.
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Kong Vang on January 15, 2021, 12:20:45 PM
Thanks everyone for your input... My goal was to get people thinking and as some of you pointed out, it is really mostly about perspective. 

Generally speaking, I think Human Beings, at least in my view, are never ever happy with what they have, NOTHING is ever enough. Deep down inside, if you were to win the Lottery, wouldn't you rather win 1 million dollars as opposed to just 100k, if given the choice. And then wouldn't you rather win 10 million rather than just 1 million? And again, if given a choice would you rather win 100 million rather than 10 million?

My buddy, who's only 28, and his wife just got divorced after being married 5 years. They have a child together... both he and his ex-wife were always arguing and fighting. Everytime we talk, it was about him wanting out of his marriage and how he hated being married. Well, now, 6 months later and all he wants to talk about is how lonely he is and how he wants to go overseas to meet someone.

It's a vicious loopback.



Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Reporter on January 16, 2021, 06:17:54 AM
You are a pessimist. You think of problems or that everything is a problem.

Optimists are just the opposite: they think of problems as either solutions or opportunities only. Every problem is an opportunity for something.

“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.”
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: lilly on January 16, 2021, 12:49:37 PM
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of another.”

I understand what you are trying to say.  And yes, like others pointed out, it's a matter of perception.  We can be in a huge hole of a mess, but even in that moment we can convince ourselves that things are temporary and that the problems aren't as huge, etc.  How we see things really depends on our own perception of the situation.  Do you see your life and/or your problems as cup half full or cup half empty, etc.

But, I understand, too, that human beings are generally never satisfied.  We aim to reach a certain level in life and when we finally reach it, we're like, "uhhh, I think I want more than this, maybe."  Most of us can never be fully satisfied.  Even the super rich and wealthy are probably not fully satisfied, because they may have money but they may be lacking in family, love, happiness, etc.

There are sayings: "Be happy with what you have" and "Make the most of what you have."  There are reasons for these sayings.
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Kong Vang on January 16, 2021, 09:42:28 PM
You are a pessimist. You think of problems or that everything is a problem.

Optimists are just the opposite: they think of problems as either solutions or opportunities only. Every problem is an opportunity for something.

Personally speaking, I am guilty to some level but I am not sure about being labeled a pessimist. I think some people are just not as willing to admit that they feel this way and for some they may not even know it's happening within themselves. My 28 year old friend is a prime example. You will never get him to admit that he is in the loopback from hell and that he will never be satisfied with his decisions, no matter what.

Because I am more aware of my own weakness and shortcomings, I have decided to give up a few things. Social Media being one of them. I find that living a simple life with a few quality friends and very few possessions has made life more more enjoyable and dare I say... Happy.

Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Kong Vang on January 16, 2021, 10:12:06 PM
I understand what you are trying to say.  And yes, like others pointed out, it's a matter of perception.  We can be in a huge hole of a mess, but even in that moment we can convince ourselves that things are temporary and that the problems aren't as huge, etc.  How we see things really depends on our own perception of the situation.  Do you see your life and/or your problems as cup half full or cup half empty, etc.

But, I understand, too, that human beings are generally never satisfied.  We aim to reach a certain level in life and when we finally reach it, we're like, "uhhh, I think I want more than this, maybe."  Most of us can never be fully satisfied.  Even the super rich and wealthy are probably not fully satisfied, because they may have money but they may be lacking in family, love, happiness, etc.

There are sayings: "Be happy with what you have" and "Make the most of what you have."  There are reasons for these sayings.

Yes, I think your statement is spot on but unfortunately for me, it took me a long time to realize it.

My measurement of happiness has changed a lot since I was in 20s or even 30s. I used to believe that if I ever reach the 100k mark salary, I would happy, or if I was driving an expensive luxury car, I would be happy or when I purchased my home, I would truly be happy. But when I finally reached these marks, I did not find the true happiness I was looking for. Yes, I was temporary happy, but it did not last. The happiness I thought I found only gave way to stress and only fueled my appetite for more. It took me a long time to finally figure out that I was only working harder and stressing because I wanted to keep up with the new lifestyle I have chosen for myself.

A few years ago, I realize I needed to change. So, I sold my 2800 sq ft home and purchased a 1600 sq ft home. I sold my 50k sedan and purchased a used Toyota with cash. I still have my job, but I am content to be where I am... I don't have any desire to climb the cooperate ladder anymore.

After giving up Social Media, TV and material things, I found a lot of free time and some extra cash... which has allowed me to travel and strengthen my relationship with my family and friends.




 
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: DuMa on January 18, 2021, 09:51:51 AM
You are searching for your own meaning of life.  IT looks like your life is half empty because there are challenges and goals that you have not met.  Even the simplistic of things are not yet met.  You won the game of external life but you failed in other aspect. 

You see, getting marry has its benefits and it troublesome.  But still, it is a walk of life for those who are not scared of it and are willingly to walk that life.  My cousin from mn is reaching 60 years old and yet, never had a gf.  The guy makes 6 figures for 3m and all he does is comes home from work and go grab a beer and chill in his man cave.  Every freaking year when I go visit his dad, I see the same routine coming from him.  He might not be daddy material and I get it but have you tried? 

I think that is a missing part of life.  Sure you can go get your papers and it is easy but what about the other aspect like sharing what you got with another human being? 

I have enough with chasing the papers.  I'm more about having an adventurous life.  I got my papers ready and all I need is to settle down, pop babies and ahem, make onlyfans for extra income for gay homie dudes only.   :2funny:

I know what you thinking.  The effering right?  Well it is a challenge.  If you are that bored, try onlyfans and charge people to watch your live your miserable life out.  Go the youtube route or something.  Challenge yourself.   Mia kalifa, that ugly curry chick is banking big time on onlyfans and she donated 6 figures to a charity and check this, she doesn't have to do nude.  As a challenge, I'll do it for free cuz you know, life gotta be more challenging than this.   I'm sure some gay guys out there would like to see me take a shower in my underwear or something.  No nude or I go to hell.   :2funny:
Title: Re: Is this true in your life?
Post by: Mr_Mechanic on January 18, 2021, 02:25:43 PM
For some, they live for the moment.  For others, they plan ahead.  In life, there's nothing wrong with either or.  Without getting in depth, at the end of the day.  if it makes you happy, Do it!