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"The only way to get smarter is to play a smarter opponent." - Fundamentals of Chess 1883

Yesterday, I took my daughter on a day's road trip to Duluth. I wanted to drive up the north shore and possibly go paddle boarding in the boundary waters. We did make to Sawbill, but she didn't want to because she said it was too cold. We hiked at Gooseberry and visited Split Rock Lighthouse. The best part of the trip was when we stopped to save a turtle that was about to cross the highway. It was on the verge on crossing over the solid white line into the fast moving traffic. I grabbed it and we took it to one of the streams. :)

"If you want something with all your heart, the universe conspires to give it you," - From a Hindi movie

"Having to be broken and rebuild yourself, I think it definitely made him remember why he sacrifices what he sacrifices." - Peta Cavendish.

With you eternally mine
In love there is
No measure of time
We planned it all at the start
That you and I
Live in each other's hearts
We may be oceans away
You feel my love
I hear what you say
No truth is ever a lie
I stumble and fall
But I give you it all - 'Woman in love' by Barbara Streisand

To an old high school classmate, thoughts of my action towards you has have been weighing on my mind lately. I don't even remember your name, but I know we took a computer programming class together. It is one of the stupidest thing that I did in my life. I never even tried to talk to you first to resolve the issue peacefully. I simply just jump kicked you because my idiot friend said that you disrespected him in the hallway.

For that I sincerely apologize for my stupid action. Going forward, I will try my best to be kind to others and resolve issues peacefully.

“The need for certainty is the greatest disease the mind faces.” - Robert Greene

"We are not rich by what we possess but what we can do without." - Immanuel Kant, Philosopher April 22, 1724 - Feb 12, 1804

There cannot be heat without cold, strength and wisdom without suffering, success without failure, life without death, or joy without sadness. Thus, if they both go together, we must learn to appreciate both for one cannot exist without the other.

Shout Outs & Dedications / Re: The unread letter(s)
« on: May 29, 2024, 07:13:57 AM »

This is from a long time ago, but I invited myself to your place and you respectfully decline because you had sensitive information which I had no business knowing. I am ashamed for inviting myself over in such away. I am grateful that you were kind enough to be willing to meet me for a drink, which I never took up the offer because I was too busy feeling offended that you decline my embarrassing request. Anyhow, thank you for your willingness to meet me for a drink and for declining my self invitation. In my clear thoughts, I would have done the same as well, so thank you for both. I will learn from this and be more considerate of my requests and well as others request of my time as well.

Lately, I am reminded that my light went out:

Your Light May Go Out

A student of Tendai, a philosophical school of Buddhism, came to the Zen abode of Gasan as a pupil. When he was departing a few years later, Gasan warned him: "Studying the truth speculatively is useful as a way of collecting preaching material. But remember that unless you meditate constantly your light of truth may go out."

While in London last weekend because my son was running in the London Marathon, we saw a blind person running in the London marathon. The blind person ran locked elbow with another runner. It goes to show that we all have too many excuses for why we can't while this person found all the reasons why he could.


I used many of Ashida Kim's Zen stories in my book.  I asked for permission from Mr. Kim. All the great stories help us to understanding happiness in our life's journey.  For in happiness, we give ourselves to the world and ask for nothing.  In our unhappiness, we take everything from the world and our unhappiness radiates into the world.  One of my favorite that I used was:

Ryonen's Clear Realization

The Buddhist nun known as Ryonen was born in 1797. She was a granddaughter of the famous Japanese warrior Shingen. Her poetical genius and alluring beauty were such that at seventeen she was serving the empress as one of the ladies of the court. Even at such a youthful age fame awaited her.

The beloved empress died suddenly and Ryonen's hopeful dreams vanished. She became acutely aware of the impermanency of life in this world. It was then that she desired to study Zen.

Her relatives disagreed, however, and practically forced her into marriage. With a promise that she might become a nun after she had borne three children, Ryonen assented. Before she was twenty-five she had accomplished this condition. Then her husband and relatives could no longer dissuade her from her desire. She shaved her head, took the name of Ryonen, which means to realize clearly, and started on her pilgrimage.

She came to the city of Edo and asked Tetsugyu to accept her as a disciple. At one glance the master rejected her because she was too beautiful.

Ryonen then went to another master, Hakuo. Hakuo refused her for the same reason, saying that her beauty would only make trouble.

Ryonen obtained a hot iron and placed it against her face. In a few moments her beauty had vanished forever.

Hakuo then accepted her as a disciple.

Commemorating this occasion, Ryonen wrote a poem on the back of a little mirror:

In the service of my Empress I burned incense to perfume my exquisite clothes

Now as a homeless mendicant I burn my face to enter a Zen temple.

When Ryonen was about to pass from this world, she wrote another poem:

Sixty-six times have these eyes beheld the changing scene of autumn

I have said enough about moonlight,

Ask no more.

Only listen to the voice of pines and cedars when no wind stirs.

"Set yourself on fire. See those who fan your flame." - Rumi

Shout Outs & Dedications / Re: The unread letter(s)
« on: April 16, 2024, 08:41:49 PM »
Dear Once Upon a Summer Dream,

I never kissed or even hugged the first girl that burned a passionate and lasting hole in my heart. I met a girl a long time on the last night of the party during the 4th of July a long time ago. She came out of state and I live in Minnesota. After a few slow dances, I said she should come back next year. She said, why don't we write. A few days later, some of my friends said that they saw her at Humboldt High school with her cousins. I figured she and her cousins walked there so I went to the public housing nearby and looked for a WA state vehicle, and I found her and spent an afternoon with her and her cousins.

I told her that I would come back another day, if I could get a hug.  I was 15 years old, and was not comfortable asking for more. She followed me to the bus stop and I asked her to go back, which she did. Later on, she said she wanted to hug me then, but I was walking too fast. I never made it back because the day she left, I was out on the farm working. When I got home, my mom told me a girl called me 7 times that day.

In her first letter to me, she said, "I love you and misses you very much." We wrote each other for a year, and, all that time, I hope she would return to Minnesota. She never returned, at least in time. I still can remember the pain that little boy felt due to wanting something so much. We broke up or she ask that we break up, and what can I say. but had to agree and set her free.  When she finally graduated from high school, she wrote me to ask if I am still available. Unfortunately, at the time I was dating my future ex-wife. She soon found a very handsome and loving man and married as well, and is still happily married.

I am reminded of the quote from the movie 'Field of Dreams' that goes "We just don't recognize life's most significant moments while they're happening. Back then I thought, "Well, there'll be other days." I didn't realize that that was the only day."

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