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General Relationship / Re: This is the only way to a loving relationship...

« on: April 24, 2025, 03:49:53 PM »

took you this long to figure it out? I've been trying to tell you this all along....LOL

All we can do is express our perspectives.. .the difference is this, there are those who looks for the truth- those who do, asked the TRUTH itself...hahah a then there are those who just wants to sound interesting, intelligent, and take credit for "figuring it all out"....LMAO

So when in doubt...All you got to do is ask the TRUTH for the truth...I don't say God, because there's many false Gods out there..But there can only be one TRUTH...hahah

 

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General Relationship / Re: This is the only way to a loving relationship...

« on: April 24, 2025, 01:49:43 PM »

A relationship expert says that take time to know someone during the dating stage.  You're never going to know everything that you need to know about them. Instead, what you end up doing is finding their faults and justifying why you won't marry them. Plus, extending the courtship will only create attachments.

People, pick someone to love. That's all there is to it!

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General Relationship / This is the only way to a loving relationship...

« on: April 24, 2025, 01:47:02 PM »

I'm fascinated with studying attachment styles, love languages, relationships, and the whole gambit. I love studying about what works, why they fail, how some relationships turn toxic, etc. But after all this studying, THEY ALL STILL GOT IT WRONG!!!

This is the only way to a loving relationship.. ..

1. Identify the purpose and expectations of marriage.
2. THIS SECOND ONE IS KEY!!!!

How about I just worry about loving you, and you worry about loving me? We both get what we want from each other without having to ask or demand. The love will take care of the rest.

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General Relationship / Re: YOUR WHITE MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE don’t work on hmong people

« on: April 23, 2025, 03:42:02 PM »

^^^

If you don't think the older generation married for security than you are wrong.

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General Relationship / Re: YOUR WHITE MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE don’t work on hmong people

« on: April 23, 2025, 10:15:14 AM »

^^^

It's not just divorced people with kids that have baggage. A lot of people who date mes kas style have a lot of baggage, too.

What I picked up from listening to those stories is that the older and more experience a person has, the more manipulative and calculating they are. They really don't know how to date for love. They only date for sex, companionship, and supply. In the back of their mind, they are already planning an exit plan or how to protect themselves should the situationship end. Sometimes a connection is good and they will still end it because they prioritize themselves first.

They've been burned too many times, and have burned others too many times. They don't trust or believe in real love.

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Marriage & Family Life / Don't become a victim of this type of couple...

« on: April 23, 2025, 09:51:21 AM »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDRaLYeONOI&list=PLTi6COY1KUltCjjYLxsSUqYwJvsiNoZcP&index=174

It's a pretty long video but well worth the watch.

Married people who are serial cheaters. Basically, any couple in a toxic relationship but won't get out. Even when they've broken up, they are still engaging with each other and doing vindictive things towards each other.

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General Relationship / Re: Healthy love feels boring...that's why some people will only commit to...

« on: April 23, 2025, 09:29:32 AM »

Like anything else, it needs good foundation otherwise it will crumble like a stack of cards. A relationship without a strong foundation is like a tree with shallow roots. It might look healthy on the surface but the first storm can knock it down.

Yes. Get with people who have a firm foundation, and I don't just mean materialistic stuff. I mean "mentally" strong.

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Online Journal / Re: Time Capsule

« on: April 22, 2025, 04:34:45 PM »

"THE VOID"

Never allow anyone to create a void in you that never existed. It's a manipulation tactic to get you to develop an unhealthy attachment to them. This happened to me and I'm just glad that I recognized what was happening. Only a person with no integrity would pull this move.

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Faith & Beliefs / Re: Burning Man

« on: April 22, 2025, 12:25:30 PM »

Yes, just another pretentious, white elitist event where they can feel spiritual.

But I would really go there just to see the sculptures.

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Online Journal / Re: Time Capsule

« on: April 22, 2025, 10:12:19 AM »

"Are spells real? And how do you find out if someone put a spell on you?"

A long time ago I accepted a gift from a new friend. They gave me a good luck charm because I was mourning a loss and dealing with personal issues. No one had ever given me a good luck charm before. Anyways, soon afterwards I felt eager to hang out with them and would get anxiety if I didn't see them. I started abandoning my old routines and became consumed by their presence. They were all that I could talk about. It was a new level of excitement that I hadn't felt since I was a kid in December.

Anyways, I misplaced the charm about a year into the friendship, and strangely enough, that's when I started turning to God again for healing. Whenever thoughts of them appeared, I got really intense feelings that I was and had been deceived. I picked up the vibe that they were mirroring me, and concluded that nothing they said was genuine or sincere. I did the initiating and they would simply reaffirm. For example, I'd say "I was just thinking..." and they would respond, "me too". But did they really? I didn't think so. They must've felt the energy shift between us because they began pulling away. I knew the reason why they went cold was because the truth was coming to light.

God will always put the puzzle pieces together if you ask Him and let Him.




 

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Online Journal / Re: Time Capsule

« on: April 22, 2025, 09:19:31 AM »

"Betrayal vs. Deception"

Betrayal is an act of disloyalty.

Deception is the act of causing someone to accept that something is true or valid when it is false or invalid.

Sometimes the betrayer knowingly deceives another with the intent of betraying them.

At other times, the betrayer's disloyalty is committed only after new options become available. 

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: IF you don't make decisions in your life, LIFE will make decisions for you

« on: April 22, 2025, 09:08:24 AM »

I'm not interested in looking up Carpe Diem. He was a very cool person who stood out even though he didn't come on regularly.

Yes, we have all grown up. Many have made a good life for themself.

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General Relationship / Re: sometimes i think about that 15 year old hmong sophomore girl WHO GOT PREGNANT

« on: April 22, 2025, 09:02:38 AM »

That's not unusual at all for the generation that is 40 years old +.

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General Relationship / Re: YOUR WHITE MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE don’t work on hmong people

« on: April 22, 2025, 08:59:55 AM »

Love is old school and over-rated.  These next generation of kids are starting to go for status first and love can take a back seat.  They can marry someone without loving them, as long as they are financial stable.  The term "gold digger" are for women.  As a guy, if I had to start over, I'll be a diamond digger.  Had the chance with an older lady with 5 pho shops in the santa ana area when I was a lot younger.   

Okay, who hurt you?

I sense that you had a childhood trauma that influenced you to pick the wrong partner. That wrong partner damaged you.

Btw, I didn't say that to mock you or judge you, or anything. I know another PHer who is in the same boat as you.

Without commitment, there is no love.

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General Relationship / Re: Good men don't don't look for approval, they look for reciprocity

« on: April 21, 2025, 04:50:27 PM »

I always had girls throw themselves at me, so I never knew what it feels like or how to initiate/chase women until now...

Girls can approach or give hints that they like a guy.