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General Discussion / Re: Hollywood's mis-portrayal of nurses and everything under the sun

« on: April 14, 2025, 02:04:58 PM »

depends...
on what kinda of nurse we are talking about

if it just an CNA assistance nurse... yea.. you are pretty much poverty line right there

once you get through those 4 years college and become RN like my wife
the salary is good... not the best ... but good to where you can travel and save money in your 401k

i won't call it high tier
but like mid tier level

 

That's the impression that Hollywood gives about nurses. They're all CNAs. 

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General Discussion / Hollywood's mis-portrayal of nurses and everything under the sun

« on: April 14, 2025, 12:37:13 PM »

Ever notice how Hollywood portrays nurses as less educated and always in some type of financial struggle? Hollywood makes it seem like nursing is something you get trained to do at a vocational night school because you only have a GED, and therefore, couldn't go to a real university like Harvard. Every single nurse is either a single mother who is struggling to make ends meet, or a young lady hoping to marry above her paygrade. 

The lies that Hollywood will tell for entertainment purposes. 

The nurses I know lifted their entire family out of poverty and moved to the fancy part of town. Many had to take super hard classes and pass a series of exams to get licensed to practice.

Hollywood is garbage.

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General Relationship / Re: Good men don't don't look for approval, they look for reciprocity

« on: April 14, 2025, 12:23:05 PM »

It's a red flag to me when the man doesn't initiate. Obviously, you gotta keep an eye out for the ones who are only chasing to get sex. The point I want to make is that when a man is more interested in your world, it shows that he doesn't know who he is, has nothing to offer, and is trying to get things out of you until he's done. I've seen this happen to so many women who bring the man into their world.

A good man is someone who has something to offer. He knows that it's his job to impress and convince the woman to say "yes" to him. A man is more committed to the relationship when it's the woman who fits his lifestyle. Men are wired to find a woman who accepts him. Women are wired to adjust in order to fit their man's lifestyle. If a woman is unwilling to do this, she will become a nag, drama queen, unhappy, etc.

This is why women should always be checking out if she can fit into his lifestyle. She has to accept everything about him.

If a man accepts your chasing, then he is most likely unsure of what he wants in life and is just buying time. He will leave when he tires of you, finally knows what he wants, or you kick him out. Again, how many times have we seen this story play out??? 

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General Relationship / Re: two of my exs are now divorce

« on: April 14, 2025, 11:54:26 AM »

They completed their karmic contracts. 

Don't worry, you didn't get either of them in this lifetime but that means there is karmic debt that both will have to pay in the next life. Maybe you will show up then and give them hell. 

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General Relationship / Re: Situationships and the ick

« on: April 14, 2025, 10:50:10 AM »

Too many people have karmic debt from their failed relationships. They haven't divorced from their spiritual spouses and therefore, that energy is stifling a connection with someone who would actually be a good life mate.

I don't think soul tie is limited to just having had a toxic relationship. I believe anybody who tries to meet relationship needs through porn, online, etc. is also creating soul ties, spiritual spouses, addiction, etc.

If you don't want the real thing then you really ought not to try and substitute it.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Premarital sex and playing house create negative karma

« on: April 14, 2025, 10:32:12 AM »

A guy created a lot of soul ties and had a lot of spiritual wives because of it.  That bad energy was preventing him from solidifying a genuine, healthy relationship with a secure partner. However, the only ex he was able to sever with and not carry that energy was his ex-wife, and that's because it was a marriage. Marriage doesn't create soul ties or spiritual spouses. When the marriage ends, a karma contract has completed rather than creating karma debt.

He should go back to the exes, marry them, and then divorce them in order to end his karmic debt. lol He's obviously not divorced from his spiritual wives. lol

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Marriage & Family Life / Retirement Party showed that married people already have their "one"

« on: April 14, 2025, 03:02:25 AM »

A married couple sat at the front of their guests. Their grown children was throwing a retirement party for their mother. May Vang was the special guest speaker. Most people only saw a smiling couple whose been married for 50 years. They have successful children, healthy grandchildren, and are well-respected in their community. But what a lot of people didn't know was that 30 years ago the husband was a serial cheater and even shelled out $1000 to sleep with another married woman, who was a well-known Hmong singer at the time. The scandal spread across the community like wildfire and the pair was on the brink of divorce. Then there was the time the husband tried to marry a mos ab, which triggered another stroke-inducing moment for the wife.

But the people will not look at them and think, "what a messed up pair."

No, they will think, "that is strong love. Their love is the kind that endured struggles. We should all be so lucky to have an enduring marriage such as theirs."

By sticking together, they showed people that they already have their "one".

Some people divorced and hoped to get a fresh start. All they found were players, which made them wish they had stuck it out with their ex-spouses. Maybe then, they also would be sitting in front of guests, and the guests would be admiring their long-lasting marriage, too.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Premarital sex and playing house create negative karma

« on: April 14, 2025, 02:31:45 AM »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N974D56Xp-c

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Dear Dr. PebHmong / Re: My daily support...If you want to complain.

« on: April 14, 2025, 01:44:06 AM »

Truth is few people know how to keep peace.

That's because peace requires not just words to pain;
it requires actions, too.

We don't know what we do or say that will give someone peace.
So, they fight back.

Real, genuine, healthy love is actually very boring because it's too peaceful. Most people think that love has to be stimulating all the time or else it is not love. Therefore, they are compelled to incite drama. Too many people have fallen for what they see in movies or read in books, many of which do not reflect what real love looks or feels like.

When there is real love, you will always feel secure and comfortable about the connection. You can go for long periods of time being apart. Having space and a healthy dose of independence is actually encouraged. It means that the bond and trust is very strong. There is no anxiety that you're going to lose them.

I post a lot of threads about relationships but many of that stuff coming from relationship coaches are unsustainable.

Real love should not create a state of euphoria 24/7. That's an addiction (unhealthy attachment).

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Marriage & Family Life / Premarital sex and playing house create negative karma

« on: April 13, 2025, 04:39:40 PM »

It is believed by holistic practitioners and some religious sects that a partnership outside of marriage that includes sex will create negative karma in both the present and next life. When you have intercourse with another person, you are signing a karmic contract and creating a soul tie with your body. In other words, you are taking on a spiritual spouse. These unions have a demonic spirit about them because they are not blessed by God. Therefore, they follow you and sabotage any subsequent relationships you have, including when you do finally get married in the physical world. They also play out in your romantic life in the next lifetime because you have karmic debt and spiritual spouses.

Never sleep with any one you don't intend to marry. And if you break up before marrying them, you should perform a spiritual divorce.

If a person wants to initiate a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that involves sex, they usually don't have any good intentions. It's the access to having regular sex that they're after. Only time will tell if they are serious about you. Unfortunately, most of the time it doesn't lead to the commitment that was expected and now there is karma debt. That karma debt will have to run its course even if it takes several lifetimes - for those who believe in the many lives ideology.

If a person just wants sex in order to satisfy sexual needs, they can pay a sex worker for that. That is also demonic spirit but at least they aren't misleading someone who has expectations of a real commitment.

John 4:16-19 New International Version (NIV) Jesus speaks to a Samaritan woman at the well

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” “Sir,” the woman said, “I can see that you are a prophet."

Jesus knew that the woman did not have a husband in the literal sense, but he knew that she had spiritual husbands through sexual intercourse outside of marriage. This applies to men as well.

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Online Journal / Re: Time Capsule

« on: April 13, 2025, 05:42:27 AM »

Everyday I'm grateful that I live a very comfortable life filled with abundance and peace, and have been for a very long time. Whenever I feel disappointed (and sometimes even heartbroken) that something didn't work out, I ask myself this question:

"How would that contribute to my comfortable and peaceful life?"

If the answer is "it wouldn't", then the healing process takes a shorter time.

Sometimes people walk away because they don't want to disrupt your life, knowing that you're happy and satisfied where you're at. They feel like they would only be a burden and cause you to resent them.

Trust in God to send you the right people and the right opportunities to fill your life with abundance.

What God has for you, will always be for you.

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General Relationship / This guy makes the most sense...how toxicity begins

« on: April 13, 2025, 04:22:51 AM »

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/lW41YdfYP8k

This guy has a lot of good content. His explanation of what makes a relationship toxic is clear and on point. As soon as one person wishes that the other person was different, that's when the relationship will devolve into toxicity.

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Marriage & Family Life / Ladies, you'll always get the short end of the stick if you do this...

« on: April 13, 2025, 03:53:14 AM »

...give a man consistent sex outside of marriage.

That Emily chick in theking's thread is kidding herself if she doesn't think that she'll feel super used when the situationship ends. And it's always related to SEX.

For now, she feels great because she gets a loyal companionship from that guy. But what she doesn't realize is that he is already getting exactly what he wants from her ------> SEX.

Take away the sex and that guy isn't going to keep coming around just to watch movies and eat dinner.

Women should only give their bodies when they are wife status.

It's funny that she thinks it's working for her. She doesn't realize that all she had to do was give up her body. 

If she wants to know how loyal that guy is, take away the sex. Let's see if she will still view him as a loyal companion who will come around even though neither wants marriage, blah blah blah. 




 

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General Relationship / Re: Good men don't don't look for approval, they look for reciprocity

« on: April 13, 2025, 03:13:49 AM »

JJ,

Txog nyias tus nyias mam li paub.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: A man cursed by an angry ex

« on: April 13, 2025, 02:40:48 AM »

Others have come forward to share their confrontation with this man. He was also dismissed from his profession for violating rules about ethical practices. Well there you go, getting fired for being unethical on the job pretty sums up this man's character.

Just to show how despicable this guy is, there was an interview with a women he once dated and then ghosted. She said that he was so heartless that he didn't remember her after all these years, and was hitting up her FB 24/7. She played along for about three weeks and then finally, she told him off. She knew that he was a player who also put the moves on her friend and sister.

I get the impression that if a person can be this despicable to someone, they probably have a lot of history doing it to a lot of other people. Nobody gets to this level of deception and manipulation without a lot of practice.