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Offline Believe_N_Me

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How do you have trust outside of a commitment?
« on: September 10, 2024, 11:57:00 AM »
Obviously, I'm not naive to believe that people will never break their vows, but how do some folks feel so completely at ease being in a relationship when there has not been a commitment made?

I believe that I finally understand those folks.

A gal has been with her boyfriend since the middle school. They're like two peas in a pod. Anyways, they're super comfortable with each other but she obviously wears the pants. The girl yells at him and orders him like a servant. She even speaks down on him. She's been doing this since middle school. When they were in high school she ran away to live with him and his divorced mom. Her parents were very upset and tried every way to bring her back but she wouldn't come back. Well since then, they've had two children and still no marriage. The thought never crossed their mind. The parents don't even demand it anymore.

So how do I know they're committed to each other?

It's obvious. One person has major abandonment issues, and the other has narcissistic traits. THIS TYPE OF PAIR WILL NEVER LEAVE EACH OTHER.

You have the abuser (who always has control) and the submissive person (who is too weak to ever leave). Why would they give up this dynamic?

CONCLUSION:

I guess to have a long-lasting commitment you just have to know which type you are: abuser or submissive.

If you're the abuser then find a submissive person who puts you on a pedestal and worships you. They will never leave.

If you're the submissive then find someone to worship, that person will definitely go back and forth but in the end, they'll come back because you worship them more than anybody else is willing to.



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Re: How do you have trust outside of a commitment?
« Reply #1 on: September 13, 2024, 02:33:14 AM »
Men can experience trauma bonds too. lol the sad thing is humans are highly adaptable. Creatures of habit. They get use to a feeling, a emotion, and then they get accustom to it- Some become broken, bittered-lost and stolen souls. Not all will be save because some do not want to be saved.......



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Re: How do you have trust outside of a commitment?
« Reply #2 on: October 01, 2024, 03:27:53 PM »
Men can experience trauma bonds too. lol the sad thing is humans are highly adaptable. Creatures of habit. They get use to a feeling, a emotion, and then they get accustom to it- Some become broken, bittered-lost and stolen souls. Not all will be save because some do not want to be saved.......

Yes. A good boy whose never had a girlfriend gets addicted to the town slut because she is his first. There are stories like that in every community and on Hmong Youtube, too. A lot of OGs are trauma bonded to those mos ab in Laos and Thailand.



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Re: How do you have trust outside of a commitment?
« Reply #3 on: October 01, 2024, 09:46:10 PM »
Yes. A good boy whose never had a girlfriend gets addicted to the town slut because she is his first. There are stories like that in every community and on Hmong Youtube, too. A lot of OGs are trauma bonded to those mos ab in Laos and Thailand.

Wise old man once told me a boy can't become a man until he has his heart broken so bad, face and accept all the harsh realities of life, has control, or some control of his lustful thinking..haha ha and no longer fear death..To some it takes a few bullets before they really become men...Some choose to hide and but realized they wished they face it a lot sooner...Some hide forever....LOL Some of the OG's skipped or didn't have to deal with all this..Love was easy during their hay days...it was either yes or no, okay or no thanks and if it was yes and okay, then it's happily ever after...up until the age of social media...LOL



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Re: How do you have trust outside of a commitment?
« Reply #4 on: October 04, 2024, 12:33:55 AM »
Heart broken men are foolish and don't make good life partners. They're incapable of having a healthy relationship.

I know at least one. It's the DA I told you about. The times he spent sharing about himself was not to bond. He was venting because he didn't want to pay a counselor.  ::) He should have had the decency to end a relationship first and heal. And stop monkey branching. This person was very selfish and definitely had narcissistic traits. He was still very much involved with his primary supply, and did not care if he destroyed the lives of the new woman he pursued.



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Re: How do you have trust outside of a commitment?
« Reply #5 on: October 05, 2024, 07:53:26 AM »
Yeah, I heard stories from people who dealt with D.A's.....Some say it takes many years if ever to heal from the damages....But Some say, they missed out on potentially great partners because they were to wrung out and also regret that as well. Some become D.A's themselves because, it can be contagious, if it isn't....already.. ..LOL

You know, if two people hang out or become friends long enough, they'll eventually think a like, have the same beliefs etc....this is where two people spiritually join forces...But if you feel like your'e constantly vying with someone...spir itually, your spirits dont get along...and thus, you get a intuition to warned you....hhaha yup...I'm a expert on the spritiual realm side of things..lols




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