There is no such thing as marrying the love of your life when you're past 45

[Believe_N_Me]

I hear this all the time from people past their mid-40s. Those in their 50s will affirm. Those nearing 60 just say "forget about it!"

A relationship at that age is purely for convenience and transactional.

An older man who chooses a woman his age or older looks for someone to perform household duties so that he has more time to enjoy his recreational hobbies, and for when he is experiencing issues due to deteriorating health.

An older, childless man who chooses a younger woman is basically racing against time. It's his last chance at leaving a legacy. This pertains to the men who actually want a child. For the ones who don't, it is purely for lust and an ego-booster.

The good news is that the women who agree to this arrangement also understand that it's about convenience and transaction for them, too.

[Believe_N_Me]

I'm actually not against this type of agreement at all, and think that it has longevity potential as long as both people uphold their vows. In fact, marriage is kind of a transaction anyways where each person is expected to fulfill a role. If you take the emotions out of the equation, it might actually keep everyone sane! No anxiety, no unmet expectations, and certainly no unhealthy attachments.

 

[AppleBrook]

hmmm...i think it is never too late for love aka marriage.  marriage is broad.  it can be for love, caring, sharing or the like.

[Believe_N_Me]

It's really just to have an emergency contact.

That's what they tell me. lol!

When a man says that there are always women, that's what he means. He is just looking for a transactional relationship that works for his circumstance.

[Dok_Champa]

Love is love and no such thing as the love of your life.  AND yes even at 45, 50, 60, 70, a person can love and find love.  Any age, love is hard to find but when you do find it, keep it, work to keep it.

[theking]

A relationship at that age is purely for convenience and transactional.

Very ignorant of you due to your narrow mind but NOT SURPRISED coming from you.   

FACT says, it's not just "purely for convenience" as reasons can vary...

[JonniJacko]

For women, it's harder...much harder if not impossible...I f her body count is more than one....Yeah... it's near impossible, spirtually- it's impossible...L OL

For men, he'd probably have to pay and buy love from someone, usually much younger....

So yeah...I tell people, men and women all the time---get use to being alone, learn to embrace solitude, be self reliant, and will either kill your libido, or make your intention clear with others tha tyou just want to hook and release. lol

[Believe_N_Me]

If they tell you that they are with the love of their life then they are lying.

No such thing if they've been in several serious relationships.

Perhaps the "loves" of their life - notice the plural???

A woman whom I went to school with has been living with an old, white guy in his late50-mid60s for a few years now. This dude looks like Santa Claus. She, on the other hand, was a very beautiful and desired girl back in the day. Her ex-Hmong husband was also very handsome, smart and came from a well-to-do family. She was crazy in love with him. But they eventually divorced.

She told me that this white dude is good to her and she is content. NO way in h@ll would she have been attracted to him if we're being honest here. But now that she is much older and divorced, she is looking for different things in a partner.

Not exactly the love of her life but good enough to feel at peace.

[JonniJacko]

If they tell you that they are with the love of their life then they are lying.

No such thing if they've been in several serious relationships.

Perhaps the "loves" of their life - notice the plural???

A woman whom I went to school with has been living with an old, white guy in his late50-mid60s for a few years now. This dude looks like Santa Claus. She, on the other hand, was a very beautiful and desired girl back in the day. Her ex-Hmong husband was also very handsome, smart and came from a well-to-do family. She was crazy in love with him. But they eventually divorced.

She told me that this white dude is good to her and she is content. NO way in h@ll would she have been attracted to him if we're being honest here. But now that she is much older and divorced, she is looking for different things in a partner.

Not exactly the love of her life but good enough to feel at peace.

She counting on the day he leaves earth and getting em life insurance money. This game has been played for decades. LOL....j.k

I tell many middle aged women who tells me, they are lonely, they need a man, they wished they can start over, etc...that, all they really need is God..but in order for that, they must really live by the words of the Gospel..not just preach it, worst not use it in any manipulative form....hahah I"m not religious or Godly, but I just know things naturally, because well, maybe I'm from Heaven... LOL

In life, it's just a learning experience for the most part. Humans were meant to make mistakes, some life altering, some heartbreaking, and some- life ending...But the dark truth is, these things must happen in order for humans to be prepare for what is the real reality....the Heavens....bec ause in teh Heavens, there is no room for mistakes.....h ahaha In the end, the truth is....it's not anyone, but the demons in them.....

[Cali Guy]

The love of your life isn’t guaranteed by a calendar but it’s found by people willing to do the inner work at any age. So no such thing as a 45 deadline.

[Believe_N_Me]

Very ignorant of you due to your narrow mind but NOT SURPRISED coming from you.   

FACT says, it's not just "purely for convenience" as reasons can vary...

Giving examples of divorced/widowed/single people in their second, third, fourth and beyond relationships IS EXACTLY THE REASON WHY THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS HAVING THE LOVE OF ONE'S LIFE. Perhaps one of the many loves of their life, but one true love? LOL!!!!

Based on your own relationship history, your wife is just one of the loves of your life.

[Believe_N_Me]

The love of your life implies that this is the one and only person you've ever had a relationship with. Having multiple relationships whether good or bad means that you had many partners whom you enjoyed while it lasted. You probably thought every single one of them was "the one" in the beginning during the honeymoon phase. lol!!!!

Unless you're a 40 year+ virgin whose never been in a relationship, no such thing as having found the love of your life after you've had multiple relationships.

Some of y'all just upset because you don't want to view your current relationship at your age as transactional and out of convenience. But there is no shame in that. People are built for companionship. Nothing wrong with entering a relationship because you need an emergency contact, and/or are seeking a hunting/fishing/traveling/eating pho partner. Many people do this because they don't have children, and some do it because their children are grown and out of the house.

[Believe_N_Me]

She counting on the day he leaves earth and getting em life insurance money. This game has been played for decades. LOL....j.k

I tell many middle aged women who tells me, they are lonely, they need a man, they wished they can start over, etc...that, all they really need is God..but in order for that, they must really live by the words of the Gospel..not just preach it, worst not use it in any manipulative form....hahah I"m not religious or Godly, but I just know things naturally, because well, maybe I'm from Heaven... LOL

In life, it's just a learning experience for the most part. Humans were meant to make mistakes, some life altering, some heartbreaking, and some- life ending...But the dark truth is, these things must happen in order for humans to be prepare for what is the real reality....the Heavens....bec ause in teh Heavens, there is no room for mistakes.....h ahaha In the end, the truth is....it's not anyone, but the demons in them.....

The only love of someone's life should be God. Partners in this day and age come and go. Very few couples actually work through their problems.

I highly admire those who separated and even divorced, only to find each other again. That is a great example of being each other's "the one". It reminds me of Abraham and Sarah's relationship. At one point Sarah even married a king because Abraham wanted the people to think they were only brother and sister in order to spare his life. He knew that men desired Sarah's beauty and would kill him in order to make her their wife. But in the end they stayed together until their very last days.

Cov niam txiv es rov sib yuav yeej tsis muaj leej twg thuam tau li os. Doesn't matter what kind of BS they put each other through. It's their marriage and if they can accept each other's flaws then who is anybody to tell them otherwise?

[theking]

Giving examples of divorced/widowed/single people in their second, third, fourth and beyond relationships IS EXACTLY THE REASON WHY THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS HAVING THE LOVE OF ONE'S LIFE. Perhaps one of the many loves of their life, but one true love? LOL!!!!

Based on your own relationship history, your wife is just one of the loves of your life.

It's a common sense common knowledge FACT that some folks can have multiple loves of their life and it's been proven but I don't expect you to have the common sense to grasp that FACT!

I mean you put Hmong men down by painting them as "short, fat and have flat nose" but you married one so doesn't say much about your integrity.

[hmgROCK]

LOL

damn
what a backward mindset thinking ass take

 

marrying someone just to eat PHO??
i eat and drink every weekend with the family