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Marriage & Family Life / Re: There is no such thing as marrying the love of your life when you're past 45

« on: April 17, 2026, 09:56:50 PM »

If they tell you that they are with the love of their life then they are lying.

No such thing if they've been in several serious relationships.

Perhaps the "loves" of their life - notice the plural???

A woman whom I went to school with has been living with an old, white guy in his late50-mid60s for a few years now. This dude looks like Santa Claus. She, on the other hand, was a very beautiful and desired girl back in the day. Her ex-Hmong husband was also very handsome, smart and came from a well-to-do family. She was crazy in love with him. But they eventually divorced.

She told me that this white dude is good to her and she is content. NO way in h@ll would she have been attracted to him if we're being honest here. But now that she is much older and divorced, she is looking for different things in a partner.

Not exactly the love of her life but good enough to feel at peace.

She counting on the day he leaves earth and getting em life insurance money. This game has been played for decades. LOL....j.k

I tell many middle aged women who tells me, they are lonely, they need a man, they wished they can start over, etc...that, all they really need is God..but in order for that, they must really live by the words of the Gospel..not just preach it, worst not use it in any manipulative form....hahah I"m not religious or Godly, but I just know things naturally, because well, maybe I'm from Heaven... LOL

In life, it's just a learning experience for the most part. Humans were meant to make mistakes, some life altering, some heartbreaking, and some- life ending...But the dark truth is, these things must happen in order for humans to be prepare for what is the real reality....the Heavens....bec ause in teh Heavens, there is no room for mistakes.....h ahaha In the end, the truth is....it's not anyone, but the demons in them.....

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General Discussion / Re: Trump is now mocking God

« on: April 17, 2026, 03:46:51 PM »

Trump forgot that God save his ear from getting blowned off....LOL that's hella jungle yo....LOL

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General Discussion / Re: Trump is now mocking God

« on: April 17, 2026, 03:39:37 PM »

not really..
hmong shaman is just chill
eat and drink budlight

 

see how those two bezos trash the SEVENTH DAY CHURCH

 

check out Hmong talk on facebook. Not for the faint of heart, hmiggas there be hella jungle.....LOL

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Re: Nothing wrong with that regardless if you're in your 20s, 30s, ...etc

« on: April 17, 2026, 03:28:37 PM »

She may be telling the truth , or she may be hiding the fact that she just wasn't all that into him, but that he was so deserving but she, like a good percentage of women, don't like guys who are too perfect and too nice....hahaha There's no challenge, the pressure is high, and well, the sexual energy is not there...LOL

There's a old wise man's proverb that says "women only respect and appreciate nice guys when women reaches 60 and beyond" hahaha

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: There is no such thing as marrying the love of your life when you're past 45

« on: April 17, 2026, 11:16:56 AM »

For women, it's harder...much harder if not impossible...I f her body count is more than one....Yeah... it's near impossible, spirtually- it's impossible...L OL

For men, he'd probably have to pay and buy love from someone, usually much younger....

So yeah...I tell people, men and women all the time---get use to being alone, learn to embrace solitude, be self reliant, and will either kill your libido, or make your intention clear with others tha tyou just want to hook and release. lol

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Despite of what others think one should still do what's right for one

« on: April 17, 2026, 10:45:48 AM »

Couples who traded Visa or shared visa cards are more likely to fight to the end...Fight to keep their bond alive....Coupl es with credit cards, well ya know what modern men say "rent and borrow" late payments and high interest rates will eventually lead to bankruptcy so don't mess with people with too many credit cards...lol

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Married couples who stay together are admired...

« on: April 17, 2026, 10:38:05 AM »

...not because of a perfect marriage but because they overcame challenges and obstacles.

I find this to be very true.

I know of couples who stayed together through affairs, addictions, and even couples who came back to reconcile after separation and divorce. This shows the love they have for the life they built together and for their children and the descendants to come.

I have never seen anyone admire divorced people who remarried to someone whom they're never going to have children and build a family with. The public just doesn't find these second-chance relationships where no children are born from the relationship as inspiring or a cause for celebration.

It appears that such relationships are only to benefit the two people in it. For example, if an older divorcee remarries, that relationship really is just so she can have a companion, and not become a burden to her grown children. Her new man isn't exactly going to be daddy to her children. That relationship belongs only to her. And since they don't have children together due to their inability to produce children, what legacy are they really leaving? She has no real value to his clan so if he dies first, welps, that's it for her. Who from his clan is going to keep tabs on her when there is no child to be the link? She is only in their thoughts if she has some relation to them. Perhaps her new man was connected to her maternal clan in some way. If her new man is an introvert who isn't involved with his clan, it's likely that his own clan won't even know much about her.

But married couples who reconcile are viewed as strong and everyone rejoices.

A man whose extra-marital affairs became public scandal threw a retirement party for his wife. The guests showered them with compliments about the longevity of their marriage and hoped their own marriages would outlast the struggles of marital life.

A man abandoned his wife and young children, and married another woman. After 55 years of living separate lives, he found his way back to the first wife and proposed to remarry her. His grown children were overjoyed, and the community rejoiced at their renewed vows. 

People like to see families stay in tact. They like to see parents, and grandparents stay together so that children have elders who are their blood.

I don't know about this BNM, where I'm from, if someone stays with a cheater or gets back with one- they lose respect forever.....Di vorce people who co-parents and are trying their best and still giving their children their all- are highly respected.

People in this side of the world- they respect people who can do the right thing, over the "best" thing and will die for it even if it means dying alone.....haha ha

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General Relationship / Re: Watch out for twisted girls like this Asian girl

« on: April 17, 2026, 10:23:32 AM »

We have a lot of demons in human forms out there. This is why a man today can never let his guard down, not even when he sleeps with one eye and ear open and a loyal dog that will die for him...lol

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Re: Are you just a placeholder partner??

« on: April 14, 2026, 11:17:56 PM »

Yes, after 10 minutes of conversing and someone isn't sure if you are "It"...the one they want to take a genuine chance with....then there's no point of sticking around. You are volunteering to be their placeholder or a option...LOL Many men in past generations were okay with that....but Modern men are just a lot more smarter...LOL

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General Relationship / Re: If I'm single again

« on: April 14, 2026, 10:43:48 PM »

I'm Happy to be single, a failure, loser and always broke....LOL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xVz-CP6VvAs

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General Relationship / Re: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I

« on: April 03, 2026, 05:39:23 AM »

just grabbed em by the hair has worked for me every time...LOL

yes, everyone is different now days. Long gone are the days where, Charismatic Men are heartbreakers and Pretty women are Mean....LOL Today, it's about self mastery and being a self taught psychologist.. .haha

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Online Journal / Re: The Not so private Diary of JonniJacco

« on: March 28, 2026, 08:34:26 PM »

I'm thinking about getting into biking. Never knew my city is this beautiful....A t least from above...and during this time of the year. haha I only knew of the infamous parts of the city..LOL


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvcfubXRu0c

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Online Journal / Re: The Not so private Diary of JonniJacco

« on: March 28, 2026, 08:25:37 PM »

Kid sitting my two youngest nephews the other day got me thinking deep. They're so full of life, so talkative, so humorous at such a young age, and of course the cutest kids int he world...hahah

Well, I thought later on as they left...

"some day, when the become men, that happiness might fade a little if not a lot, some day, the young man int hem that thought they knew it all will probably be broken down and force to rebuild into stronger, better, wiser men."

I thought to myself....I can't just be the "cool" uncle. I need to be the Uncle who is a real man....haha I shouldn't always spoiled them, let them on ipads, and youtube all day long..LOL no sodas and no junk food.

Told my sister, it's the only way I keep them under control...LOL Hence, she only asked me to watch the boys as a last option.

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General Relationship / Re: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I

« on: March 28, 2026, 07:36:54 PM »

I'd never chase or pursue women. I might initiate conversation and then I ask, just once. LOL

people tell me, I was too nice and need to chase harder next time. be more assertive etc...

Well, I try that...and it doesn't work either...Maybe in the 90's and 00's...but not in today's world....LOL

Always stay true to yourself...It's not about scoring, it's about finding the right person for you. Be okay to take No for an answer. Be bless, they tell you now, instead of stringing you along keeping you in their backburner with no respect to your time and efforts...lols

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General Relationship / Re: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I

« on: March 26, 2026, 02:10:47 AM »

 yeah, I rather get rejected or told stright up than play the guessing game...You dont want to be that dude who is blowing up her phone while someone else is doing weird bedroom rituals with her..uhh..errr ...I mean don't be that dude that is buying her free food and movie tickets. haha