If these were my parents, I'd find it shameful and offensive

[Believe_N_Me]

It's one thing if my parents divorced because they could no longer get along and crossed the line with each other. But I'd find it so offensive and shameful if they kept getting into drama with lovers for years on end.

A woman was quick to get rid of the husband only to move in a boyfriend who was no better than the ex-spouse. In fact, even worse because the boyfriend keeps breaking her heart but she keeps him around. Also, dads who keep spending money on women that they never spent on the ex-wife. These people are in super toxic and drama situationships AND they're doing it in front of the children.

The children are sad because their mom didn't have the same patience for dad but is willing to have all this drama with a strange dude in their home. Meanwhile, children are sad to see dad spending a lot of money he doesn't have on women who are just using him, when he was so cheap with their mom.

Parents, don't you know that you hurt your children and they have little respect for you when you act like this?

Be a real adult. You don't have to stay married but stop your toxic situationships around them. You're a total fool and they're ashamed of your behavior. Nobody respects you.

[Believe_N_Me]

Daughters are a little more forgiving but sons feel very ashamed and won't come around the house, unless they're the type who are unethical and have low morals themselves.

No respectable son wants to be around his mom and a boyfriend who she is in constant drama with. You have to wonder what kind of hobosexual even shacks up with a woman who has sons? How disrespectful does one have to be to move into a woman's home, eat her food, and shag her with her sons under the same roof? How unworthy does a woman have to feel about herself to bring in a man whom she isn't married to, to be around her sons?

No son wants to see their mom whoring herself and getting used by a man.

[Believe_N_Me]

A long time ago a middle school Hmong student suddenly started crying. This was a very quiet boy who never said much in class. He said that his dad was going to Laos to marry a girl there. He saw his dad pack up jewelry, money, and all these extravagant gifts to give to the girl. He said that he felt really sad when he saw how willingly his dad was to spend on this woman.

[Believe_N_Me]

There were these siblings who used to always attend church by themselves. One day, the older sister confided that church was the only real stable place they had. They felt sad over the fact that their mother was always unforgiving with their dad. Their dad mishandled some finances and often talked to other women and that's why their parents finally divorced. But the children felt very betrayed when the mom started dating a family friend whom she eventually moved into the home where they grew up. The thing is that this guy never really helped out and was also going around acting like he was single. It caused a lot of drama and their mom was always anxious because there was a lot of fighting. She suffered a lot of emotional distress from the divorce and having to deal with this guy. But for some reason the mom wouldn't kick out this guy. This went on for years. Even when it was obvious the guy was just using their mom, she was too weak to kick him out because she was too used to having him around.

The children are grown now and harbor some bad feelings towards their mom because she obviously had no problem kicking out their dad but was super attached to this guy who was a bum. That's why the children are much closer to their dad.

[Believe_N_Me]

A long time ago, a son and his wife would bring over their children for his mom to babysit while they went to work. The mom was a widower in her 50s. When the daughter-in-law came to pick up the kids, she noticed that mom was always either on the phone talking to a suitor or there would be a suitor at the house. The kids didn't appear to be looked after. The daughter-in-law was upset and confronted her husband who claimed that he would speak to his mother about it.

One day when the daughter-in-law came to pick up the children like she always did, one of the children was missing. It was the two-year-old. The mom was sitting in the living room and talking on the phone the entire time. Finally, they both stepped out to the patio in the back. The two-year-old had drowned in one of those tubs. Apparently, the mom (grandma) had gone out to water the garden while talking on the phone. This was when people had cordless phones. Then she had filled the tub with water to wash zaub, but didn't empty it out. She didn't notice that the two year old had followed her outside.