Hypergamy

[JonniJacko]

It's real...I tell you why...One time my aunt said to me " Son, You need to find a wife"...and my mother interrupted " Even if he find a wife, they're not going to love him, he's got nothing to show"....

At the time, I didn't think much of it...didn't know what or why my Old lady would say such, but just thought that's how she shows humility for having such a good looking son...LMAO kind of like the old Hmong saying.....eve n if your daughter is very pretty, you say she is very ugly and smell like crap...so the evil spirits don't take her away.....

But now I think of it, my old lady was dead serious....She never once told me or pressure me to find a wife...She always said if she had it her way, she stayed single....and so they say, mother's no best....she knows single for me is best...LOL

[Cali Guy]

Hypergamy shouldn't exist in the Hmong community but it does. Even the poor class has levels of poor classes lol but with that said, not everyone is materialistic including the xx.

[Believe_N_Me]

Very few Hmong men are willing to marry up. They marry the one they feel most comfortable with and then cheat with the one they're attracted to and love. Then there are the ones who actually marry a second and even a third wife. These are the ones whom they're attracted to. First wife is usually the main supply and provides stable home life.

Nowadays, the more modern ones know that it's against the law to practice polygamy so what they do is cohabitate with the first girlfriend while date and give all their affection and attention to another.

[JonniJacko]

Hypergamy shouldn't exist in the Hmong community but it does. Even the poor class has levels of poor classes lol but with that said, not everyone is materialistic including the xx.

GVP's status alone got him 20+ wives. LOL

[JonniJacko]

Very few Hmong men are willing to marry up. They marry the one they feel most comfortable with and then cheat with the one they're attracted to and love. Then there are the ones who actually marry a second and even a third wife. These are the ones whom they're attracted to. First wife is usually the main supply and provides stable home life.

Nowadays, the more modern ones know that it's against the law to practice polygamy so what they do is cohabitate with the first girlfriend while date and give all their affection and attention to another.

Most men out there don't even know what hypergamy is..Heck, I didn't until recently...LOL It's all about understanding the opposite sex and how they were biologically programmed. Women's natural instinct is survival, protection, and security. This comes before loving a man...But in the info age, survival means wealth, protection means being a ass-o, and security means uhh more wealth..hahaha .Men are uneasy with this idea because ultimately men wants a woman besides their mother, who will love them unconditionall y LOL.. But the sneaky ones, like the chads and tyrones, red pill, blue pill bullshit theories will use this knowledge to their advantage...ev enthough they disagree with it, they will do anything to get laid...even if it means putting on a facade...LMAO

Men as you described have issues. Mostly insecurity or ego issues..For some it's spiritual issues..The Hmong have a long history of family curses...hahah a j.k but might be true...LOL

Men in general are not hypergamy at all IMO...They just want to be loved and have sex...LMAO but men gotta understand why women think the way they do...I joked to a co-worker the other day...I said to her " I understand you...You're a woman. If you buy groceries only to realize you don't have enough, you're embarassed, you just want to hide...But I'm a man...If I don't have enough, I can just joke  it off, and say something like "wtf, where did my secret 20 dollar bill went?" or I can just yell out "fuking why the hell is everything so high now days!" LMAO

so in conclusion, I think there needs to be more middle ground between men and women, if love is going to continue on into the future....haha ha

[Cali Guy]

GVP's status alone got him 20+ wives. LOL

So having 20+ wives, that is marrying down. 

[Prude]

It's real...I tell you why...One time my aunt said to me " Son, You need to find a wife"...and my mother interrupted " Even if he find a wife, they're not going to love him, he's got nothing to show"....

At the time, I didn't think much of it...didn't know what or why my Old lady would say such, but just thought that's how she shows humility for having such a good looking son...LMAO kind of like the old Hmong saying.....even if your daughter is very pretty, you say she is very ugly and smell like crap...so the evil spirits don't take her away.....

But now I think of it, my old lady was dead serious....She never once told me or pressure me to find a wife...She always said if she had it her way, she stayed single....and so they say, mother's no best....she knows single for me is best...LOL

That applies to babies only, not to ripe women.