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Never act like you're better or above someone and never let anyone act like they are better or above you. If someone does, you just ignore them and don't care. Genuinely don't care...
The other day, I was inside a mini mart, getting my snack and tea ring up. The clerk striked a friendly conversation with me and we talked for a good 10 minutes...All the sudden, some guy walks in and tell me to hurry up and get on with it. I looked at him square in the eyes for a millisecond, unfaze, I continue what I was saying to the clerk. The guy comes towards me and walked really close towards me. I appeared unfaze...The clerk asked him, if he's ready. He goes to the back to grab some drinks...So I had one last laugh with the clerk, and said I gotta run now, we'll talk more next time......
And folks, that's how avoid confrontation without losing your dignity...Of course, you gotta have one hand on the trigger when doing this...LMAO
People stick with who is there in the end, even if it's not the person they chose. Personally, it's better when you are married to that person. Even better when the two of you have built something together like a family, for example. Your kids will be there even if you two don't want to be there for each other.
I know of too many incidents where it's just a boy/girlfriend. They might be there but they won't perform all the things that a spouse will. A man was living with a girlfriend down south. They were both divorced and basically fled to the south so that they didn't have to deal with their community and family. He's always been a bum and a black sheep. I doubt he ever really loved this divorcee. She was just convenient because she was barren, younger than he is, and can provide him companionship when he wants it. She also didn't have better options and was most likely desperate just to have someone. Aside from that, the dude is very soulless, independent, and selfish. He's been doing this with a lot of other divorces since he divorced.
Anyways, the divorcee died from cancer and he left her body for weeks. He said that it wasn't his responsibility since they weren't married. Her parents were livid and in the Hmong culture, they're not doing it because she isn't their clan anymore. It was a huge fiasco and in the end, he arranged for a quick American-style funeral down south so that her parents could pay their respect. He used her life insurance money, which he got none of. All of it went to her mom, whom she listed as the primary beneficiary.
Yep.
Fearful avoidants just have anxiety and that can be healed if their partner is a secure attachment style.
Dismissive avoidants are like the plague. Stay away. They will actually destroy a secure attachment style and cause a lot of PTSD for that person.
DAs do not heal. I don't care what Adam Lane Smith says.
The DA I know is even worse than before. At least when he was younger, one can say that he didn't have much life experience. Now that he's old, all he has to his legacy is that he has caused people much PTSD.
Honestly, as a human being if you haven't built anything great with at least one person (whether that be externally or internally), then uh "bye".
