PebHmong Discussion Forum
Relationship => Marriage & Family Life => Topic started by: thehotone on May 13, 2019, 12:44:07 PM
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Do the groom still bow to the bride's side of the family if she's been married once? Asking for a friend. :)
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don't quote me, but I don't think so. still on my first marriage so. :dontknow:
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No, no bowing. The groom and his people will go to the bride's family. Both side will ask to make sure the bride and groom agree to the marriage etc..etc..etc. . and then next comes discussing the bride price and I'm thinking most will go w/ the standards set by the 18 xeem.. After that, groom and his people will start chopping the pig and the feast follows... and off the groom and bride to start their new life together...The End :D :D
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Bowing for respect or does it mean something else?
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The correct term is "kowtow."
Do the groom still bow to the bride's side of the family if she's been married once? Asking for a friend. :)
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Do the groom still bow to the bride's side of the family if she's been married once? Asking for a friend. :)
yes, if the family is still traditional but very limited, maybe just few times with respect to the parents and close relatives and people involved.
those that are of the christian or western faith, would tend to forgo the kowtow, just negotiate, eat and drink.
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No, no bowing. The groom and his people will go to the bride's family. Both side will ask to make sure the bride and groom agree to the marriage etc..etc..etc. . and then next comes discussing the bride price and I'm thinking most will go w/ the standards set by the 18 xeem.. After that, groom and his people will start chopping the pig and the feast follows... and off the groom and bride to start their new life together...The End :D :D
I don't think bride price applies on second marriages. She's like a used car now. ;D
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I don't think bride price applies on second marriages. She's like a used car now. ;D
that's a bad comparison. even used car, you have to pay a price.
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I don't think bride price applies on second marriages. She's like a used car now. ;D
lol...Yax should get a second wife! buy one get 3 free! ha!
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Yes the groom still has to pay.
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Usually, 1.5K plus a pig feast to commemorate the efforts of all those involved and bind the marriage.
When I say "a pig", I mean just one pig.
Yes the groom still has to pay.
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YAX doesn't have very good opinion about these things.
that's a bad comparison. even used car, you have to pay a price.
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traditional family so I guess the groom will still "kowtow" along with paying for the discounted bride price??
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No kowtowing and yes on the bride price - check your state 18 clan manual on the fee.
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This scene should be edited to: "You will kowtow to me!"
In this video, Zod is saying "heirs", not "ass."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-9XyjpoTOI (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-9XyjpoTOI)
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Do the groom still bow to the bride's side of the family if she's been married once? Asking for a friend. :)
Depends on that bride's family...
I say that because I know a few families that didn't sell their daughter for a price even though it was their daughter's first marriage...Als o no "bow"...
I don't plan to sell my daughter for a price nor doing "kowtow" either ...especially here in America in 2019 because it's not relevant anymore..
Also depends on the bride and groom since they're both consenting adults...They can choose which ever way works for them...
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YAX doesn't have very good opinion about these things.
;D hey, it was related to something I heard from a father regarding his daughter. His exact quote was "A used car is hard to sell". ;D
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;D hey, it was related to something I heard from a father regarding his daughter. His exact quote was "A used car is hard to sell". ;D
Still you should know better just because the father doesn't AND if a woman is a "used" something the same applies to a man.
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Still you should know better just because the father doesn't AND if a woman is a "used" something the same applies to a man.
Guess that it could apply to a "man" too. A female PH member just posted recently that she's only seeking a single never married man without any kids...so yeah...a man can be considered "used" too by some... ???
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I'm a used truck... :2funny:
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Depends how traditional the family is or what happened in the marriage etc.
My aunt took off from an abusive marriage. Her 2nd husband married her as if she was never married. So the kowtow, the whole marriage song, the average bride price of a new bride, basket blanket carrying etc
Another family, very traditional, requested their new son in law do the whole new wedding process for their lawyer daughter, although she was the one to carry on multiple affairs on her first marriage. It was her title, education and saving face because of her reputible job title. His family was against it but it was his money, he did it anyways. Her bride price was high.
All really depends. Usually 2nd time around, they do a hush hish fast wedding process but the new age generation wants big announcements. If not with hmong wedding, then with meeka wedding for sure.
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;D hey, it was related to something I heard from a father regarding his daughter. His exact quote was "A used car is hard to sell". ;D
It also depends on the model and make of the car. A used Toyota Tundra still sells better than a brand new Ford Pinto, no? :2funny: :2funny: :2funny: