I copy this from an unknown source. Hope it gives me an array of light cuz my viet side dont pressurize their daughter like this.
Being a Hmong daughter is her role. Being a mom, we just want to know what their daughter is doing. Being out of the house for several days and not coming home is not cool. Alot of people commute far to work. That's part of life. You drive there and drive back. If you decide you want to stay overnight because you're tired, fine, but not for weeks. They all need to work together and help each other out. Whether it be cleaning or cooking.
It's not like they treating her like nam yau. She is a daughter and that is what they expect of her. Just like that is what I expect of my daughters. I teach my kids that in order for us to survive, we need to help each other. That is what good daughters need to understand. If you dont want to help out, and get mad whenever your mom tells her she needs to cook and clean and not sleep all day then she needs to move out so she can do whatever she wants. Whether it be sleep all day, eat out, let the dishes pile up, dirty house, that's your choice.