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Relationship => Marriage & Family Life => Topic started by: nraug_hmoob on December 09, 2018, 04:11:10 PM
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So, what are everyone's thought on this?
First of all I just wanted to say that this is not to bash or disrespect any of my fellow PHers and I apologize in advance if I offended anyone. This is my just own opinion. Personally, I think it is harder to be a single parent and to find love than it is for someone in their 30s to find love. Although, I am not a single parent myself, I do find it difficult to accept someone else if they have a child. I have never dated anyone with kids, but I see a lot of single parents out there in mid 20s who are still very attractive. I have met a few of them that I connected with, but when I learned that they have a child, that is usually my dealbreaker. However, I'm sure they are out there looking for the right person as well. What I am shocked to find is that even if they are single parents and smokin hot, they still very picky. lol. I mean, majority of them got nothing going for themselves,..like just high school graduates, working a dead-end job, and yet is expecting prince charming. From my experiences, some of them have mature up and some have not at all.
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I've seen some of the things you mentioned too and it applies to both demographics.. .in terms of "still very picky, got nothing going, dead-end job, some have mature up and some have not"....
For example: I've seen single folks in their 30s living with their parents and leeching off of them because they "got nothing going" or are just plain lazy...I've also seen single parents (both genders) that used or guilt trip their parents for money, and forcing them to babysit the little ones so they can go out with the friends to party, fish, hunt, etc...and yet they are still very "picky"...
With that said, they are individuals too so I'm sure they have their preferences on how they want to run their life (good or bad)...
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I'm one of those parents who will let my kids, live with me and leech off me if they're in their 30's and their life goes to hell and they need help getting back on their feet. It's called a parent's love.
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single parent or single with a good career will have easier time to find lovers than people who have a dead end job, living with parents and yet wanted to find someone who has a career can be tricky. It's possible, but tricky.
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it depends. but, I see where you're coming from.
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I'm one of those parents who will let my kids, live with me and leech off me if they're in their 30's and their life goes to hell and they need help getting back on their feet. It's called a parent's love.
What if they don't return the "love" back..by continuing to not care and use and abuse you...even in your elderly days...?? ???
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Hey highway, you going to hell because you kept on bumping up these old topics.
Here's the deal. People are allowed to make their choices cuz of this thing called wants and needs. If they have nothing going for them and wanted more then that's up to them. If they going to hell with their picky self then that's up to them too. Cough old maid. But eventually, even a starving person will have to wiser up or they will be hungry. But then again, at what cost? You had it when you were younger and hotter but your valuation devalues with every wrinkles.
Instead of worrying about those that have standards or picky because their life should not be of your concern but rather focus on what is still great out there. If you can't handle single parent cases then that's not for you. Do what you can do and don't you even dare to try it cuz that's wasting your time and her time looking for a surrogate daddy for another man's kids too.
As for me, they tend to lie about them having kids till I finds out on Facebook. If you want a single mom, I say to go for the ones with kids in double digits. Why? Well in about ten years, the baby daddy is out of the picture and you don't have to get a black eye just to do a service for humanitarian act.
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You think I'm looking for love?
I ain't...that's the problem. O0
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People need to know that we are living life and not dreaming.
So, what are everyone's thought on this?
First of all I just wanted to say that this is not to bash or disrespect any of my fellow PHers and I apologize in advance if I offended anyone. This is my just own opinion. Personally, I think it is harder to be a single parent and to find love than it is for someone in their 30s to find love. Although, I am not a single parent myself, I do find it difficult to accept someone else if they have a child. I have never dated anyone with kids, but I see a lot of single parents out there in mid 20s who are still very attractive. I have met a few of them that I connected with, but when I learned that they have a child, that is usually my dealbreaker. However, I'm sure they are out there looking for the right person as well. What I am shocked to find is that even if they are single parents and smokin hot, they still very picky. lol. I mean, majority of them got nothing going for themselves,..like just high school graduates, working a dead-end job, and yet is expecting prince charming. From my experiences, some of them have mature up and some have not at all.
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As it goes...most people assume a relationship is something you find on your lap...boom.
Well in reality, it's something that you have to form, build, and accept flaws of the other person without being judgmental. And in real life, you have bills, a job, living expenses, recreational activity, respite, and more work, then whatever life throws at you.
Where to find love? You can't if you're looking in the wrong places.
Love is something that comes from the inside...then shows on the outside. If you want to show it, you show it. You want to share it, you share it. You want to give it, you give it.
Now if there's someone who's lucky enough to receive it, then awesome. If not, you have only yourself to love. As single parent, you have your children to love.
and I ain't looking to be taken advantage of... ;)
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Milf's are the best! it shows responsibility, they're holding down a job and raising a child(ren). their priority isn't you, so you can cum and go as you please.
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That's very profound, bro.
As it goes...most people assume a relationship is something you find on your lap...boom.
Well in reality, it's something that you have to form, build, and accept flaws of the other person without being judgmental. And in real life, you have bills, a job, living expenses, recreational activity, respite, and more work, then whatever life throws at you.
Where to find love? You can't if you're looking in the wrong places.
Love is something that comes from the inside...then shows on the outside. If you want to show it, you show it. You want to share it, you share it. You want to give it, you give it.
Now if there's someone who's lucky enough to receive it, then awesome. If not, you have only yourself to love. As single parent, you have your children to love.
and I ain't looking to be taken advantage of... ;)
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Experience is a good thing.
Milf's are the best! it shows responsibility, they're holding down a job and raising a child(ren). their priority isn't you, so you can cum and go as you please.
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What if they don't return the "love" back..by continuing to not care and use and abuse you...even in your elderly days...?? ???
I'm fine with it. As a parent, I don't keep score. I help them because I love them. It's called unconditional love. If I wanted them to return the love, then it would be conditional love.
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Another aspect of looking to share your life with someone else...if you have children, you may need to expand it further by looking for someone who are also willing to love your children too.
Oh and all them gossiping stories, old wives tales about the evil stepmom. >:D
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That tale ain't just gossip, nor it is old.
Another aspect of looking to share your life with someone else...if you have children, you may need to expand it further by looking for someone who are also willing to love your children too.
Oh and all them gossiping stories, old wives tales about the evil stepmom. >:D
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That tale ain't just gossip, nor it is old.
I guess not, but I wasn't there. Always hear about it. Almost like the evil mother in law or vice versa evil daughter in law.
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I think she has been reborn many times.
I guess not, but I wasn't there. Always hear about it. Almost like the evil mother in law or vice versa evil daughter in law.
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I'm fine with it. As a parent, I don't keep score. I help them because I love them. It's called unconditional love. If I wanted them to return the love, then it would be conditional love.
Better you than me in regards to continuing to enable your adult kids even if they disrespect and abuse you like a dog or dirt..