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Relationship => Marriage & Family Life => Topic started by: EllisIsland on March 01, 2022, 07:32:40 AM

Title: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: EllisIsland on March 01, 2022, 07:32:40 AM
I dated this guy back in college about 20 years ago. We only dated for 2-3 years. Anyway it was an ugly break up and he is one of those ex that I do not regret that it didn’t work out. And we’ve broken up many times before the final break up. Anyway I don’t know why, I honestly don’t think about him or have warm feelings when he comes to mind. When I think of him it’s usually with the thought that I dodged a bullet with him.

Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Reporter on March 01, 2022, 10:51:18 AM
He’s your other half.
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: EllisIsland on March 01, 2022, 11:39:55 AM
Gross
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Reporter on March 01, 2022, 12:01:36 PM
Gross only till you two are reunited again.
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: DuMa on March 01, 2022, 12:13:20 PM
LoL   the dude might as well tell you to go drink his blood or something   :2funny:

You can't control your dreams in a sense of what comes in for the transmission but you can learn how to control it at during the episode.  Does it have a meaning?  I don't know but I wouldn't dwell too much on it.

You want to see what's gross?  I still think of ex (all of them) when it comes to sex. It was that good.  Unlike you, I have a mental illness but to me, it is all normal.  Nothing wrong with holding onto something that was once good. 

As long as you don't have romantic dreams about the ex then you too are all normal as well.  Maybe he owes you something or maybe you haven't gotten your closure. 

well my ex birthday is coming up. You think I'll dream of her?  Her birthday is a significant date to remember, how can I forget?  All I say is good luck and thank you for the good memories and the past is the past.  It is not fair for the future.  Don't even think about telling your current about your dream of the ex either.  He doesn't need to know when your life is good right now.  Some men can't still handle your truth.   O0

Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: ProudLao on March 01, 2022, 12:44:52 PM
It seems like you’re not completely over him or you need some sort of closures.
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: EllisIsland on March 01, 2022, 05:55:03 PM
 :)
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: hmgROCK on March 01, 2022, 10:51:37 PM
I think about my EX all the times
I don’t contact and follow them though
Not even on Facebook

You see

My wife is the jealous type
I might have sleep on your couch
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Reporter on March 02, 2022, 01:33:30 PM
You should not keep any more of his photos with you then.


I don’t need closures. He was twice married to the same woman ( twice divorced her) and in between he contact me not to build a romantic relationship but only as friends to find out how I was doing. We talked  a bit ( only to update on each other’s lives) and then I stopped talking to him. I got married and then somehow we connected on social media years later and he was dating someone and asked for advice and I gave him advices and then he got married and we haven’t talk since. So honestly there’s nothing there. He’s not someone I would think to date again in this life time. I had some better exes I would consider dating again if I was suddenly single and they are too than this guy lol
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: EllisIsland on March 02, 2022, 07:50:31 PM
I have no photos of him!

I use to dream about my second ex too but for a long time over a decade but hasn’t been in my dreams for a few years. I wonder if he’s dead in real life? Lol
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Reporter on March 02, 2022, 08:47:31 PM
How many exes do you have exactly?

Maybe the breakups were so bitter that you have been traumatized by them. You know, like a mini-PTSD kind of thing. Doesn't seem serious, unless your current husband gets mad over the dreams.

I have no photos of him!

I use to dream about my second ex too but for a long time over a decade but hasn’t been in my dreams for a few years. I wonder if he’s dead in real life? Lol
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Freeman on March 03, 2022, 01:16:03 PM
It shows you that you miss him. You two may not get along well but he was the one you love
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: EllisIsland on March 06, 2022, 06:58:30 PM
 O0
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Reporter on March 08, 2022, 05:38:51 AM
You sound like someone who has kissed a lot of frogs to get to a prince. Perhaps you have found that prince. But for you to keep longing for that ex and that ex only, I wonder if there was something
you just could not let go off him. All those kisses didn't feel the same as his or something. 

I get the feeling that as soon as you have a hard time with the husband, that ex's arms will be where you're running to. He is likely the prince you have kissed others to realize him to be.

Didn’t you guys read my post? He’s one ex that I don’t regret living without. If I still love and miss him I would just say it. I’ve got other exes that I would rather choose over him if I have to choose an ex. . And I’ve been happily married for 14 years!
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: EllisIsland on March 08, 2022, 11:02:56 PM
:)
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Reporter on March 08, 2022, 11:41:30 PM
I know you keep denying it. But your heart and conscience aren't denying it.

I keep longing for that ex? You obviously can’t read. What the heck are you talking about dude? Sorry but my husband is 10 folds better than any of my exes. I have absolutely no desire to go back to any exes even if I’m suddenly available.  I don’t even know why you are up with the biggest assumption and totally way off. And yes I’ve had a few long term relationships in my lifetime no shame in that. That’s how I know to choose wisely to end up with a good husband.
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Reporter on March 11, 2022, 06:40:26 AM
Dreams are such an unconscious activity they give an almost direct insight into the workings of the unconscious mind.--Freud


You are still unconscious, Ellis.
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Believe_N_Me on March 18, 2022, 07:15:05 PM
Dreaming about an ex, to me, is like seeing a relative in your dreams whom you haven't encountered in ages. They are remnants in your mind and your brain is just sifting through stuff.

I once saw a cousin in my dream. In this dream, my cousin is the age that she would've been had she not passed away as a toddler.
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 18, 2022, 09:38:50 PM
Believe N Me:  I really appreciate your calm writing now vs. the old where lots of vulgarity comes out. 
Title: Re: Been dreaming about an ex for 20 years
Post by: Reporter on March 21, 2022, 01:11:57 PM
She's....she's more...she feels....she's in...now.

Believe N Me:  I really appreciate your calm writing now vs. the old where lots of vulgarity comes out.