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Relationship => The Single & Dating Scenes => Topic started by: Gracified23 on July 14, 2022, 04:26:37 PM

Title: Approach is about looks
Post by: Gracified23 on July 14, 2022, 04:26:37 PM
Anyone still approach girls at the New Year? Does it still work? :2funny:

They never “worked” for me cuz I’m too ugly, but yes, you could possibly get a result in 2007-9 era since women didn’t really have social media and online dating was stigmatized.

If you’re ugly or even average you will get rejected  :2funny: 

Out of the 50s I approached maybe like 3 was into me. And them girls were average or below. It’s not worth the time and effort. I could never get a Stacies because they all go for the bad looking guys (Chad, Tyrone) is what we called it. 
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Reporter on July 14, 2022, 04:49:12 PM
I have never dared to approach a girl in-person, either. Not because of my look...Heck, I have no idea what I look like to girls...But it's because I am just not gutsy enough--don't know what to say or how to break the ice.
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Gracified23 on July 14, 2022, 04:52:08 PM
I have never dared to approach a girl in-person, either. Not because of my look...Heck, I have no idea what I look like to girls...But it's because I am just not gutsy enough--don't know what to say or how to break the ice.

Exactly! Many of us lack social skills back then and some of us didn’t know what to say or was afraid to approach. I know I had approach anxiety. Many of us are scrawny azz looking dudes lol, even with good fashion they didn’t help much. It seems to me Stacies go for the tattoo gangster looking dudes with a nice jawline. Most Hmong  dudes don’t have a sharp jawline like Meka but you get the point.

If you want to attract White girls you need that jawline, a good physique. Looks is everything in the West.   
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: DuMa on July 14, 2022, 06:07:31 PM
All about the bell curve.

Aim higher, you get a small chance.  Aim lower to hit your average.  Don't aim at all, ugly things will come after you instead.   :2funny:

I like stories about how I met your mother.  Not all of them are about looks however, it has an underlying statement.   Your job is to woo her and do whatever necessary so that SHE CAN GIVE YOU A CHANCE!!!!

It starts there folks.  Not easy but doable.  Can't be single forever if you don't want to.   O0
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: theking on July 14, 2022, 11:55:42 PM
I've never had issues approaching girls. My success rate was about 70% back in the days. My fail rate of 30% didn't bother me because I understood the simple fact of you can't win them all. What bothered me were the girls that couldn't be honest and straight with me so they ended up wasting my time. But as time went, and my experience grew, I don't even waste my time on time wasters anymore.

I had much more respect for girls that can straight up said, "no" or "not interest" than the time wasters...

There's a few instances where the girls approached me and I was straight up with them too. It's all about consistency.  O0
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 15, 2022, 01:47:58 PM
It depends on the girl's maturity level and how she was raised to respond to suitors. If you feel her pulling back, non-responsive or even rejecting you, it might just be immaturity.
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Gracified23 on July 17, 2022, 11:08:22 AM
All about the bell curve.

Aim higher, you get a small chance.  Aim lower to hit your average.  Don't aim at all, ugly things will come after you instead.   :2funny:

I like stories about how I met your mother.  Not all of them are about looks however, it has an underlying statement.   Your job is to woo her and do whatever necessary so that SHE CAN GIVE YOU A CHANCE!!!!

It starts there folks.  Not easy but doable.  Can't be single forever if you don't want to.   O0

Your parents are from the older generation where social media didn’t exist. Chalvery was still a thing. The option people have in terms of dating was to meet face to face. There was no online dating.

Therefore, 40 years ago it was more likely for an average below guy to get a 6 or even a 7.

The look discrepancies will tell you that an ugly guy whose with a hot girl will get treated like sht. He have to make a lot of money to compensate for his lack of look. If the below average guys with a hot chick , he have no words to say. The woman will be the leading partner and she controls most of the relationship.

That’s true Blackpill. You can’t escape genetic determination. Women will reject you if you’re ugly. It’s not your game or mouthpiece trying to convince her. You can’t game her if you never step foot in the door.   :2funny: 
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Gracified23 on July 17, 2022, 11:11:03 AM
Duplicate post
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 24, 2022, 12:33:05 AM
I have no problem approaching girls. I don't go around simping on girls. I'm there to have fun and celebrating.  :2funny:
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 26, 2022, 11:19:23 PM
Approach is about confidence.

I didn't realize there were so many soft guys on PH. I thought y'all were getting it left and right. Now I know that left and right is just Mai See and Mai Lo.  ;D
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 28, 2022, 11:32:56 PM
Approach is about confidence.

I didn't realize there were so many soft guys on PH. I thought y'all were getting it left and right. Now I know that left and right is just Mai See and Mai Lo.  ;D

I hardly know you.  ;D
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 12:02:13 AM
Correction ---> You don't know me at all.
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 08:03:42 AM
Correction----> I'm not soft type then.  ;D
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 08:32:27 AM
Correction----> I'm not soft type then.  ;D

I have no idea what you're talking about.  :dontknow:
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 08:37:56 AM
I have no idea what you're talking about.  :dontknow:

That's because you don't wanna look at your own previous comments.  :P
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 08:44:10 AM
I have and that is why your responses confuse me.

Oh, I see...hehehehe ...

Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 08:47:18 AM
 ::) smh
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 09:40:59 AM
You wouldn't happen to go by any other nick, do you?

So sneaky, you are.  :knuppel2:
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 09:57:55 AM
Nope. I'm a loner by nature. Don't you dare go around assuming about my whereabout and slapping me with a baton.  :D
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 10:09:13 AM
Nope. I'm a loner by nature. Don't you dare go around assuming about my whereabout and slapping me with a baton.  :D

Are you an INTJ or INTF? I think those are the two introvert types.

And if I  :knuppel2:, what are you going to do about it?  ::)
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 10:20:46 AM
None of the above.

Hey, I'm mediating here. Tsis txhob thab kuv.

(https://i.pinimg.com/736x/d1/5d/c5/d15dc54440f2caabe6d814c95e335b8c--naruto.jpg)
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 10:32:42 AM
Mediating or meditating?

Koj yog tus xub thab phlaub ntag.  ::)
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 10:39:15 AM
Both

Nope. That ain't me. I'm totally tranquil guy on PH. Koj yeej paub kuv tsis nyiam thab plaub hav neeg.
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 10:42:22 AM
Awm. Ntseeg li koj hais es plaub thiaj li tas os.
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 10:51:01 AM
......
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 11:12:48 AM
 O0
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 29, 2022, 08:22:36 PM
 ::)
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 29, 2022, 11:45:13 PM
 <----------  :angel7:
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Visualmon on July 30, 2022, 03:16:55 AM
<----------  >:D
Title: Re: Approach is about looks
Post by: Believe_N_Me on July 30, 2022, 08:34:26 AM
Yog kawg.  :D