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General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: theking on July 27, 2022, 08:58:26 AM
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He took care of his mom because his older siblings said by Hmoob kev cai, he's the youngest son so he has to take care of his mom until she dies.
He didn't mind doing it because he's returning the favor that his mom did him and the love that she has shown him when he needed her.
What bothers him is his older siblings didn't really care about their mom but would make a big deal and show off during big family events by pretending to care in the eyes of the community. And during those big family events, they'll also asked him to pitch in even though it's their ideas to make them look good in the eyes of the community.
When his mom passed away, lots of fake cries from his older siblings because many in the community were also there to pay their respects.
In the case below, I don't think they have to go as far as "compensation" for everything but be fair...and hopefully, those siblings that didn't took care of the parents didn't fake it because that's really bad when it comes to loving your parents back ???:
My sister and I cared for our parents until they died, but our other siblings don’t want to compensate us
I am a trustee of a parent’s trust. My sister and I, of six children, were also the sole caregivers for both parents. They are all dead now. I was able to keep them at home thanks to my dad saving a little. Neither my sister nor I charged anything while they were alive because we both wanted to be able to keep them at home. Over the years, I have also expressed interest in buying their home. Now that all is said and done, my siblings want to sell their house for the highest market value possible. My sister was upset and said, “If you want to drive up the price, pay me for mine.”
It would be great if my siblings knew a little more about the five years we invested in 24/7 care and agreed to lower the price of some houses. As a trustee, can I pay for my sister’s services with the small amount of money I have in the trust?