PebHmong Discussion Forum
Relationship => Marriage & Family Life => Topic started by: Believe_N_Me on December 28, 2022, 10:56:16 PM
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Do any of you still keep in touch or hang out with your ex's family and/or relatives? And why?
Do you think it is awkward if your ex continues to hang out with your family and relatives?
Would it bother you if your lover's ex continues to hang out with his/her (your lover) family and relatives?
Would you prefer that your family and relatives not keep in touch or hang out with your ex in order to keep the peace with your current love?
I guess I never thought about these things because when I got married I moved away. Exes do regularly hang out with my relatives but it's not like we cross paths anyways.
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When you get married hmong culture
You supposed to give away all your ex photo and memories to your family side
For them to toss away and shyt
It looks like you never did
;D ;D
My wife is the jealous type
She goes through my phone
If she find out i still have old ex photo
Im sleeping on your coach
(Kick out of the house)
;D
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There were two high profile hmong killing these summer in the twin city
That mom who drown her 3 kids
And that dude who shot the wife
All because of cheating
In many asian country
Cheating is illegal
;D ;D
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I don't keep any memorabilia of old flames.
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Just let it go
Once they leave the FAMILY
they not getting invited back to the beef grilling and drinking budlight
You don’t married our sister/brother
SEE YALL
NO HARD FEELINGS
;D ;D
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...dupe
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Just let it go
Once they leave the FAMILY
they not getting invited back to the beef grilling and drinking budlight
You don’t married our sister/brother
SEE YALL
NO HARD FEELINGS
;D ;D
I would really like to hear from those who still do stuff with their ex's family. Even if there aren't any feelings or motives to get back with the ex, why?
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I would really like to hear from those who still do stuff with their ex's family. Even if there aren't any feelings or motives to get back with the ex, why?
It seems the family is just trying to be nice to the ex but I believe that in their minds they do not have any true respect for that ex who keeps coming around.
Like you said, "you're not married to our person, bye!"
I personally honestly don’t see it in our clan
The number might be extremely low
Once they gone, they are never seen again in our clan event
This goes for divorce people too
;D ;D ;D
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I personally honestly don’t see it in our clan
The number might be extremely low
Once they gone, they are never seen again in our clan event
This goes for divorce people too
;D ;D ;D
I've seen a few ex-wives come to our clan gatherings. But some of them are also related through their mom.
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It's like this: some don't, some do.
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I have an old acquaintance who was out of state when she married her ex-husband. She was always really close to his female cousins because they're about the same age. Anyways, after the divorce she actually became closer to the cousins to the point that she became a member of their church and even helped at their family events. A big reason is because she didn't have family other than a few whom she wasn't close to because she didn't grow up with them. This carried on for at least two years until she finally remarried.
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It's like this: some don't, some do.
There are also situations where people date because they're acquainted with the same family members. Unfortunately, when things sour they still have to cross each other's path.
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I have an old acquaintance who was out of state when she married her ex-husband. She was always really close to his female cousins because they're about the same age. Anyways, after the divorce she actually became closer to the cousins to the point that she became a member of their church and even helped at their family events. A big reason is because she didn't have family other than a few whom she wasn't close to because she didn't grow up with them. This carried on for at least two years until she finally remarried.
Those are those that do.
It's like this: some don't, some do.
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There are also situations where people date because they're acquainted with the same family members. Unfortunately, when things sour they still have to cross each other's path.
Those are those that may still do.
It's like this: some don't, some do.
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Most likely, if they had kids together, the exes are still going to be doing things with the exes-in-law and others that are connected to the children.
I'm glad I have no kid with any ex. I'm one of those in the "some don't" category.
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It's the meeka hollywood style and it is acceptable. Ex can be friends like a business transaction like child custody case. They will still linger around and will toast with their ex new spouses too.
What is healthy is asking the family member if you are going to be there or not. If you are, I'm not going. If you are not, I'm going. Relationship with you as the primary can go sour but that doesn't mean it is the death of everything that is associated with you. Then again, it all depends on the nature of the break up. It is those that are mutual agreement that tends to linger.
It all depends on the other side as well. Like for example. When I was dating this one hmong chick, her brother and I were close like best buddies. We have the bro code meaning that if they cheated on their wives, no one say anything. Here you have the sister of the gf, pushing me to go cheat on her with someone else. Now with this situation, if I no longer dating her, her brother and I are still good buddies because we are still bind by the code of conduct. In the movies, I would probably got kill or make disappear had I want out of such organization. Their secrets are too much that I could easily get them all divorce by the following week.
So it depends on how "liberal" people are with certain situations. I know cases where ex would contact one another to see if they are going to a family function like a wedding so they can exempt themselves instead of allowing people like yourself to create some talk soup to float around.