PebHmong Discussion Forum
Relationship => Marriage & Family Life => Topic started by: Believe_N_Me on May 27, 2025, 03:24:25 PM
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A lot of people wish for abundance whether that comes in the form of wealth, status, peace, or a fulfilling relationship, but many of them do not have what it takes to maintain that abundance. They tell themselves that the timing isn't right or that they will get another opportunity, only to realize that that kind of opportunity is actually once in a lifetime. Furthermore, that kind of abundance can only happen when they have a change of attitude.
For example, some people inherit wealth from their parents, but if they do not know how to maintain and invest properly, the abundance will slip through their fingers. Some people have a loving and supportive partner but because they did not reciprocate, that relationship goes sour or fizzles out.
If you lack abundance in your life, then you should look at yourself. You are most likely putting too much energy towards the things and people who do not bring you abundance. Meanwhile, neglecting habits, action, and people who help you create abundance.
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A lot of Hmong couples have bought acres of land to retire on. My sister-in-law started a fruit farm a couple of years ago and I have a cousin who lives on acres of land near the waterfront. It's gorgeous out there but it's also a lot of work. Fortunately, my brother-in-laws love to perform all the maintenance.
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There was a girl who was admired by all the available bachelors and their parents. She was tall for a Hmong girl at that time, 5' 6", lean, and just about the sweetest person you could meet. She was very kind, sisterly, and a good daughter. She was also pretty, too. She played the piano, was a good student, patient, and agreeable, and well-mannered. She also loved God and her parents, family, etc., and was basically the type of girl that the boys wanted to marry and their parents wanted for a daughter-in-law.
A lot of highly educated, and men with means from good families came to ask for her hand in marriage but her parents rejected their offers. She was still only a teenager and her parents really wanted her to get a college degree. Finally, they accepted an offer from a guy who was older, and not so attractive. But he was very well-mannered. Back in the day, a lot of Hmong girls were engaged or married off in their teens.
Anyway, not only did the girl graduate college, but she became a prominent doctor in their town. There were years when she did not even live with her husband and his parents because she was away in med school. When they had children, the children would stay with the dad and grandparents while she was in her residency.
She still practices medicine, runs three clinics, and organizes missions to developing countries to perform medical treatment. The husband goes along because he is in ministry now. They are very well-off. They live in a gorgeous house on huge acres of land. The husband does the majority of the maintenance work and enjoys it. As for looks, who cares? All the men in her age group are old and attractive now anyways, but at least her husband is not overweight and bald. lol
The point of the story is that abundance isn't about the right timing but moreso about what you do with that time and having discernment about choosing the person with the right attitude and habits. That is where you will find abundance. Also, having the right attitude to create abundance.
The girl could've married a more attractive man, who may have ended up being very jealous and not let her go to college.