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Relationship => General Relationship => Topic started by: theking on February 27, 2026, 11:15:12 PM

Title: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I
Post by: theking on February 27, 2026, 11:15:12 PM

..have zero to girls that played games and wasted my time...

I've never wasted time on this kind of "burn-out" because life is too short and there are plenty of fish in the sea  O0:

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A burnt-out pursuer is someone emotionally exhausted from trying to maintain a relationship, often with a withdrawing partner, who has finally stopped trying due to unmet needs, resentment, and hopelessness. They shift from anxious pursuit to detachment, becoming numb, distant, and indifferent to the relationship's outcome
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Title: Re: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I
Post by: JonniJacko on March 26, 2026, 02:10:47 AM

 yeah, I rather get rejected or told stright up than play the guessing game...You dont want to be that dude who is blowing up her phone while someone else is doing weird bedroom rituals with her..uhh..errr ...I mean don't be that dude that is buying her free food and movie tickets. haha

Title: Re: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I
Post by: theking on March 26, 2026, 11:22:46 PM

Quote from: JonniJacko on March 26, 2026, 02:10:47 AM

yeah, I rather get rejected or told stright up than play the guessing game.

 O0

Life is too short to waste on things like that.

Title: Re: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I
Post by: JonniJacko on March 28, 2026, 07:36:54 PM

I'd never chase or pursue women. I might initiate conversation and then I ask, just once. LOL

people tell me, I was too nice and need to chase harder next time. be more assertive etc...

Well, I try that...and it doesn't work either...Maybe in the 90's and 00's...but not in today's world....LOL

Always stay true to yourself...It's not about scoring, it's about finding the right person for you. Be okay to take No for an answer. Be bless, they tell you now, instead of stringing you along keeping you in their backburner with no respect to your time and efforts...lols

Title: Re: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I
Post by: NtsesHnub on March 31, 2026, 09:22:49 PM

I don't chase.  I learned early on that it is a game.  So I played it my way.  I will give a girl my numbers instead of asking for hers.  If she called, good.  If not, good.  I'll say this, my method worked for me.  Most of the time they called me and I never asked for their number unless they gave it to me or tell me the number they're calling from are their's.  It worked on PH too.   

Title: Re: I was never a big pursuer, I respected girls that said no in a timely manner, I
Post by: JonniJacko on April 03, 2026, 05:39:23 AM

just grabbed em by the hair has worked for me every time...LOL

yes, everyone is different now days. Long gone are the days where, Charismatic Men are heartbreakers and Pretty women are Mean....LOL Today, it's about self mastery and being a self taught psychologist.. .haha