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Relationship => Marriage & Family Life => Topic started by: theking on May 27, 2026, 02:06:43 AM

Title: If that's the case, why married in the first place??
Post by: theking on May 27, 2026, 02:06:43 AM

My husband doesn’t want me to be a part of his family even though we are married
My husband, “Evan,” and I have been together five years and were married 2 1/2 years ago. We’re both in our early 40s and have children from previous relationships. What I’ve noticed is that anytime there is something going on in his family, I constantly have to ask him for updates. He sometimes treats me like an outsider instead of a part of his family. An example: His 19-year-old son (my stepson) has alcohol and depression issues. If Evan gets updates, he’ll share a snippet or not even tell me at all — or he’ll comment that he’s worried about “his son” and then just shut down. He doesn’t want to discuss it, even though I’m worried, too. There have been other instances where I’m treated like an outsider when it comes to his family. I’ve talked to him before about how it makes me feel, but it continues. How can I help him see I’m a part of his family now, just as he is a part of mine? — MERGED IN MINNESOTA