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Title: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 23, 2016, 03:26:06 PM
I'm starting a new journal entry and I was going to title "A New Beginning:  A New Chapter" but I think Life's Milestone is probably more appropriate.  I'm not starting anything new and yet it feels like I am entering a new chapter in my life. 

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 24, 2016, 11:20:20 AM
Christmas

Christmas is one of my favorite holidays.  No matter where I am in the world, the beacon of Christmas would bring me to where I need to be, with the people that matters most in my life.  That's how it is with me.  On Christmas I'm found, always.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 27, 2016, 08:37:49 AM
A Family Dinner

When my children were young, it wasn't that hard to have family dinner.  Their schedules were predictable.  As they grew, my oldest son flew the bird nest to his own, my oldest girl left home for schooling, and the others had school and work, activities, or just "not hungry."

On Christmas Day and the day after, we spent time cooking and baking: cookies, bread, brownies, shrimp, crawl fish, fish tom yum, turkey, mash potatoes, papaya, and other family favorites.  Afterward, we gather round to play board/card games- Smashed Up, Monopoly, 5 Seconds Rule, Fibber, Evolution, etc..

Today I'll be on the road taking my girl back to college and visiting my parents.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 29, 2016, 10:54:04 AM
A MN Visit

MN holds fond memories for me and loved ones are here.  Being in this place is sort of bittersweet.  I cherished each place I visit and people I'm with because it'll be awhile before I'm here once more.  Today is pretty cold, cloudy, and light snow.  Planing to have breakfast with my sweet girl and then off I go.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 02, 2017, 09:06:40 AM
A Walk with Betsy

Betsy is my dog and I’ve gotten her since she was a puppy.  Now she’s 28 years old in dog years.  2017 started beautifully:  A bright sunny day, a perfect day for strolling in my favorite place –by the lake.  As soon as we got there, we walked to the pier.  Love the crisp air washing over my face, seagulls flying overhead, on one side are rolling waves, on the other clear frozen water you can see down to the rocks.  I peeked to see if I chance upon any fish swimming but they must have gone to deeper water where it’s warmer.  Betsy and I stopped by a cement railing, my eyes closed, and my ears tune into the sound of the rolling waves-washing back and forth.  The ocean waves are the best but this will do for now.  Betsy and I were not the only ones taking advantage of the beautiful weather:  A small group of Chinese men on bicycle passing by, an elderly couple strolling side by side, two men having a lively conversation walked passed, a couple taking pictures, and further down the pier, a solitary man glanced out into the blue water to the endless horizon beyond.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 03, 2017, 03:02:20 PM
A Life Envision

I'd like to do more traveling in my later years and dedicate more of my time and energy in giving back, serving others, etc..  If I'm not traveling or volunteering, I'll be happy coup up at home with a cup of coffee or tea, taking a stroll-enjoying the beauty of nature, working my garden, simple things , etc.. .  I'd stay away from partying, drinking, oh... the drinking... Now I can tolerate but I don't think I have the patience later on. 

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 04, 2017, 08:58:37 AM
Flip Phone

I confess, I still  have one of those flip phones.  It has one of those tiny little camera ahhhaah.. and texting..click click "a", click click "b", click click click "e" so forth hahaahahhaha.. .but it's functional and that's what matters most to me. 

Even my youngest daughter has a better phone than I (one of those Iphone) because she begged her father for one and he gave in to her but not me.  I still think young girls/people don't need such fancy phone, for what? Do they really need to skype? Twitter? Go on the internet? Get into their facebook? Instagram? I'd rather see them pick up a book, go outside (if the weather is nice), get a job, volunteer, etc...


Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 09, 2017, 12:24:28 PM
Moderation is Key

This may sound harsh but the hmong community is having an alcohol consumption epidemic.  It’s an epidemic – like a disease – brought on by peer/social pressure.  I’m not saying don’t drink –we’re all adult but moderation is key.  Too much of anything is no good and that includes excessive drinking.  I hope it’s just a phase and we don't become a community of alcoholic. 

Maybe I'm not a drinker and I don't really understand the hype of drinking.  If I don't want to drink, I don't have to make up an excuse - just tell the truth:  "I'm sorry, I don't drink but thank you."  Yes, sometimes you seem like the "abnormal" one but at the end of the day, what does social drinking really accomplished other than an excruciating headaches, swollen eyes, looking like an incoherent fool, etc..


Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 12, 2017, 05:17:56 PM
Feeling Puzzled

So today during my lunch hour, I was catching up on a chinese Drama, The General and I
https://www.dramafever.com/drama/4986/12/general-and-i-/ (https://www.dramafever.com/drama/4986/12/general-and-i-/)

I find myself a little drawn to the character - When he said, "hurry so I don't find myself waiting" and grabbed to kiss her one last time -  My heart melt a little like I was on a tiny/little adrenaline high (but in this case, for the heart.)  Like my heart felt a little warm and fuzzy...a little drunk like it had a little too much too drink..

And later, I wonder..is this the reason why I'm drawn to love Drama and if yes, why do I do that?  I know it was just a fantasy- make believe world.  I've known that all along...

Could I be in love with the idea of love? Or am I just being human? 

In life, I noticed the smallest thing about couples - and when a man drapes his arm over his lady's shoulder - it brings a smile to my lips..
When he holds the door for her - it made me think
When he holds her hands in public - it made me paused..

Why do I think like that?  Am I a hopeless romantic? I don't think so - I thought I'm reasonable to not be fool with things like that ahhahaa..

I still haven't found the answer.  I think love has been polluted by enterprise (corporation) which are very good at digging into our deepest desires and dangles them in front of our face in these so called "dramas (or whatever weakness  it is for you)" and make our heart flutters a little bit... so we come again and again...but at the end of day - we leave empty handed except with the foolish fantasy fed to us hahahaha...

Yet..I'm going to continue watching that darn Dramas........ ....*roll eyes*******

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 13, 2017, 12:25:58 PM
I Was Just Thinking

Do you regret exposing your vulnerabilitie s online?  Sometimes I'm amazed at the things coming out of my lips.  I don't know other people's reason for doing what they do, saying the things they said.. For me, being real is important.  So I suppose, in some ways, I do say the darnest things at times.

But I'm not going to admit in real life unless there's concrete proof ;D ;D ;D  In that sense, I'm a coward :D :D :D A big coward...Yes.  But it's not important..

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 17, 2017, 04:33:45 PM
Hmmmmm

The General and I EP. 20

"If I never see your highness again in this lifetime, I would be no more than a living corpse even if I stay alive."

Powerful stuff here.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 19, 2017, 04:04:20 PM
Love- Lessons from the TV Dramas

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcaghjY6RIc (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcaghjY6RIc)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGAKzUAGF9Q&spfreload=5 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cGAKzUAGF9Q&spfreload=5)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 20, 2017, 12:19:42 PM
Tomorrow

Tomorrow I’ll be in a place where they’ll be eating and drinking, drinking and eating.   I don’t mind the eating but it’s the excessive drinking I don’t understand.  Have yet to understand.  Convince me to understand.  I already know how the night will end so my heart is already heavy, not fill with anticipation and or excitement. 

I think if people are courageous to stick to their principles, they would not feel the pressure to drink.  A simple philosophy yet hard to do.  People respond to pressure differently while others are firm to who they are, I think.  Or Am I missing something..? 

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 23, 2017, 08:26:39 AM
He Came Home With Blond Hair

My daughter came up to me and show his picture - sure enough he's blond, more reddish/pinkish blond.  I had to double glance and there -staring right back at me is my oldest son.  She ask, "Do you like it?  What do you think?" and I replied, "Oh my goodniiiiiieee eeeee.." and she laughed excitedly and continued, "He came home and yep he was blond.  You should see it.  He'll be back." 

We left to go somewhere and when we returned, there he is, "Mom, do you like it?"  and I said, "wow, looks different.  You look Korean, Japanese, and really bring out your tan."  We laughed and he went on to  explain the process of how he got it done.  He said, "Mom, a few days from now it'll be a little more blond." I listened.

He continues, "Mom, I'm going on vacation with my friends." and from there he proceeded to tell me about his Mexico trip and his blond hair was forgotten. 

Last night he (my blond son) asked me to take him to his friend's house since they're leaving early to catch their flight in the morning.  We talked  and I asked him, "Was I a good mom/were we good parents to you?"  He said, "Mom, you and dad did a great job raising  us.  It's amazing how the little things we learn when we were little shape us to who we are today.  For example, I worked hard not because I want to be rich, make money but I want to do something with my life, accomplish something." and we talk more about life, family, etc..  I pray with him for a safe trip and left.

Driving back, I think of all my children- how each is progressing in their life and smile. 

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 27, 2017, 02:19:15 PM
Sincerity

A poem I came across..

Why is the word yes so brief?
It should be
the longest,
the hardest,
so that you could not decide in an instant to say it,
so that upon reflection you could stop
in the middle of saying it.


This poem is a reflection of Sincerity and you can apply this concept to other things in life.  I admit, I don't make decision lightly and that becomes both my weakness and strength.  It doesn't mean my decisions are always on target/right - just means they are sincere and when you are "sincere" about something, you either received the deepest joy or suffered the deepest cut.



Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 06, 2017, 09:05:05 AM
Tossing and Turning

Sleeping inside a car on a winter’s night was not comfortable.  Earlier, I called and he sounded like he had a little too much to drink so I told him to stay put.  When I got there, he was knocked out and moving him would be difficult.  Grabbed his heavy coat and covered him up as best as I could.

What was I to do?  I suppose if you can’t beat him, join him.  Slowly, I walked to the passenger side, slide in, use my coat as blanket and scarf as pillow, slide the seat half way down and attempted to get some “ZZZ.”  30 minutes later, there I was, tossing and turning (and a little cold).  The best position to keep warm is fetus –head slightly bend and both leg curl up but sleep didn’t come. 3 ½ hours later, he seemed more alert but not enough to drive.  He mumbled I should go on home and he’ll come around later.  I didn’t argue – and he got home at the crack of dawn.

What did I learn? – Not a fan of excessive drinking-probably never will – And leave an emergency sleeping kit (pillow & blanket) in the trunk.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 15, 2017, 12:54:08 PM
Love Overcomes All

I finished watching The General and I – what a great love story- one of those “Love Conquers All.”  Watching a great drama is like reading a good book – hard to put down.  This was like that for me. The dialogues & chemistry of the lead actors/actress (like good writings) melts the heart, brings joy, sadness, and emotions in between. It's amazing to see a guy fall for a girl and made a vow to love her, only her in life and kept it, is not afraid to show his love, fight for her against all odds, and even died for her if needed...this is such a guy.  Yeah, only exist in fantasy land but -it's nice to see that play out in the computer/tv screen.  You've got my vote Chue Be Jie:)

Queen Seodok was another good one.  Even now, I still remember the love story of Bidam and Queen Seondok – Poor Bidam – I still recalled him dying with tears of blood pouring out of his eyes –looking straight as his love- Queen Seondok – trying to reach her.  Bidam, you've got my vote too. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 20, 2017, 04:22:08 PM
A Drive Along The Mississippi River

Starting in MN going southeast – along the way saw some quiet communities and beautiful sceneries.  My favorite little town, Lake City – a tiny little town with the most beautiful view of the Mississippi River w/ tall mountain peaks on the other side, gorgeous.  It has sidewalks along the edge of the Mississippi River for taking evening strolls or walks and benches where you could sit and enjoy the spectacular view. 

The most prosperous little town along the Mississippi River must be Red Wing – maybe the nearby Casino may have been a factor – but that’s a thriving little town.   Further down the Mississippi River in Iowa is the Yellow River – tus dej yuav tsum pom siab thiaj nqig –  and next to it is the Effigy Mounds National Monument.  I could spend a day here - hiking along the scenic nature trails.  Was press for time so took a mini stroll along the scenic path of the Effigy Mounds and pom dej dag siab nqig lawm ces went across to the other side and home :)

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 24, 2017, 03:51:42 PM
Time

Thaum kuv tseem hluas, sijhawm muaj ntau xav tias yuav tsis txawj tag.  Thaum laus zoo li sijhawm tsis txaus nws dhau mus zuj zus ceem tsis tau rov qab. I'm happy in this world you and I are still in it and that in itself is a beautiful thing. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXCGeMtdVDE (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXCGeMtdVDE)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 02, 2017, 08:00:53 PM
Sunny California For Him

11pm last night I was packing his suitcase and today he's already texting a photo of sunny California.  Unfortunately he wasn't there for pleasure but rather business - funeral business to be exact.   Life and loss...loss and life and the cycle repeats. Life is short & fleeting - make the most it.

Aside from that, I've been busy coordinating for a future event and seeking donation/sponsorships.  It's a win - win for all- you give something and got something in return.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 05, 2017, 07:37:35 PM
Another MN Trip

This time I visited Stone Bridge, that bridge over the Mississippi River.  It's a nice little walk in that little park nearby and you can see some old ruins of some old stuff long ago:)  I like the little board walk.. but what I like best is standing up on that bridge, in the middle, and looking at the bubbling water below.  It was a chilly day but during the Summer month, it must be a wonderful little walk from one end of the bridge to the other.  I wanted to visit that waterfall, what is it call?  Oh yes, Minha someting ahhaah... but it was a cold day so I changed my plan.  Instead we went to that mall - that big mall and if I was the local, I don't think I'll shop there much but a great place for exercise.  I love the hanging lights chandeliers... .

Truang Nam Bakery - so I was hoping to see lots of delicious Asian bake goods but no only a few croissants and that famous Banh Mi sandwiches. 




Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 10, 2017, 03:05:34 PM
"Even if the roads we travel run parallel without ever meeting together I am saying I will go with you like that side by side, all my life."

-Saimdang, Light's Diary (ep. 12)



Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 20, 2017, 10:50:40 AM
PH

Even though PH is an online community, it's still a community nevertheless.  Over the years we've shared our thoughts (viewpoints, ideas), life's journey, family, children, political views, trials & tribulations, hobbies,  things that made us happy, sad, mad, go crazy, ticks, fall in love, out of love, what we wear, listened to, our deepest thoughts, etc..

and each of us probably has found a tiny bit of "heaven" or "hell" on here.  Me - an ocean to toss messages in a bottles. 

They say it's the people that makes a community - I must agree.  And like all community -People grow old, people grow sick, people leave, people come.  I know one day I may leave (as in permanently)...and you will too.  In sickness, in health, in joy, in tears – life keeps going even when we stopped.

So make the most of your life with the time you’re given.  Be kind to others.  Give generously to charitable causes, have courage to love and be loved in return, and enjoy every moments you have w/ loved ones.

Maybe I'm getting old and gone to too many funerals - they really remind/ put life into perspectives quickly (and venting on a Monday morning).
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 03, 2017, 12:56:59 PM
Drinking Is A Choice

So I was at a family gathering and they were drinking.  They know I don't drink but we were talking about drinking and I said it's a choice.  To prove my point, I down liquors really well that night.  Later, I had a moment of "giggling and crying at the same time."  So, I also found out what sort of drunk I could be hehehe..

But anyway, I don't care to repeat again.. Point made, done.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 06, 2017, 10:32:40 AM
Saimdang

I'm watching this Kdrama and it's about another kind of love - a love that exist even though people are apart, living separate lives.  In their own way, they learn to love, appreciate each other without physically being with one another.   A love that's pure - not those lustful type of love - but a pure love that begins pure and remain pure through life. 

Also, Saimdang is a real historical figure in the Korean culture/life - a genius artist and educator ahead of her time.  Her artworks are outstanding..  Her artwork are so realistic, alive..like you could almost touch it (that's how I see it.)

http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/16C-Korea-Artist-Shin-Saimdang-Painting-Eggplant-Insects-Replica-on-Canvas-/272234896631 (http://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/16C-Korea-Artist-Shin-Saimdang-Painting-Eggplant-Insects-Replica-on-Canvas-/272234896631)



Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 20, 2017, 09:36:11 AM
The magnolia are starting to bloom, trees, and plants are awaken from their long winter sleep.  Love it this time of the year minus the allergy that comes with it.  Too busy but love to plant flowers around the yard.  I have some Canna bulbs from last year, some new ones this year, Irises, Daffodils, etc.  My Tulips, Hostas, and Coral Bells are starting to come out...

It's wonderful to be able to sit back/ enjoy my back yard in the Summer under a big umbrella with a cool drinks in  hand.  We've camp out in the back too hehehhe...  We have a family of Deer that lives in the woods behind the house and sometimes a pack of wolves came through - you could hear the howling like hyenas..

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 24, 2017, 11:32:24 AM
Very busy this week.  Friday:  People coming over for dinner.  Expecting 100+.  Saturday:  The big day.  Evening:  The big party.  Going a little crazy at the moment but will be fine.  Deep breathe..inhal e, exhale....
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 28, 2017, 09:49:19 AM
Today is the day of the big days to come hahhaha... and I'm feeling a little bit jittery. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 01, 2017, 10:53:22 AM
I'm feeling great today.  It was a lot of work planning /coordinating but it's done.  I don't ever have to think about it again until the  next ones come again (sighs).  But i'm always a busy person anyway.

I have a funeral coming up and some ladies and I are prepping up food/appetizer for that.  Tomorrow, we'll be making those khaub piaj noodles, next evening, sticky rice bars, next evening something else.. and Friday, funeral day, I'll be cooking in the kitchen.  Yes, this entire weekend, I can be found in the kitchen..

Arrg...and next week, I'll be having more aches and pain..   There's a sick grandma in the hospital right now and it looks like she could go any day as well.  I hope she gets well/better.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 03, 2017, 10:16:40 AM
I need a vacation -

I just want to drop everything and go to some place warm and tropical for a few days.  I don't want to think about work, responsibiliti es... I just want to relax by a warm beach or some place  exotic.  It's been a while since i've taken a vacation.  I've worked hard almost all my life and there's so much to do and see.  I haven't done those things yet and time is passing by.  Do you feel like that sometimes? 

Well, some people may say, what's stopping me?  Hmmm, it's easier said than done.  Maybe I should play the lottery - today's Wednesday right?  Drawing's tonight?  I haven't play those in a looooooooooooo oooooooong time too, maybe twice in my life so far.  Once when the jackpot was over 1/2 a millions and the second was similar jackpot. 

But, I count my blessings.  It's beautiful to be alive and to wake up to a beautiful sunrise and sunset. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 05, 2017, 08:49:40 PM
The first day of Funeral and I was up at 7am cooking all day.  My feet and body aches.  The worst thing I did today was boiling cow skin (the part with the fur) until tender in order to remove the fur.  Then, I meticulously peel the fur with my finger tip and if that doesn't work, use the blade of a small knife to scrap the fur off and you are left with that gelatin skin covering.

I left after dinner was served..cookin g all day I lost my appetite.

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 07, 2017, 09:49:56 PM
French History

Emmanuel Macron won the presidency - he reminds me of Obama and Le Pen, she was the extreme opponent to the right.  She's anti -immigrant, seeks to break free from European Union, etc... reminds me of someone in the White House right now.

Done w/ busy weekend.  Didn't get to bed till 4am and up at 6am so I was feeling a little like a zombie all day. 

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 09, 2017, 09:36:41 AM
I just celebrated my birthday recently and oh my goodness....I'm old.  I'm not 50 yet but getting there.  I remember when I was young, I look at people in their 40's or 50's and I thought that was old..and now that i'm here, IT"S STILL OLD :D :D :D

But I'm ok with that.  Growing old is part of life and as long as a person is comfortable in his/her own skin, that's important.  What is growing old looks like?  The physical appearance changes (for better or worse) but the inner beauty/inner self is ageless and the years only enhance it.  AND yes, physical ailments are surfacing.

But the beauty of growing old is that all the people important to me are growing old with me, along with me - we're growing old together and that makes the journey of growing old beautiful.

I wouldn't want to be young while they are growing old without me- that would be sadder. 


 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 18, 2017, 09:18:32 AM
Finally the garden is done - planted the pepper seedlings, chicken herbs, lemon grass, lemon grass plant,  and a few perennials around the house.  Afterward, the children wanted bbq and so we took out the grill and bbq a little bit. 
Later in the evening when all is quiet, I'm sitting in a chair w/ drink in hand just enjoying the evening breeze and looking up at the darken sky - a storm is brewing.  The wind really picked up -the branches were swaying left and right but I was in no rush to get inside.  Soon, Betsy, the family dog, came to join me but she was a little nervous w/ the strong wind so I let her inside.  There I am sitting in the dusk enjoying the beauty of my surroundings and the aroma of the pom pom flowers fills the night air.  I close my eyes…and count my blessings.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 01, 2017, 09:24:06 AM
A Twin

A lady came up to me and said, "oh you look just like so and so... Every time I see you, I always mistake you for so and so.."  I offer, "do you want to take a picture of her twin and show it to her?"  She didn't have a camera and of course, my flip phone was...... just a flip phone ;D ;D ;D


Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 02, 2017, 01:43:02 PM
Acupuncture

So today I went and got my first ever acupuncture.   The acupuncturist said my meridian points should flow better.  Ok. 

It's been an hour since I got the procedure done and I do feel more relax (body feels lighter).  I'm going to wait and see.....
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 16, 2017, 11:10:02 AM
I'm blessed to be living by a beautiful beach.  One of my favorite past time is an evening stroll along it's shore and there's a pier that goes right into the water - I enjoy strolling along that too.  In the evening, watching the sunset and the evening breeze brushing my hair - smelling the clean air - that's a perfect evening right there. 

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 20, 2017, 09:46:48 AM
It was late at night that I was driving in this small road in this small town (never been there before) ... Got lost and I was trying to get back to the main road.  There was no street light along the road and the only light source was the beam from my car.  Suddenly, the light beam revealed an animal ahead - was it a deer? A dog?  I could tell the animal was rooted to the spot, traumatized to see the beaming car light and I equally traumatized to see it in front of me.  There's no way I could avoid hitting it and possibly saving this life.  In a split second, we came in contact and I knew a life has been lost.  Should I stop  and check what I hit on this dark and forsaken road?  No, I left because I knew there was nothing I could have done.  I left with a heavy heart.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on July 01, 2017, 11:05:06 AM
Today is a beautiful day in my neck of the wood and there's a big tournament in MN this weekend.  Some people I know are there right now along w/ hmong from other parts of the world and US.  Me - I'm home.  I've been gone so much that I prefer to enjoy my quiet weekend home w/ my children.  We'll be doing yard work and later whatever they want to do.  This weekend is all about them.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on July 13, 2017, 12:47:05 PM
Right now I'm in my office working on some paper work and I'll be doing that for the next few days.  I have these playing in the background https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmdAJLBYZYQ&index=6&list=RDGVdsegjCPVY (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmdAJLBYZYQ&index=6&list=RDGVdsegjCPVY)  and sometimes a song that catches my attention came on, I'll stop what i'm doing and listened.  I'm thinking, being human, we all can related to those lyrics in some ways.. and I couldn't help by think that a man loves as much as a woman, as vulnerable as her... and that all of us are vulnerable when it comes to love.

Well, I'm an old lady but young at heart hahahhaha..... so yes, I still listen to these sappy love songs.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on August 07, 2017, 02:59:02 PM
Unexpected life circumstances

My mother in law had a stroke and is still recovering at the hospital.  Watching her going through so many tests, having breathing/feeding tubes going into her, and suffering emotional and physical pain is hard to watch.  I feel hopeless because I can't do much.  At the same time, it's an eye opener to getting old.  I hope I'm one of those blessed soul that passes away quietly w/ little suffering.  My great great grandmother passed away like that:  She was eating breakfast and suddenly her swallowing slow down, she became tired, and within an hour she passed. 

These days the older generations are leaving one by one.  I've attended too many of those funerals this year and soon I'll be heading to Cali for another one.  I don't like to impose on people when I go to funerals out of state so I got everything taken care of.  I'll be going alone (just me myself and I).
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on August 11, 2017, 10:58:47 PM
I've arrived and the weather is pretty hot but not humid like where I'm from.  I still have my flip phone so I have no access to GPS and had to rely on myself to getting around.  This city is pretty huge and the funeral is in the heart of town while I'm staying on the outskirts of town.  Poor planning on my part - lesson learn.  I love the tall palm trees, banana plants (no banana) and flowering shrubs and they reminded me of Laos and Thailand.  The houses here are one level, ranch style, and I see dry patches of grass every where.  However, a vibrant diverse town.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on August 13, 2017, 11:16:56 PM
Tomorrow is the funeral day and so far I've survived driving through the maze of this city.  I've no idea how big this town is and the high ways and by ways can be pretty busy w/ so many constructions.  I took a few minutes to explore today and stopped by "Little Saigon" to taste the pho in this city.  I still prefer the one in my town.  A reminder to not take them for granted:)  Sometimes you think other places have better things but little did you know the best things are right in front of you.  Well, I came across a few of my childhood friends and some of us have gray hairs, some gain weight, some more beautiful than ever.  I'm just blessed to have the opportunity to see them again.  Tomorrow I'm leaving this place and I don't know when I'll set foot here again.  I'm going to savor the air, sights, sound, and the people and if I have the opportunity to stop again, I'll make new experiences.  I can't wait to go home.  This  hotel is on the outskirts of town hehhehe...and right now it's pretty quiet.  If I didn't have anyone waiting at  home..... it can be such a lonely place for sure.  I know I won't last more than a week here before I go insane heheheh....
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on August 23, 2017, 02:00:43 PM
I  hope I’m not over doing it

My son made it to varsity but he needs his sport clearance to play.  A while ago, he ask me to get it for him but I’ve forgotten about it.  The night before practice, he asked me about it and of course his mom didn’t get it done.  He was disappointed and I felt guilty.  The next day,I called and faxed the form over to his doctor to complete.  The office said it usually takes 5 to 7 days. 

Because he didn’t have the sports clearance, my son had to sit out on a 3 hour practice and I felt sick to my stomache w/ guilt.  The next day, I stopped by the dr’s office to hand delivered another copy for her to complete and I was hoping to get it by the end of the day.  Sure enough just when I had almost lose hope, it came through.  I felt relief knowing my son will not have to sit out on another practice… and my stomache returned to normal.

So what did I do?  I send thank you flowers to the doctor.  Now, today my head is a little more clear…..I was thinking... I hope I didn't over do it..  Hmmm, I could have just send her a “thank you” card but flowers…. Well, it’s done. Truth be told, I am grateful the doctor helped me to be a good mother.  Lesson learned. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 06, 2017, 09:21:18 AM
Florida


Many years ago, I walked on your sand and wonders how long before we meet again.  Once more, your sand flows through my toes and your salty water washed away the heat of the day.  Your pier standing proud in the distance.  It’s so good to be back though only briefly.  When I left, I gave a last glance and hope that we’ll meet again, someday.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 15, 2017, 03:34:56 PM
River Walk

I’m fortunate to be working near a River walk-a winding path along the edge of a river on both side for a few miles.    Every now and then I’d be having my lunch here, especially on a beautiful day.  Today was no exception -there I was sitting by the River walk w/ a delicious Banh Mi and observing people rowing canoes on the river.  Every now and then a river cruise happen and bridges would be lifted for the cruise boat to pass.  That was a headache for pedestrians and cars but I’m sure people inside the boat got a nice view of everyone stopping in traffic. 

It’s beautiful here – large hanging baskets up on lamp posts and planters on the ground,  vine arches between the walk way, and in some location, comfortable seating on the edge of the river for socializing, an open theatre, tables and chairs under huge umbrella, restaurants, and huge tall sky scrapper/buildings..

I’ve never visited in the evening but I can imagine a romantic evening w/ the lamp post lights as lanterns and music flowing in the wind, the crisp evening air, a lovely companion, laughter, food and wine.  One shouldn’t be here alone at night – it’ll be too lonely I imagine.  The night belongs to couples and everyone can come during the day.

Maybe some see this place as nothing more than a dirty, polluted river. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 18, 2017, 11:45:06 AM
Doing the Right Thing/ Txoj Kev Ua Zoo/A Good Person

I’m venting.  I can walk away and treat her how she treated me because I've no relation to her through blood.  When her health is at her most critical, she needed me.  She came to live with me because she knew I could take care of her but her heart and mind wasn’t with me.  Her body is there but her heart is somewhere else. When she is well, her love and care goes to her blood.   Now she is at her most critical, half of her body immobilized – needs total care, should my love and care go to her?

My hurt says treat her as how she treated me.  But my heart and soul wouldn’t let me.  It says, if you can only do good when others are good to you, are you really a good person?  It says if you can only do the right thing when it benefits you the most, are you actually doing the right thing?

Yes, sometimes doing the right thing, being a good person, txoj kev zoo, is hard because sometimes the only thank-you you get is a clear conscience- Yours.

God, give me the strength to love others as you have love me.  You lay down your life for me when I’m most underserving.  Rid me of my bitterness so I can do what is right and love others as you've loved me.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 26, 2017, 02:16:48 PM
Kuv Hlub Koj Tsis Paub Tagkis

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMjUyo5GerM (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMjUyo5GerM)

Thov Txhob Nug

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QHlNxHb0y8 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QHlNxHb0y8)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on October 12, 2017, 09:29:26 AM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=8&v=7D5K9RmwLBg (https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=8&v=7D5K9RmwLBg)

FYI, I don't speak Thai but looks like this song is kho kho siab and the music video is well made: Simple and effective. Want to jump into the screen and look at the stars w/ him hehehehhehehe. ......

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVRen1XYX14 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVRen1XYX14)

And this one, I just want to pass a handkerchief along, seem like a sad and depressing song.

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on October 17, 2017, 09:01:46 AM
Seeing people drink Soju in Kdrama reminds me of my first introduction to Korean Soju.

My husband and I attended a hmong function and the host gave me a carton of Korean Soju (clear alcoholic drink in glass bottle) to toast with the ladies.  Of course, I thought they were water.  I said to the ladies, "Great, they're just water so let's each take a bottle."  Well, my first sipped confirm it wasn't water n the toast was pretty done at that point. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on November 17, 2017, 01:48:17 PM
The other day I went shopping at an Asian store and I did not have cash w/ me nor a credit card but brought along my checkbook.  At the check out,  the cashier said, "sorry, we don't take checks anymore."  I was surprised.  It's been awhile since I went to that store and had no when the "new" policy took effect.  I left and went to a second and third Asian store, the same thing. 

It dawned on me, reality starts to set in a little bit - that personal check, the use of checks, are beginning to go extinct like the house phone, letter writings, etc.. and replace with credit cards/ debit cards, etc..



Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on November 27, 2017, 09:41:24 AM
I'm feeling impatient theses days and I get irritated by little things I normally don't in the past.  I'm tired of living the busy life - one weekend go to an event in this town, another weekend go to an event in that town, and the cycle repeats.  On the weekend, my children don't even ask where i'm heading anymore nor waits for me.  They know the routine well.  Why do I do this?  To fulfill his dreams and they coming true one by one.  He's made a name for himself - everywhere we go, people know him. 

That's the thing about life in this country - if you invest your energy in accumulating wealth - you'd get that.  If you invest your time in being a bum - you'll get that.  What ever you wish, put your heart and soul into - you'd get that.    But to fulfill his dream, lots of sacrifice were made.

Also, this journey includes lots of drinking.  I see the endless clicking of alcohol toasting where many times he'd passed out from excessive consumption.  He's not alone.  It's like alcohol and drinking is the "new" normal.  It's not and has never been.  Once we become too comfortable, we lose ourselves, forget right from wrong.  We turn wrong thing into right and right thing into wrong thing, something like that.  Maybe i'm the abnormal ones....

I savor the quiet moments - those moments in front of the TV, working around the house, surrounded by family and children, doing things together, doing nothing, being alone, walking my dog, etc.. These moments are rare and few these days. 




Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on November 29, 2017, 09:42:19 AM
Lesson From KDrama

Greed is a common theme in Kdrama and a mirror of life - greed of love, greed of $, greed of power, etc..  Usually it's the Villian w/ these greeds and he/she will take extreme measures to achieve it, don't care about stepping on others or feelings of others.  It never go according to plan at the end of the drama - opposite happens - lose everything. 

Lesson:  Whatever you want, hope for -love, power, $$ - it has to come to you willingly to be yours and can't be force or bought.  How?  power & $$ - work hard w/your own effort and ability to achieve it.  Love - how?  Have the courage to look for it and when you find it, made it known and if it's yours, it'll come.  If not, accept and move on - Easier said than done yes but try because that's the only way it'll be yours...has to come willingly.  You know, they have feet too....has to walk to you to stay.

I wonder, many years down the road will I still think this way? So far I haven't changed my mind yet.







Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 01, 2017, 10:53:11 AM
I love this song, "Lwm Tiam" from Lis Toj.  I don't believe there's a lwm tiam but nice lyrics. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrDZDxCA_Ng (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrDZDxCA_Ng)

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 15, 2017, 02:16:34 PM
Slow day at work and this guy is keeping me company and yet I don't know his name hahahahha...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yqr8LTHqhhs (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yqr8LTHqhhs)

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 22, 2017, 08:43:43 AM
Today in this PH desert, Christmas is on my mind.  This is what Christmas means to me:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ryv41dMqS24 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ryv41dMqS24)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sEP5_7DMu0 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_sEP5_7DMu0)

While we are gift giving to one another (or not), all of us have received the greatest gift of all - life and love, more precious than silver and gold. 

Sometimes we think we don't worth much, useless, undeserving but to the one who loves us, we are everything. 

Merry Christmas



Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: lost_forever on December 27, 2017, 12:00:18 PM
I love this song, "Lwm Tiam" from Lis Toj.  I don't believe there's a lwm tiam but nice lyrics. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrDZDxCA_Ng (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrDZDxCA_Ng)

One of my favorite songs! I don’t believe in lwm tiam too. If you want to be with someone do it now when you have the chance. I also love Lilly “txhob tos lwm tiam”.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 08, 2018, 02:58:36 PM
Lost, I love Lilly's too. 

I came across this scribbles on my note pad.  Not sure where I found them but I must have like them to scribble them down.

If there is something to desire,
there will be something to regret.
If there is something to regret,
there will be something to recall.
If there is something to recall,
there was nothing to regret.
If there was nothing to regret,
there was nothing to desire.


Why is the word yes so brief?
It should be
the longest,
the hardest,
so that you could not decide in an instant to say it,
so that upon reflection you could stop
in the middle of saying it




Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 18, 2018, 08:42:40 AM
A Close Call

There I was entering onto the highway and merging onto the slow right lane.  The road condition wasn't that bad.   The cars are picking up speed and I was going about 45 miles per hour.  I noticed the cars in front of me pressed on their brakes and some even swerved a little onto the right shoulder.   My reaction - I  must have pressed my brakes a little hard because suddenly my car did a 180 turn landing onto the right shoulder facing the opposite direction I was heading.   It was that or I could very well slammed onto the bumper of the car in front.  Cars on the slow right lane stopped so I could get out of the shoulder.  That was a close call.

I'm still a little shaken but I thank God for keeping things under control.  In a blink of an eye, it could have been a horrible accident.  I was very fortunate indeed.  Be careful.  Be careful.  Be careful.







Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 29, 2018, 10:03:48 AM
Lwm Qaib Tiam 21

I had a minor crisis this past weekend:  My son called he's bringing a girl home to marry.  My husband was knocked out from drinking and couldn't get any help from him.  I called an uncle and he said to do the Lwm Qaib thing when they got to the house (prior to entering) and he stressed it must be done to avoid complications w/ the bride's family later on.  He instructed I do it w/ a chicken or 3 incense sticks (xyab).  That's all the insructions.

What is a clueless person to do?  I went over to my computer and quickly got a youtube tutorial how to do it. Wrote down what to say as instructed from the video...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-xj3llpJMg (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-xj3llpJMg)

There I was by the door w/ the written instruction and when they arrived, I opened the door... took out my 3 incense sticks and lwm to the right - and read from my paper.

Oh hnub no zoo hnub...  Hnub no zoo nyog
Kuv tus tub yuav tau nyab los txoj vaj txog tsev lawm

Hnub no kuv yuav los lwm nawb    Kuv lwm nws    Kuv tsis lwm nws
plig tub plig tub kom nyob luag ntxub
Plig ki plig ki kom nyob luag ntxi

Tsis lwm nws    plig niam plig txiv   Plij txij plig nkawm

etc....

I think I made history lwm qaib this way heheehhehehehe ehhehe...... Or should we say Lwm Qaib Taim 21 ahahhahahaahha hahhahhhaahahh ah.... I still have a giggles when I think about it.  But thank goodness I survived this ordeal.

Yes, I am officially a mother in law.

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: lost_forever on January 30, 2018, 02:24:17 PM
Congratulation s Dok! Wow you nailed it! Great job.

I want to see pictures!
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 01, 2018, 11:17:38 AM
So kuv tus cuag (oh boy have to get use to calling that ahhaahaha...), anyway, kuv tus cuag, wants the hmong wedding ASAP.  They wanted this weekend but we're booked w/ emergency crisis so we pushed to three weeks from now.  I was hoping they could wait until Spring or Summer but oh my goodness so soon.  Oh well....

This is my first getting married and I've been educating myself for the big day.  The wedding starts at my house - mej koob, pij laj (best man), groom, bride, niam txais ntsuab and for the longest we kept saying "Niam Tais Ntsuab" but it's actually "Niam Txais Ntsuab."    There's going to be a meal before they're off to the bride's family.

I've never really knew what goes inside lub kawm - now I know:
2 chickens, ib pob mov, salt, oil, knife, 2 spoon (real)

Am I missing anything?

Thank you Lost_forever.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 18, 2018, 02:52:20 PM
My son's Hmong Wedding

 I have body aches and sore feet but it is done.  We had two big feast - back to back.  I work better when i'm prepared so I pretty much gave a lot of thought on what needed to be done and when the big day comes, every thing flows nicely.  Feeling relief today.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: lost_forever on February 20, 2018, 07:16:54 AM
are you excited to be a mother in law? How old is your son? Hmong weddings cost so much, not as as an American wedding but so much preparations. Post up pictures when you can.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 20, 2018, 12:53:31 PM
are you excited to be a mother in law? How old is your son? Hmong weddings cost so much, not as as an American wedding but so much preparations. Post up pictures when you can.
I'm not ready to be a mother in law yet but it's here so I'll learn as I go.  However, I can relate to my nyab and all the fears that come with the new role because I was once in her shoes.  I'll do my best to ease her fear.  I gain a daughter, that's how I see it.  My son is 23 and yes so much preparation but it's done and I AM FEELING RELIEF!  Thank you for asking.   
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 01, 2018, 03:29:48 PM
Oh The Wonder of Facebook

I have a funny story to tell ahhaha... so recently a niece in Laos was calling me on Facebook and I realized I had to installed that feature to chat live with her.  So I did.  After that, every now and then I'll hear "buzzing" from my phone.  At first I thought I was getting text messages.  I checked and found out It wasn't text messages but rather live chat messages from Facebook.   Well, learn something new today. 


Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 19, 2018, 01:04:28 PM
Think Come Think Go On Fav. Singer

If I can go to any concert in the world, I'd choose to go to this guy.  Think come think go, he is such a timeless legend.  Funny thing is, I've no clue what he's saying ;D ;D ;D ;D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-saDqely-E&list=RD2cmI4ldY3ek&index=14 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-saDqely-E&list=RD2cmI4ldY3ek&index=14)


Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 23, 2018, 02:04:31 PM
Majestic, from the most distant time
The sun rises and sets.
Time passes and men cannot stop it.
The four seasons serve them,
But do not belong to them.
The years flow like water.
Everything passes away before my eyes.


-The Emperor Wu of Han

*Besides a song, poems can speak the human heart well.  I love the vivid writings of Chinese poetry - almost like bringing that piece of writing to life and you can feel the writer's sentiment. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 03, 2018, 11:50:58 AM
Note to self:  There's such a thing as this.  Put this on your bucket list. 

https://www.travelzoo.com/cruises/more/-18-299-Sail-the-World-in-120-Days-incl-Oceanview-Cabin-2604869/?ec=1 (https://www.travelzoo.com/cruises/more/-18-299-Sail-the-World-in-120-Days-incl-Oceanview-Cabin-2604869/?ec=1)

and add this too:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8zgoBvc64dw (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8zgoBvc64dw)
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Post by: Dok_Champa on April 06, 2018, 11:45:17 AM
When your teeth decay you cannot
Grow new ones.  When your hair falls
Out you cannot plant it again.
I get up at dawn and look
At myself in the mirror.
My face is wrinkled, my hair
Is grey.  I am filled with pity
For the years that are gone like
Split water.  It can't be helped.
I take a cup of wine and
Turn to the bookcase once more.
Back though the centuries I
Visit Shun and Yu the Great
And Kue Lung, that famous rowdy.
Across three thousand years I
Can still see them plainly.
What does it matter?  My flesh,
Like Theirs, wears away with time


-Lu Yu
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 13, 2018, 09:21:13 AM
A Faithful Wife

You know I have a husband.
Why did you give me these two glowing pearls?
I could acknowledge your love
And sew them on my red dress,
But I come from a noble family,
Courtiers of the Emperor.
My husband is an officer in the Palace Guard.
Of course I realize that your intentions
Are pure as the light of Heavan,
But I have sworn to be true to my husband
In life and in death.
So I must give back your beautiful pearls,
With two tears to match them.
Why didn't I meet you
Before I was married?

-Chang Chi


*Pondering.... nws hlub leejtwg nes?  Yog vim li cas nws los kua muag thaum nws muab cov pearls rov qab rau tus txiv neej thiab puas yog kev hlub ua rau nws tseem nrog nws tus txiv los yog reputation?  Nyeem tej no ua rau kuv xav li no. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 25, 2018, 01:43:50 PM
Heard the news.  My heart is broken and heavy.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 09, 2018, 01:30:20 PM
My son cancelled his American wedding.  He decided to save the $$ towards his honeymoon and future. Good for him and less work for me :D :D I'm booked till August, soooo busy.  This weekend, a funeral and a wedding.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 16, 2018, 03:15:38 PM
I have an intern coming this Fall.  This will be my 4th ones. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 29, 2018, 09:44:22 AM
What a busy weekend.  Tej laus ib txwm hais tias tus txiv ua nom hos tus niam ua num.  It's not my priority in life to ua nom ua tswv but it's a dream of his that I'm helping.  Hmoob txoj kev ua nom ua tswv, yes makes little impact/changes in society except pab kom sawvdaws txawj sib hlub sib raug zoo vim peb hmoob tseem muaj kev sib cais koj pab kuv pawg, my opinion.



Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 01, 2018, 02:35:56 PM
Note to self:  I passed over them thinking.....b ut not bad, was pleasantly surprised. 

Hmong Group:  FBI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WP_SE4WhAAo&index=13&list=RDMM05THna6gWSs (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WP_SE4WhAAo&index=13&list=RDMM05THna6gWSs)

Tank Chang

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a8O4n3g52_4 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a8O4n3g52_4)

*Like better than the original.

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 07, 2018, 02:55:52 PM
I'm so excited!

An airline service will be providing direct/non stop flight to San Diego and that means I can go more often.  Price is not bad - $49 one way.   Yipppeeeee!  I can go dip my feet in the ocean and come back ;D ;D ;D OR I can lounge around by the Ocean and dip fully into it and then come back....(with plenty of sun burn) :D :D
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 21, 2018, 11:47:21 AM
Bee Zeee Bee Zee........... .............. Bee Zeee!!!
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 28, 2018, 11:10:45 AM
I'm counting down the days, hours, and minutes before I see you again.  I can't wait to walk on your shores  and touch your salty air. I've been researching and know where I want to be.  But, I'm just glad I was able to come back.  Soon, we'll see each other once more and I can embrace you again.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on July 26, 2018, 01:24:58 PM
3 weeks and I'll see you.  Can't wait to delight myself in your heat!
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on August 02, 2018, 02:16:34 PM
Note to self:  Life should include sad songs and beautiful scenery


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onxMzmA1V-Q (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onxMzmA1V-Q)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 17, 2018, 08:52:30 AM
Bee zee bee zeee...

Saturday we left the house at 6 am and arrived at our destination around 10 am.  Stay until 4pm and then left to another place 3 hours away for a fundraising event.  Stayed there until 10:30 pm and the husband was already under the influence of alcohol so I was the lone driver during the 4 hour long drive. 

Yes, I was tired and driving along some foggy country roads did not put my imagination to rest either:  Some ghoulish creatures lurking among the trees, appearing on the side of the roads, in the middle of the roads, running alongside my car...it was a perfect setting for a horror movie, my thoughts ;D ;D:  Foggy road, solitary car, a night as dark as coal, heavily wooded, cornfields, cars break down, no phone signal, etc... After awhile, my imagination humors me more than anything and
I found myself smiling and my heart at peace.

Finally, in the early morning hours we arrived and me probably looking like a woman on her PMS  ;D ;D but there was a huge event in town and all the hotels were rented out.  Fasting backwards a few days ago, the hubby said not to worried plenty of hotels.  Anyway, I did the best thing:  Slept in the hotel parking lot -  and at the crack of dawn left to get ready at an Aunty's place.  Throughout the day, lots of activities (political & social) and did not get home until 4 am today. 

A student came in, took one look at me and knew I did not get a good rest  :D :D :D :D :D 

I'm still feeling like a zombie...been yawning all morning.  If someone ask me do I want $$, good food, or nice bed...I choose a nice bed.

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 28, 2018, 08:52:55 AM
Another bee zeeee weekend.  A quiet Friday and this is my tune at the moment.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x1ubrA5SsUo (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x1ubrA5SsUo)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wM-XhQeFzW4 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wM-XhQeFzW4)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on October 05, 2018, 12:23:24 PM
Another bee zee wekeend....hea ding out of town to a hmong event.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on November 13, 2018, 02:59:56 PM
Entering another milestone in life.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on February 26, 2019, 11:25:12 AM
I've been attending too many funerals lately and it's not for the elderly anymore.  People my age and younger who passed away from terminal illness.  Just last weekend, I was at a funeral for a young lady 25 years old.  Two days ago, a friend of mine, same age as me, passed away.  Next weekend, heading to 2 funerals.  Life is short and precious.... like sands in an hour glass.  Count your blessing and cherished your loved ones. 

This is for you, dear friend:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcVcmWHvsO0 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcVcmWHvsO0)

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 08, 2019, 12:51:09 PM
Note to self: 

"Hmoob txoj kev HLUB yuav tsum ua ob txog hauj lwm thiaj txhais tau tias HLUB no. HLUB yuav tsum muaj qhov hais (emotion expressed) thiab qhov yus yuav tsum nqis tes ua (action)."

*Anonymous Quotes


Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 18, 2019, 08:25:44 AM
So tired...and I'm going to need a few days to recover.  Thursday had a big event at home which means lots of cooking, etc.  Friday was decorating for the another event.  Saturday was another bigger which means more work.  Sunday was another smaller event at home but still lots of cooking.....

and today, Monday... so tired.  Feel like a zombie today.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on April 22, 2019, 11:41:26 AM
Sister Not of the Same Mother

Koj mus ua neej lawm thov kom koj mus tau lub neej zoo ua rau peb muaj lub chawv vam kev kaj siab nrog koj....
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on May 09, 2019, 02:19:19 PM
Ok, so I get butterflies in my stomach when I come across scene like these... and that warm fuzzy feelings.  May I never lose that fluttering in my heart no matter how old I become.  Love is a beautiful thing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i282C1Yp7_o (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i282C1Yp7_o)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zMPkLSOEKk (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zMPkLSOEKk)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on June 05, 2019, 04:23:27 PM
Mus zoo koj brother..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mtjd5vFzNIM&list=RDgcVcmWHvsO0&index=14 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mtjd5vFzNIM&list=RDgcVcmWHvsO0&index=14)

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on August 07, 2019, 11:12:02 AM
Road trip to the west was great!  Wyoming has open spaces where cows roamed, dry twigs thrived, and hot springs/geysers to your heart's contents.  The Grand Teton, what a majestic mountains...an d trails leading to it w/ the waterfalls, cool breeze, and stunning views..  At the top, you're eye to eye w/ mountain glaciers and see the cool mist rising up.

Denver -surrounds by mountains ranges..oh the mountain ranges and the drive up can either be described as nightmarish or joyfully high.  For me, it was  both - driving so close to the ledge - imagining falling off to the valleys below.  No guard rails, narrow roads, and an adrenaline journey.  The view at the top of the world is spectacular!  Mountains ranges w/ their glaciers peaks close up view, deep valleys below w/ green vegetation, winding river, roads, and dotted houses in the distance.  The air is fresh, crisp, and cool.  Every now and then a critter of some sort - or one that looks like a hedge hog scurried along -probably looking soft petting or a quick meal.  That darn thing looks well fed and I'm guessing much loved from those who ventures to the top.  So this is what the top the world looks like  - where the clouds, land, mist touched...

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on August 15, 2019, 08:36:37 AM
A song by a favorite singer of mines.  For people in this situation, just leave and be free.  You deserve better. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=acz05Y0cqeQ (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=acz05Y0cqeQ)

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 09, 2019, 08:29:07 AM
Sister Not of the Same Mother

Koj mus ua neej lawm thov kom koj mus tau lub neej zoo ua rau peb muaj lub chawv vam kev kaj siab nrog koj....
She came back.  The guy was more interested in her $$ and when he found out she was broke, she came back.   If I have a magic wand, I'll find her a nice man but tus kuv nyiam ces nws tsis nyiam tus nws nyiam ces kuv tsis nyiam.  Txoj kev hlub tiag nrhiav nyuaj kawg li. 

My life is like a busy bee:  Went to a Pre New Year opening, fundraising, and funerals.  Believe it or not, work is where I get to rest heheheheh....

Also, my house is becoming an empty nester..w/ only a child left.  3 of us in a big house.  It's a nice feeling to see your kids grown and becoming more and more independent.  I can breathe a little sigh of relief and have more time for each other, spouse and I.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 17, 2019, 09:36:28 AM
Memory Lane

Some of you weren't even born yet when these songs became popular :D :D :D

This song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHutZXREZ0E (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHutZXREZ0E)

I heard it the first time when I met my first crush at a Hmong New Year.  I was an out of town girl coming to the Hmong New Year and at the time we didn't have hmong band, singers like today.. So at the time we had DJ playing popular mainstream music at the time.  She was very popular.  Anyway, there I was the new girl and the room was a little dark.  Suddenly, this guy came up and grab my hands for a dance.  Of courses, I followed him and this song was on.  He glanced at me intently and I glanced up and really took a good look at him and he was pretty cute ehhehehe... Later on I found out he was a grade up above me. 

After the New year we kept in touch.  One day we hung out and this other song was playing in the background:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s09LuDYX12g&list=RDxuZA6qiJVfU&index=28 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s09LuDYX12g&list=RDxuZA6qiJVfU&index=28)

Yes he was my first crush.  Our lives took a different turn but I wouldn't change a thing.   


Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on September 25, 2019, 09:52:28 AM
My Elementary School

After 30 some plus years I finally step foot into my old elementary school.  Walking through the place is like walking through memories of years ago:  Playing w/ rubber band braid jumping rope, double dutch, playing catch, my first crush happened here.  One morning he was standing by the door to the lunch room and I was running inside, getting breakfast.  For some reason, I stopped when I saw him and we looked at each other, not saying a word.  I left to get breakfast and he got a carton of milk and came slowly to my table walking back and forth drinking it while staring at me  Of course, with each stare my face become hotter and hotter like flames on my cheek.  Of course, I continue w/ breakfast as if I didn't notice anything but inside I was a mess ahhaahhhahhaha hahahahahah.  Those were the innocent days..

Another memory, the ESL class.  We had a vietnamese guy for a teacher and he would demonstrate pronunciation by saying"lower your lips upper teeth...La La, "  Also, he introduces to us to American culture and music.  I learned my Pledge of Allegiance here and those beloved National songs..  He would write the lyrics on a big chart and w/ his guitar we would sing to My Country Tis of Thee, God Bless America, This Land Is Your Land, etc..

All these memories and more came over me as I walked the school ground.  I wondered where my classmates have disappeared to, how they're doing in life, how many have passed on, and how many have returned and walked the school ground as I have.  Everyone has been long one now and only my memories remains and so my memories I take with me.
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on October 09, 2019, 09:46:04 AM
3 Eyes

In Life, one must have 3 eyes.  Two to observes and learn from others and the third to reflect and improve one's self.
-Ying Chang
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 18, 2019, 09:33:23 AM
Busy Life

The last 20 years or so I've always been so busy.  I thought that when I reach this AGE right now I would be less busy..I thought I would be zipping coconut in some exotic island some where ...dipping in an infinity pool overlooking a cliff high above the ocean and mountain views on my left and right and before me the ocean stretch as far as the eyes can see.... and if I close my eyes..I'd hear the breeze calling my name...hahhaha ha..

But no, busy busy busy..  To be honest..I'm not busy for myself.. but for others.

Why do I do it?  I hope one day peb hmoob sib hlub, sib pab, sib khoom ua ib pab ib pawg...  That's why.

But yeah...sometim es I wonder what life would be like if I don't give a care about peb hmoob this or that and just think about me..... maybe I would be zipping that coconut...dipp ing in an infinity pool overlooking a cliff w/ the vastness of the sea stretched before me as far as the eyes can see...

To be honest, I dream of both... and so much more. 
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 23, 2019, 03:07:10 PM
Mus zoo koj dablaug hnub no koj tu mob tsis tso koj tseg.  Mus nrog vajtswv nyob ib hnub peb mam sib ntsib nyob ua kev mus tag ib sim tsis muaj hnub ncaim.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcVcmWHvsO0 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcVcmWHvsO0)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on January 17, 2020, 08:41:39 AM
Mus zoo koj kuv txiv....yuav hlub, yuav nco, yuav tshua, yuav mob siab, yuav khuv xim mus tag ib sim until my last breathe..... 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcVcmWHvsO0 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcVcmWHvsO0)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2545e32pdg (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2545e32pdg)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 02, 2020, 04:35:38 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Syl2sCfi2WY (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Syl2sCfi2WY)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54FhGC2Wkb8 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54FhGC2Wkb8)

Zaj dab neeg no yog ib zag w/ ill fated destiny.  Yes it's just a movie created from someone's imagination in an imaginative world but still......... ...........In a corner of my soul I can relate.

And that is being human.  As you go through life you enjoy the sweetness of life along with the bitterness... 

so you don't take life and love for granted.  I've always been a very stubborn soul.....who believes in needles in haystack.






Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 06, 2020, 11:02:33 AM
Note to self:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NP2qxjtTvnU (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NP2qxjtTvnU)

*It's been awhile since I came across another drama that I really liked... the last one was The General and I...  and in this drama focus on that enduring love, love conquers, pure love, etcc  The one before that Queen Seondok, a tragic love - deep tragedy...... and this one, another enduring love, innocent & pure, 

These three dramas took love to that next level where you don't really see in others...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2YFrGYUq8aA (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2YFrGYUq8aA)

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 11, 2020, 06:14:11 PM
Note to self:

I really like this song but no clue what she's saying... and singer is pretty good...beautif ul too.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36h0-Z6KbL0&list=RD36h0-Z6KbL0&start_radio=1 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36h0-Z6KbL0&list=RD36h0-Z6KbL0&start_radio=1)

I think this must be the original singer:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHNbpbjr0s8 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dHNbpbjr0s8)

Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: DuMa on March 11, 2020, 07:25:26 PM
you listening to old music


try this to make you feel young and grow a bigger butt   :2funny:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tmdd7VAQVq8 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tmdd7VAQVq8)
Title: Re: Life's Milestones
Post by: Dok_Champa on March 20, 2020, 10:29:55 AM
I just got done watching the final two episodes of Three World Three Lives the Pillow Book and I can say I'm feeling a little warm, fuzzy, at the moment.  Yes it's only a drama and fantasy at that...but when you watch a relationship developed from the beginning to the end, see the hardship and triumphs in the name of love..that does something to a person you know ahhaha.. Unless of course one doesn't believe in love or care for those things..

Although this is only a TV show....I always learn something when I watch these sort of shows..  In this drama....yes.. falling in love happens and sometimes happen naturally....t hat's just the first step to love... but the journey to love is hard....but very rewarding at the end.  To have that person to truly love you as you him is beautiful. 

But I say again and again, love is a beautiful thing..truly the one thing makes the world go round and round and round.. that sunshine on a rainy day... that warmth in a cold world.. .and sometime in everyday life..you feel defeated at times..but love makes everything all right..

Yeah..I know my dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin..and all those feel good hormones are working now ..feeling warm, fuzzy...w/ all these love stuffs...so getting a little philosophical. .

In my life..talking about my view of love.. If I was dating, I wouldn't be afraid to go to a man if I am really into him.  I wouldn't be afraid to tell how I feel, truly how i feel once i know certain how I feel.  I'd go to the moon and back if I  have too but he would want to do the same.. feel the same....

That's my standard.  No matter how much I may love a guy or like a guy.. If he doesn't feel as I do... I'm the last woman knocking on his door.. No need to be clingy.. No need to bother each other....

The best kind of Love is finding a person who truly loves you..love you for your flaws, your strength, and everything in between.  Love you for you as you him.  That's beautiful...an d that's the sort of love everyone should strive in life.  When you find that..you are very blessed indeed....

Yes, I'm this sort of fools...