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Title: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Jiggles on October 25, 2017, 06:06:10 AM
How do you know if your s/o really loves you? Some people say their actions should show it. What if your s/o loves you, but they are just lazy so they don't do much for you? For others, their actions may appear to show that they love you, but what if they are just doing it out of obligation as a husband or wife and not really because they have you in their heart?  ???
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: DuMa on October 25, 2017, 07:51:27 AM
If I tell you, it defeats the purpose.

I tend not to eat alone or be like nkausee who goes on a once in a lifetime trip without sharing that moment with her husband.

I just can't do it unless I have to like a business trip but even with that, I am still afraid to be lonely and can not see myself eating a gourmet meal.  It has been a tv dinner nuking it with the provided microwave in the comp hotel room, furnished by my sponsors.

And like I said, the other partner will fail to see that either.  To her, her definition is more universally like the obvious stuff like buying her things like the iPhone x as a surprise. 

To her end, they tend to give up sex in thinking that is what I love and crave for.  To me, sex should not be a reward.  It is a given freebie that comes with the package so show me how you love me beyond that cuz I already have by not being selfish and enjoy the good things about life without her. 

I know it's early and it's rare when I'm this emo on hump Wednesday.
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: theking on October 25, 2017, 09:34:00 AM
How do you know if your s/o really loves you? Some people say their actions should show it. What if your s/o loves you, but they are just lazy so they don't do much for you? For others, their actions may appear to show that they love you, but what if they are just doing it out of obligation as a husband or wife and not really because they have you in their heart?  ???

Simple: if his/her action hurts you and you've brought it up and he/she's still not willing to compromise then that means he/she doesn't love you...So if you're "s/o" is lazy but don't care how that behavior hurts you then it's time to move on as he/she doesn't love you IMO...Living a life of misery ain't much living...
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: ZDN on October 25, 2017, 10:09:27 AM
If I tell you, it defeats the purpose.

I tend not to eat alone or be like nkausee who goes on a once in a lifetime trip without sharing that moment with her husband.

I just can't do it unless I have to like a business trip but even with that, I am still afraid to be lonely and can not see myself eating a gourmet meal.  It has been a tv dinner nuking it with the provided microwave in the comp hotel room, furnished by my sponsors.

And like I said, the other partner will fail to see that either.  To her, her definition is more universally like the obvious stuff like buying her things like the iPhone x as a surprise. 

To her end, they tend to give up sex in thinking that is what I love and crave for.  To me, sex should not be a reward.  It is a given freebie that comes with the package so show me how you love me beyond that cuz I already have by not being selfish and enjoy the good things about life without her. 

I know it's early and it's rare when I'm this emo on hump Wednesday.
because Duma is going around the bushes, what he meant to say is that when it comes to food, he let's you eat first but when it comes to sex, he eats first.  he would rather starve if you're not there...just like when people break up, they lose so much fat weight, because their love is gone. 

one of the best way to know is like that condom commercial...s ee if he runs out to get one.  fact is, we don't always know what they're thinking or doing, we just have to take their words and actions for it :D ;D
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: TICKLEfetish on November 13, 2017, 09:29:01 PM
If someone is putting forth the effort...then it's love.  If they didn't love you, they'd be gone. 


Duties?  Haha...if I wasn't getting what I needed in a relationship, I'd be outta there in a jiffy. 


If you're not happy, don't stick around and let the other person think that you are.  Talk it out.  See what they really want and what you really want.  You might learn some things about each other that you never knew. 

And if you learn that you both want completely different things...move on.  Don't let the other person think that things are fine.  You are doing yourself and your partner a great disservice if you are. 

If I wanted a threesome with another girl and she let me...then dayem, she loves me!!!  If she didn't let me...then she probably loves me even more. 

 :2funny:
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Blongforever on November 13, 2017, 09:39:24 PM
Quote from: Jiggles link=topic=392195.msg4909406#msg4909406 date= :2funny:
How do you know if your s/o really loves you? Some people say their actions should show it. What if your s/o loves you, but they are just lazy so they don't do much for you? For others, their actions may appear to show that they love you, but what if they are just doing it out of obligation as a husband or wife and not really because they have you in their heart?  ???

Giggles...., “lazy”, unmotivated or uncaring in my book doesn’t count as “true love”.  ....But I’ve being told by your all time “village idiot of the world” as nothing more than ”wrongforever” so you have to decide what is right for you
Cuz a little common sense these days is no use.  :2funny: :2funny:  a little delusion driven paranoia gets you to a pulolcy changing drive. I’m glad idiot Trump is in the oval ffice!! 👍🏼👍🏼!  I know you hate that mofo and I do too.
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Believe_N_Me on November 18, 2017, 01:35:20 AM
Read "The 5 Languages of Love".
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Dok_Champa on December 01, 2017, 10:23:02 AM
When the person has your best interest at heart and respects and value your opinion.  When you look like a zombie in the morning and still see you as beautiful..  When your fat is hanging but don't care ahhaah...  When you're a poor cook but still eats your food... When he sees 10 x more beautiful girl than you but only has eyes for you....   some examples..but you got the idea..

Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: DuMa on December 01, 2017, 11:31:38 AM
When the person has your best interest at heart and respects and value your opinion.  When you look like a zombie in the morning and still see you as beautiful..  When your fat is hanging but don't care ahhaah...  When you're a poor cook but still eats your food... When he sees 10 x more beautiful girl than you but only has eyes for you....   some examples..but you got the idea..

Nah, that is not love.  Those are actions being constricted by definition.  If you are married, you play the marriage role. 

I don't cheat because I'm afraid to lose what we have been building together.  Still, even that is not love but a duty to fulfill.  Love is to like.  Do you think I love to be miserable? 

Ain't nobody say I love to wake up and play the marriage role.  Like I said In my previous above, I like to share new experiences with the person I love.  Either I do that or I forget about going places by myself. 

I love to see you happy thus why I play my role and not out of necessity. 
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: duckwingduck on December 01, 2017, 06:51:50 PM
if they always want to please you, they love you.  If they can't imagine seeing you suffering by working hard and they would take your place, they love you.  But if he's lazy watch TV all day and let you do all the back breaking work around the house, he cares about himself.  He's happy he doesn't have to do that and have you to do it. 
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: YAX on December 04, 2017, 02:25:42 PM
How do you know if your s/o really loves you? Some people say their actions should show it. What if your s/o loves you, but they are just lazy so they don't do much for you? For others, their actions may appear to show that they love you, but what if they are just doing it out of obligation as a husband or wife and not really because they have you in their heart?  ???
I've mentioned it before: lock her in the trunk of your car and drive around town for a couple of hours, then open the trunk to let her out.  If she's happy to see you then its unconditional love.  Same should hold true for a guy.  O0
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Giggles_Shyly on December 04, 2017, 09:44:38 PM
Love? I want to say that without seeing or hearing from that person just for a day would make me worry. I worry because I would wonder what that person is doing, if they are eating well, are they keeping themselves safe, wearing warm enough clothes, what they are thinking, etc. Love makes you do crazy things, weird things, obscure out of the ordinary fulfillments that you wouldn't even do for yourself. Your objective would be to put a smile on their face. At the end of it all, it would be an achievement goal verses anything else.

Anywho, love wouldn't make you lazy. I myself think lazy people are individuals who gave up on loving someone and settled for contentment. Love is still there but most just either give up or once they achived it, are no longer want to keep it lite. :D ;D
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: tRouBLe on January 31, 2018, 07:27:20 AM
Love can be shown in several ways , whether by action or words.  You know the person that you’re with, so you should know how they are.  Don’t compare your relationship with others, because relationships are different for different people and you never truly know what happens behind closed doors.
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: captian on February 01, 2018, 02:03:11 PM
Love can be shown in several ways , whether by action or words.  You know the person that you’re with, so you should know how they are.  Don’t compare your relationship with others, because relationships are different for different people and you never truly know what happens behind closed doors.
which kind of love are you willing to show me?
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: thePoster on February 01, 2018, 02:12:52 PM
I'll tell you how you know.


It's pretty easy...


Because all they do is think of you...


Even when the hottest guy or girl comes around they don't even bother to look are care to look..


That's when you know!
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: DuMa on February 01, 2018, 02:16:39 PM
I'll tell you how you know.


It's pretty easy...


Because all they do is think of you...


Even when the hottest guy or girl comes around they don't even bother to look are care to look..


That's when you know!

Well I thought about you, now n forever more

Gotta be something else cuz this ain't love
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: thePoster on February 01, 2018, 02:27:55 PM
You probably never been in love before that's why you ever experience that part of it.
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: ZDN on February 01, 2018, 02:32:18 PM
truth be told, knowing if one loves you is instantaneous. ..when you get hard and she gets wet!  put the two puzzles together and find out!
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: captian on February 07, 2018, 01:57:02 PM
How do you know if your s/o really loves you? Some people say their actions should show it. What if your s/o loves you, but they are just lazy so they don't do much for you? For others, their actions may appear to show that they love you, but what if they are just doing it out of obligation as a husband or wife and not really because they have you in their heart?  ???
loving someone means expressing. did you want me to show you?
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Asharia on March 02, 2018, 01:49:00 PM
How do you know if your s/o really loves you? Some people say their actions should show it. What if your s/o loves you, but they are just lazy so they don't do much for you? For others, their actions may appear to show that they love you, but what if they are just doing it out of obligation as a husband or wife and not really because they have you in their heart?  ???

I think we drive ourselves crazy wondering if someone really loves us. But truly, what business is it of ours to try and figure out the inner workings of someone's heart? How can you try to quantify someone's love by their actions or inactions? It's not something that will wholly satisfy you. And not to digress too much but I also have to ask myself, Well what is love to them because obviously people have different definitions and ways of expressing love. So am I expecting too much? Am I projecting my idea of love on them? I guess the trick is to find someone who feels the same way about love as you do, who also expresses it in a way that you will know without a doubt that it's true love so that you may never have to guess.
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: captian on March 02, 2018, 02:00:26 PM
I think we drive ourselves crazy wondering if someone really loves us. But truly, what business is it of ours to try and figure out the inner workings of someone's heart? How can you try to quantify someone's love by their actions or inactions? It's not something that will wholly satisfy you. And not to digress too much but I also have to ask myself, Well what is love to them because obviously people have different definitions and ways of expressing love. So am I expecting too much? Am I projecting my idea of love on them? I guess the trick is to find someone who feels the same way about love as you do, who also expresses it in a way that you will know without a doubt that it's true love so that you may never have to guess.
that's why you're single. love isn't that complicated. example..
Quote
jill - you love me?

jack - yes. you love me?

jill - yes.

jack - cool.

your example

Quote
jill - you love me?

jack - well, i don't know what's in your heart and the universe and sky doesn't fall on the day of saturn * pi to the 6 power

 :2funny:
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: lilly on July 27, 2018, 05:15:14 PM
what is love?  ...if someone loves you they would try their damnest not to hurt you and try always to show that they love you.
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Tajo on August 28, 2018, 09:43:37 PM
When the person has your best interest at heart and respects and value your opinion.  When you look like a zombie in the morning and still see you as beautiful..  When your fat is hanging but don't care ahhaah...  When you're a poor cook but still eats your food... When he sees 10 x more beautiful girl than you but only has eyes for you....   some examples..but you got the idea..


That's my husband right there. hahahahaha


Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Cookies on August 30, 2018, 10:18:35 PM
truth be told, knowing if one loves you is instantaneous. ..when you get hard and she gets wet!  put the two puzzles together and find out!

My prince, you are still you after all these years.  Funny and always make smile when I read your posts.
Hope all is well. 
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: Cookies on September 01, 2018, 05:33:49 PM
He’s only here for you from 8 to 5.  Lol
Title: Re: How can you know if someone loves you?
Post by: DaCurse on September 01, 2018, 10:02:12 PM
love is a feeling...a mutual one....just think of it this way...why are we closer to some than others..and why do we bond better with some...sometim es we have respect for someone, but we're not very close...love and genuine feelings is something you just know, subconsicously ...you just feel it...and if you have to question...the n you already know the answer...and to make it worse-- maybe it's you, not them....be truly honest to yourself...and you will know what I mean....and yes, even the curse can be wise and intellectual and philosophical. ..hahah