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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Married couples who stay together are admired...

« on: April 13, 2026, 02:42:28 PM »

for some, it is an obligations that they adhere.  for few others, it is an excuse to keep the marriage.  each "stayed" marriage has its own reasons.  it is not an one size fits all. 

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General Relationship / Re: Many Hmong women didn't have a say but if you Hmong women have a choice, would

« on: April 13, 2026, 02:37:38 PM »

if tolerable or acceptable, it can be a promotion mechanism for the marriage (either he or she).   

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: There is no such thing as marrying the love of your life when you're past 45

« on: April 13, 2026, 02:33:57 PM »

hmmm...i think it is never too late for love aka marriage.  marriage is broad.  it can be for love, caring, sharing or the like.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Life After Divorce

« on: October 04, 2021, 11:55:40 AM »

What's the biggest challenge you encounter after a divorce?

biggest challenges are dating is easier and there is no more stress.  you are wiser and maturer to know when to hold and fold...

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Hmong Culture & History / the three days hmong funeral service called?

« on: November 13, 2019, 07:02:50 PM »

anyone knows the first day of the service is called in hmong (normally friday)? second day and third or final day?  thanks in advance.

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Funeral Rituals & Customs / Re: Txij Ncig thiab Tiam Tub Qav Tub Num

« on: August 20, 2019, 06:26:13 PM »

Can these be written on book or papers and then just read them out like the pastors do at church?  I seriously think there is no harm done, except our big mouths.

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Ladies, When a guy hits on you and you're not interested..

« on: September 14, 2017, 02:29:18 AM »

You should be respectful and perhaps excited that they are still interested in hitting on you.  This is evident that you are still a beauty queen.  If I were you, you would neither do nor say anything out of disturbance in this notice.  Soon after the fact, you can kindly inform them that you are not available.  Any "genuine" gentleman would understand and reverence that.

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Marriage & Family Life / rov los txog thaj chaw nos dua ib zaug...

« on: July 17, 2017, 12:56:33 PM »

rov los txog thaj chaw nos dua ib zaug
txoj kev qub peb tau sib tham thiab sib tso dag
cas ua rau kuv nco txog nej sawv daws

thaum kawg nos vam thiab cia siab tia nej sawv daws tseem noj thiab nyob lis qub 
mus hmab tsis dawm tes hlua tsis dawm taw
nyob dawb nyob huv

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Marriage & Family Life / Re: Cheating spouse with another man's child.

« on: July 17, 2017, 12:33:30 PM »

perhaps he purposely wanted his wife to be impregnated by other man or men, especially white, black and the like.  also, there are some men/husbands who just love kids/babies regardless if the kids/babies aren't his. 

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Hmong News / Re: Manitowoc Man Killed by Unknown Suspect

« on: May 12, 2016, 04:24:49 PM »

yeah...definit ely a "hit" job.  the victim must have done some "wrong" to or for someone.  drugs, money, love, etc...

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Hmong News / Re: Man allegedly flees deputies, causes crash in Yuba County

« on: April 29, 2015, 05:37:30 PM »

trying to hurt cop and public, he is going to be in the cell for a very long, long time. 

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Hmong News / Re: Thug Life

« on: March 23, 2015, 06:55:20 PM »

dylan should have called the cop and/or run away to the nearby neighbors for help.  he had a choice not to use the knife.  if you are ready to kill, you must be ready to be killed as well.

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Funeral Rituals & Customs / any "good" hmong culturally centric in the house, especially at funeral

« on: October 16, 2014, 12:11:30 PM »

as a xyom cuab,  i know the "very" basic to thank those who pab nyiaj tsav ntuj.  however, i really like to learn the very complex "thank you" verse.  the elders say "hais lus pab".  please share your version.  i really like to know and hear.  thanks in advance...

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Funeral Rituals & Customs / Re: hauv qhua tab & faib hauv qhua su ua tsaug

« on: March 25, 2013, 03:27:02 PM »

AppleBrook,

They are two types of Hauv Qhua (Txooj & Hlub), both mean the same thing; paying respect to the deceased but have different requirements.  What I mention is for the hauv qhua tab or sometimes refer to it as hauv qhua hlub.  Refer to my 2nd version of the post for the requirements (I have never included a spoon though) and yes you have to pack all of those on your own.  I have not covered the hauv qhua txooj part because that'll take too long and most people end up asking someone who knows a whole lot more for that representation; plus it requires a lot more money.

as chidorix0x posted, it differs from regions to regions but fundamentally, no one will say anything if you did what I did in my post.

Good luck and report back.

THANKS!  i will need it this saturday.  i am planning to do the whole things (both parts) by myself.  i am at the age i need to learn and know how to do.  again, thx much!

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Funeral Rituals & Customs / Re: hauv qhua tab & faib hauv qhua su ua tsaug

« on: March 25, 2013, 10:24:37 AM »

jetter/others,

i am will be one soon this sat (to call to "mus hlub or ua hau qhua").  i like what  said here and it helps me alot.  i have a question. what is the difference between hau qhua tab from hauv qhua?  are we supposed to pack rice, chicken heart and spoon along with the two chickens in the basket?  thanks.