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Hmong Culture & History / Hmong phrase

« on: May 26, 2026, 11:01:15 PM »

What does kua muag iab kua dlaw mean?

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Funeral Rituals & Customs / Joss paper

« on: May 16, 2026, 11:24:44 PM »

Hello,

My sister just passed and I wanted to do a heart using the joss paper. Can I make that at home or I can’t? Because my mother in law said we can’t do that due to bad luck and dab qua. Can someone educate me on this?

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Wedding Rituals & Customs / hmong wedding

« on: February 24, 2026, 04:40:14 PM »

Has anyone been or done a hmong wedding without the dowry and just dinner only?

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Hmong Culture & History / Burning joss paper at deceased grave

« on: November 12, 2022, 05:55:50 PM »

Hi all,

I would like to understand why people burn joss paper at the deceased grave without letting you know.

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The Single & Dating Scenes / Friends of Benefit

« on: May 24, 2019, 01:11:45 PM »

My sister in law is 30 and single, having trouble finding a guy, and she never dated anyone, but she keep talking to this guy who she met online for few months now, who only wanted to be friend of benefit, I been telling her to leave him and she keep saying they are just friends on her terms. What do you guys think about Friends of Benefit?

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General Relationship / Re: What do you guys think?

« on: March 21, 2018, 04:25:11 PM »

Just keep doing what you've been doing.  Since you're her daughter, you need to be the voice of reasons even if she doesn't listen to you.  You never know, maybe...one of these days it might sink in and prevent her from having her way.  Not that she's listening to you but having people away from her corner will make her think a little bit before putting her ideas into actions.

Thanks and hopefully she will change but i doubt she will ever change of who she is. all of us kids are pushing her away even my dad because he can't stand her complaining and nagging. Also my brother moving out so it easier for him once he married.

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General Relationship / Re: What do you guys think?

« on: March 21, 2018, 03:23:30 PM »

Thanks everyone! I'm trying my best!

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General Relationship / Re: What do you guys think?

« on: March 21, 2018, 12:12:32 PM »

maybe, your mom wants him with a white girl too. 

LOL..he dated one but it didn't work out, my mom wanted a girl who is a good girl who listen to the mother in law rules etc, my other brothers already not talking to her and this last one going to do the samething if she doesn't stop. then she going to play the pity card to everyone. 

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General Relationship / Re: What do you guys think?

« on: March 21, 2018, 10:57:41 AM »

  i find it funny, right in the middle of something you're totally serious about and your man wants to have sex (*giving him the hi-5!*).

ok, you know your mom best...tell her to chillax.  i would also tell my brother to maybe, take the gf and mom out for dinner, maybe a proper introduction may change her mind.

LOL..that all he can think about when i was being serious, because my brother last girlfriend didn't last long bc my mom didn't like her at all. I told her so many time to relax but she always wanted her way or the highway and she still not happy with me marry a mekas guy but we both are happy with each other. Anyways, we did that with his last girlfriend and it turn out to be bad, so we won't be doing that again.

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General Relationship / What do you guys think?

« on: March 21, 2018, 10:37:15 AM »

Since i been married, my mom constantly calling me to tell my brother who is a single a guy that is dating a girl who been divorced with one child, my mom heard rumors from the aunts saying she a bad girl, lazy, not good, etc, she then go saying that there plenty of fish out there why he choose the someone stinky ass fish, which i have enough of her complaining i told her that it my brother choice and it his life she doesn't need to choose the girl for him, she should be happy for him that he finally find someone that he happy with. Also she need to stop listening to the rumors. My husband told to me stay away, focus on us making babies instead LOL ,  and who care what my mom thinks because she soo judgement that she doesn't get along with anyone beside her family. What will you guys do if you were in my shoe?

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Computer & Technology / Re: sprint plans

« on: July 18, 2012, 05:16:06 PM »

okay thanks! i'm planning to go this weekend..but how much do you paid for family plan with three phones unlimited?

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Computer & Technology / sprint plans

« on: July 09, 2012, 11:21:30 AM »

Hi,

I planning on getting new family plan on sprint, and i wanted to know if we purchase data for the family, will there be limit usage of data or it is unlimited?

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Books & Magazines / Re: Fifty Shades of Grey

« on: June 22, 2012, 02:43:21 PM »

The books is very good!  I take about four days to finish reading it.  ...there will be a movie out on this one pretty soon! can't wait.

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Hmong Stories / Re: Hmong ghost stories

« on: June 07, 2010, 03:04:07 PM »

I guess I will finally share one after all 100 pages read, not even done yet.

Well, my BIL knew of a friend who lost his 1 year old due to Luekimia. The mom went into a trance for a long time and didn't want to bury the child. She would hold all his toys and carry it around for the longest time. Well, when they finally did his funeral, the morning my BIL and the dad along with some friends went early to set up, and there was rice all over the funeral home. They went to look into the bucket of rice and there was only about 1/4 of the way of rice left, so the guys decided to dump the rice out of the bin, since there was not much left, but 3 of the guys could not lift it, once they got it lifted and poured the rice out, it kept pouring like the bin was still full.

Once the funeral was over, they did a shaman jingle bell and the baby told the mom that he was very happy that his mom had loved him so much. He said he wanted his little orange toy that his mom keeps carrying around because she missed him. He loves her very much but would like that toy, so they had to burn it for him. He also said the reason he had to leave was because he was never meant to be her son. He came in the form of a baby spirit and waiting to be born in their family, but his real parents were his Dad's older brother and wife. But when he came to be born, his supposed to be parents had just gotten separated and divorced before he was born, so he didn't know where to go, so he went into his mom instead. So after he was born, little angels came back to take him to be reborn to his new proper parents, of which has no relations to their family. He also said, he was mad that they withheld his funeral too long, because he needed to be reborn to his new parents. But they wouldn't do his funeral and tso plis. (Pardon my hmong spelling). So he finally said good by and never came back.


So now I'm thinking just....hmmm.. ..is that why some babies are late and don't come at the time of their due dates? Because they haven't tso plis yet? lol I dunno

so what is his name bc i have a cousin who baby pass away from the same illness..