Loving someone is not enough to make them ready

[Believe_N_Me]

Only they can do the work on them self.

Timing is about being in the right frame of mind. Forcing someone when they're not on the same emotional vibration will only create toxicity.

[DuMa]

Results may varies and everyone has a story

It used to be mid 20's is when people getting married and start popping babies thereafter so these people are timing themselves to hit a goal at a certain age.  Some even focus on the big 30 for women as they are racing to pop babies as science has said that complication of birth is anything beyond the 30+ mark. 

Then we get gen z, the group that is built differently.  Gen Y, they rather not get marry or popping kids and they even have a financial acronym like DINK, duel income no kids or the Fire movement - Financial independent retire early and to get there, no kids are a given because children is a money constraint that goes against their narrative.   

As for myself, I'm just a victim of circumstances.  I don't plan anything when it comes to relationship.  To get marry is easy but what to do after you get marry?  If you can't figure this out then it is best not to get marry. 

[Believe_N_Me]

Marriage is a partnership. What do you mean by what do you do afterwards?

lol

[DuMa]

Marriage is a partnership. What do you mean by what do you do afterwards?

lol

I mean getting married is an easy process.  Just get a witness and go to the courthouse and pay a fee and you are done.  Now what do people do after they get married?  Immature people would not know.   

It's like the same saying....You can go anywhere in this world.  Just pay a flight fee and the plane will get you there.  Once there, what am I suppose to do? 

So the answer is proper preparation.  With marriage, you have to have a pre marital talk.  If 2 become one then you both have to figure out what role you guys are going to play after getting married.  There is a big list with things or goals to be made.  You do this and I'll do this. 

With flying to another country, lots of research so you have an idea to what you are going to do once you are in a foreign place. 

It's that easy right?  On paper it is. 

[Believe_N_Me]

I appreciate a man who wants to better himself and show up right. Even though it's an ego thing that he wants to do it all by himself, I still think it's cute. Once we're together, I'll have the rest of our lives to help him build a life.

Men actually want to do things for a woman and her role is to show appreciation.

Stop rescuing these men and playing mother to them. lol

Let them do it on their own so that they can feel accomplished. They're just asking you to believe in them. Cheer them on and tell them how proud you are when they reach their goal.

[JonniJacko]

I appreciate a man who wants to better himself and show up right. Even though it's an ego thing that he wants to do it all by himself, I still think it's cute. Once we're together, I'll have the rest of our lives to help him build a life.

Men actually want to do things for a woman and her role is to show appreciation.

Stop rescuing these men and playing mother to them. lol

Let them do it on their own so that they can feel accomplished. They're just asking you to believe in them. Cheer them on and tell them how proud you are when they reach their goal.

Men actually just want to be accepted for who they are, and that the woman knows he appreciates her, without having to tell her every hour of the day. LOL

[Believe_N_Me]

One thing I will say is that there is no such thing as bad timing for a secure person.

Secure people see obstacles as opportunities to grow together and strengthen the bond.