What exactly is compatibility in love and marriage?

[Believe_N_Me]

Is it sharing the same core values?
Having the same money management style?
Belief and practice the same religion?
Similar child-rearing methods?
The ability to work on projects harmoniously?

The list could go on. But here is where true compatibility exists.

The comfort level you have with each other.

[JonniJacko]

Is it sharing the same core values?
Having the same money management style?
Belief and practice the same religion?
Similar child-rearing methods?
The ability to work on projects harmoniously?

The list could go on. But here is where true compatibility exists.

The comfort level you have with each other.

yeah, just like a close friend, you are comfortable asking, talking, venting about anything.....a nytime...they will always be glad to make time for you, talk to you, listen...in fact, they will be glad...and will often say something like, I was just thinking about you, then you call..truth is, we constantly think about our closest allies throughout the day....hahah when someone is meant to be your people, everything just fits and falls naturally. You just know what's on their mind....when they're bothered, they're not in the mood, they're off, maybe high or drunk off from something..lol

Its sad but people these days only look for what others can do or provide for them...So maybe people deserve to be lonely and sad...a true bond, is  when two people say, they will not leave each other behind.....bec ause life is a war, not a gift....freedo m isn't free, it is earned....thro ugh supporting each other, encouraging, and being there for each other...

but people just want everything for free or work little for it...lol

[Prude]

If some of those things conflict,
you aren't ever going to be comfortable
with each other. Being comfortable doesn't mean
cuddling in bed only.

[Believe_N_Me]

yeah, just like a close friend, you are comfortable asking, talking, venting about anything.....a nytime...they will always be glad to make time for you, talk to you, listen...in fact, they will be glad...and will often say something like, I was just thinking about you, then you call..truth is, we constantly think about our closest allies throughout the day....hahah when someone is meant to be your people, everything just fits and falls naturally. You just know what's on their mind....when they're bothered, they're not in the mood, they're off, maybe high or drunk off from something..lol

Its sad but people these days only look for what others can do or provide for them...So maybe people deserve to be lonely and sad...a true bond, is  when two people say, they will not leave each other behind.....bec ause life is a war, not a gift....freedo m isn't free, it is earned....thro ugh supporting each other, encouraging, and being there for each other...

but people just want everything for free or work little for it...lol

Yep. That's the difference between having acquaintances vs. a true friend.

[JonniJacko]

Yep. That's the difference between having acquaintances vs. a true friend.

yeah even our closest allies are not going to align with everything as us...in the automotive field, there's no such thing as a perfect wheel alignment...LO L The mechanic will just adjust the wheels as closely to specs as possible, for a smooth and comfortable ride....hahah

If there's such thing as a perfect wheel alignment- cars will be flying instead...LMAO

[Believe_N_Me]

If some of those things conflict,
you aren't ever going to be comfortable
with each other. Being comfortable doesn't mean
cuddling in bed only.

That's why a narcissistic/avoidant man keeps two types of women. He lives with the one that he is most comfortable with, while cuddling with the ones whom he does not live with. Notice how the latter is plural?